How older women react when they see me with younger GF

[Anonymous]

Lol...they don't think you're more attractive. They think you're safely in the friend zone and don't need to worry about you taking walks in the park the wrong way

[Anonymous]

Wow this post really brought out the "over the hill" ladies. It's okay ladies you'll find someone for you someday 🤣😂🤣

[Anonymous]

When I see an old man with a young woman I alway presume it’s for money and she can’t support herself. No jealously. More like pitty for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I see an old man with a young woman I alway presume it’s for money and she can’t support herself. No jealously. More like pitty for her.

I don’t think this at all. Young women can fairly easily find a same-aged guy to cohabitate with and share bills, and really beautiful women can find a successful same-aged guy to share bills with. It’s only the odd ones who skip peers and go to old fogies. Maybe it was different when you were my age but that’s what I observe as someone who is a peer of OP’s girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow this post really brought out the "over the hill" ladies. It's okay ladies you'll find someone for you someday 🤣😂🤣

Because you made this whole scenario up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow this post really brought out the "over the hill" ladies. It's okay ladies you'll find someone for you someday 🤣😂🤣

Because you made this whole scenario up.

Please point to where in my comment there is a "scenario." Not the sharpest tool in the shed are we? 🤣

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow this post really brought out the "over the hill" ladies. It's okay ladies you'll find someone for you someday 🤣😂🤣

I don’t get it. What’s your basis for thinking women replying in this thread are old? I’m mid 30s. Most women on DCUM are under 44 if I understand the analytics correctly. Seems more like wishcasting to me.

[Anonymous]

OMG you are dating a single mom who needs your money and bragging about it? This is taking a turn for the pathetic. Bye, Grampa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I see an old man with a young woman I alway presume it’s for money and she can’t support herself. No jealously. More like pitty for her.

I don’t think this at all. Young women can fairly easily find a same-aged guy to cohabitate with and share bills, and really beautiful women can find a successful same-aged guy to share bills with. It’s only the odd ones who skip peers and go to old fogies. Maybe it was different when you were my age but that’s what I observe as someone who is a peer of OP’s girlfriend.

Sometimes you just fall in love with someone who is older and you happen to be younger. You realize the person has a lot of great qualities, etc…and over time feelings develop. It happens. Not always a sign something is wrong with 2 people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I see an old man with a young woman I alway presume it’s for money and she can’t support herself. No jealously. More like pitty for her.

I don’t think this at all. Young women can fairly easily find a same-aged guy to cohabitate with and share bills, and really beautiful women can find a successful same-aged guy to share bills with. It’s only the odd ones who skip peers and go to old fogies. Maybe it was different when you were my age but that’s what I observe as someone who is a peer of OP’s girlfriend.

Sometimes you just fall in love with someone who is older and you happen to be younger. You realize the person has a lot of great qualities, etc…and over time feelings develop. It happens. Not always a sign something is wrong with 2 people.

I mean maybe but my personal experience is that normal well-adjusted girls only consider dating peers, and for the few women I’ve known over the years to stomach a 10+ year age gap, well, let’s just say there were red flags about them. There are exceptions to scarf rule. I just don’t know any personally for this rule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I'm a few years over 50. GF is more than 20 years younger.

Based on conversations I've had with women my own age and based on comments here on DCUM, I figured I'd encounter a lot of hostility or negativity when older women saw me with GF. That hasn't happened much. I'm sure some older women are just being polite and really think I'm a disgusting lech.

But...

I've noticed a lot of older women now smile at me, flirt with me, and even ask me out on "not a date" dates. They constantly tell me they want to go out for walks in the park or meals or coffee. It's pretty obvious that they think I'm more attractive because of GF. I'm talking both about women I know pretty well and about women I don't know but meet briefly in public places.

GF is not a bimbo or a sugar baby. She's smart, accomplished and interesting. She's also very attractive. I guess other women assume that I must have something going for me if I can get a woman like GF.

For the first month or so I was with GF, she became angry when I brought up her age. She said I was being condescending when I talked about the age gap. She said she was attracted to me, she knew what she wanted, and I should respect her. She's a serious person. I think this comes across when we are out in public.

Nobody cares.

[Anonymous]

Older woman here.
I knew a woman who married a man with about the same spring-fall age divide.
When he started to get older and sicker, well into his 60s and beyond, she was PISSED off and angry.
She wasn't crazy about retiring into the boonies 2 hours upstate NY for him. She still has at least a decade of active professional life in front of her.

But he wasn't crazy about having another kid (20 year age difference between his first child from first marriage). I am friends with that first child which is how I can see this panning out.

Lucky OP, he got a young nurse. Unlucky her, she's with an old man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Now that I'm in my 40s, this worries me and I wish there was someway I could stop menopause from happening. From an intellectual standpoint, I think he may have been happier with someone his own age. Also, even with ED medication, older men can't completely satisfy younger women.

So he needs to take Viagra but you worry that you need to delay menopause? Please say I’m misreading this.

+1

Yikes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I see an old man with a young woman I alway presume it’s for money and she can’t support herself. No jealously. More like pitty for her.

I don’t think this at all. Young women can fairly easily find a same-aged guy to cohabitate with and share bills, and really beautiful women can find a successful same-aged guy to share bills with. It’s only the odd ones who skip peers and go to old fogies. Maybe it was different when you were my age but that’s what I observe as someone who is a peer of OP’s girlfriend.

I was going to echo this exactly. I’m on the younger side (about to turn 30) so am speaking about what I witnessed in my early to mid 20s. PP is right - I’m not saying there are zero exceptions to this rule, but anyone I ever knew of who dated a much older man at that stage either had major daddy/mommy/family issues, or was just an odd bird. Not the type to have many friends, always been a little off, struggles socially.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow this post really brought out the "over the hill" ladies. It's okay ladies you'll find someone for you someday 🤣😂🤣

I don’t get it. What’s your basis for thinking women replying in this thread are old? I’m mid 30s. Most women on DCUM are under 44 if I understand the analytics correctly. Seems more like wishcasting to me.

There is a big range of "under 44" that is still over the hill honey