How older women react when they see me with younger GF

[Anonymous]

My thought when there's a big age gap is that the older partner is only as mature as the younger one.

[Anonymous]

You sure got all the DCUM harpy hostility I knew you would get when I read your post. And I've only read the first page. I'm ten years older than you dating 20 years younger but I can't say I really notice anyone's reactions to us when we are out. And we go out a lot. I guess I just don't pay that much attention. It's never been negative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My thought when there's a big age gap is that the older partner is only as mature as the younger one.

Yes, that is a good way of putting it.

[Anonymous]

“Did a 13 year old write this?”

+ a million for the win!

[Anonymous]

She sounds fat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sure got all the DCUM harpy hostility I knew you would get when I read your post. And I've only read the first page. I'm ten years older than you dating 20 years younger but I can't say I really notice anyone's reactions to us when we are out. And we go out a lot. I guess I just don't pay that much attention. It's never been negative.

Why aren’t they asking you for walks and coffee

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My thought when there's a big age gap is that the older partner is only as mature as the younger one.

This. They are laughing at you.

[Anonymous]

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I'm a few years over 50. GF is more than 20 years younger.

Based on conversations I've had with women my own age and based on comments here on DCUM, I figured I'd encounter a lot of hostility or negativity when older women saw me with GF. That hasn't happened much. I'm sure some older women are just being polite and really think I'm a disgusting lech.

But...

I've noticed a lot of older women now smile at me, flirt with me, and even ask me out on "not a date" dates. They constantly tell me they want to go out for walks in the park or meals or coffee. It's pretty obvious that they think I'm more attractive because of GF. I'm talking both about women I know pretty well and about women I don't know but meet briefly in public places.

GF is not a bimbo or a sugar baby. She's smart, accomplished and interesting. She's also very attractive. I guess other women assume that I must have something going for me if I can get a woman like GF.

For the first month or so I was with GF, she became angry when I brought up her age. She said I was being condescending when I talked about the age gap. She said she was attracted to me, she knew what she wanted, and I should respect her. She's a serious person. I think this comes across when we are out in public.

Am a woman, and I can absolutely promise you that is NOT the thought that people have. People see a middle aged man with a young 20’s girl and absolutely, 100% assume father / daughter. It doesn’t matter if you LOOK like her; I don’t look like my middle aged dad either and neither do any of my friends I can think of. These women think it’s sweet you’re spending time with your daughter.

And if they were to find out what’s going on, I PROMISE you, “oh wow, dating someone half his age? Hemust be such a CATCH!” is not the mindset. I assume there is a fundamental flaw or shortcoming in your personality…which is being proven here by your incessant posting about this and refusal to see that the simplest explanation is the most obvious one.

So much anger.

I love that when some say things like that, the incel responses never actually address the content. They always just try to insult the poster with the same four "insults": overly-emotional ("histrionic" is my favorite), fat, bad mother, or single.

[Anonymous]

What I see from your OP and replies is a person who is very high on himself. And I think you interpret whatever reactions you get in life in the most flattering way for yourself. A bit sad, but not uncommon. I think most people would notice your ego pretty quickly.

I’m also in my 50s. Happily married, so wouldn’t be asking you for “walks” ( 🙄), but would probably think one of the PPs is correct - you have $, she’s looking to be taken care of, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My thought when there's a big age gap is that the older partner is only as mature as the younger one.

This. They are laughing at you.

Exactly. And about 100% of the time the older one hasn't matured yet! They are these big insecure man babies.

[Anonymous]

Elon, is that you?

[Anonymous]

I'd feel bad for you. She's going to want a baby and your 50. Seen it time and time again. Brutal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Elon, is that you?

Elon can do what he wants and you know it. OP wishes he were Elon and so do you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd feel bad for you. She's going to want a baby and your 50. Seen it time and time again. Brutal.

How would that stop them?

[Anonymous]

I can see why you need to date down, OP.

So immature.