How older women react when they see me with younger GF

[Anonymous]

OP does not have a girlfriend 20 years younger or one at all. It’s just a troll.

[Anonymous]

Older women CONSTANTLY ask you to go for walks in the park? What on earth!?

[Anonymous]

OP, stop pretending you have anything in common with those of us who actually do date younger.

[Anonymous]

nobody really cares IRL unless is an obvious big age difference - 20 years is a lot but two people can still look good together as a couple. Once you start to look like a grandfather with his granddaughter though, you have gone too far for most people to not be shocked.

[Anonymous]

I was that GF. Now I'm his wife. No one with decent manners is going to criticize you to your face, OP. All the "pervert lecher" and "robbing the cradle" talk is going on behind your back. Also, yes, women are going to simultaneously claim to despise you and wonder what you're giving this young lady that she's foregoing younger men for you. Especially if you're not that rich, like my husband was at the time.

The only people who ever talked about this in front of us were/are my BILs, my husband's brothers. But we're all good friends, so it's fine they're making jokes about it. And 20 years on, we're all complaining about our teenagers and helping our elderly parents and talking wealth management. We all have the same problems.

Just live your life, OP, and try not to troll on the web.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was that GF. Now I'm his wife. No one with decent manners is going to criticize you to your face, OP. All the "pervert lecher" and "robbing the cradle" talk is going on behind your back. Also, yes, women are going to simultaneously claim to despise you and wonder what you're giving this young lady that she's foregoing younger men for you. Especially if you're not that rich, like my husband was at the time.

The only people who ever talked about this in front of us were/are my BILs, my husband's brothers. But we're all good friends, so it's fine they're making jokes about it. And 20 years on, we're all complaining about our teenagers and helping our elderly parents and talking wealth management. We all have the same problems.

Just live your life, OP, and try not to troll on the web.

So you became the nurse.

[Anonymous]

If you are mid-fifties and single, I am most likely going to feel sad for you. At that age, you should be in the heart of family life. If you are dating, you are either divorced, which is sad for you and your kids, widowed, which is even sadder, or you never married and missed out on a loving family life. I certainly hope you are having fun in your new relationship, but I still feel bad for you.

[Anonymous]

OP here. This was my reaction to another thread in which many women were expressing hostility to older men who date younger women.

Nobody thinks I am her father. We look nothing alike.

By "constantly" I mean 2-3 times per week. Many women my age do like going for walks, going out for coffee, and going out for meals. The invitations have gone way up in the last few months.

I don't think the negative reactions on DCUM are anywhere close to universal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This was my reaction to another thread in which many women were expressing hostility to older men who date younger women.

Nobody thinks I am her father. We look nothing alike.

By "constantly" I mean 2-3 times per week. Many women my age do like going for walks, going out for coffee, and going out for meals. The invitations have gone way up in the last few months.

I don't think the negative reactions on DCUM are anywhere close to universal.

Completely irrelevant. I absolutely guarantee they think she is your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This was my reaction to another thread in which many women were expressing hostility to older men who date younger women.

Nobody thinks I am her father. We look nothing alike.

By "constantly" I mean 2-3 times per week. Many women my age do like going for walks, going out for coffee, and going out for meals. The invitations have gone way up in the last few months.

I don't think the negative reactions on DCUM are anywhere close to universal.

I don't get it. I don't think your girlfriend is into this behavior from you or them. Are you using her to get older women interested? I don't know who these women are. I've never looked at a guy and thought oh wow now he's finally available to me now that he has a younger person interested in him. I would think, I won't measure up looks wise and this is what he's into and I would think oh he's taken. If women care and start flirting, they are not the women you want around. And I don't understand why you don't care about how your girlfriend thinks about this.

[Anonymous]

They think she is your daughter and that you are a caring dad who would make a good guy to date, lol.

[Anonymous]

And, a lot of dads don't look exactly like their daughters, the age difference alone makes people assume she is your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And, a lot of dads don't look exactly like their daughters, the age difference alone makes people assume she is your daughter.

I look nothing like my dad and my mixed race kids are almost never assumed to be mine so yeah in this situation I would assume the dad no matter how they looked unless I saw them literally kiss on the mouth.

[Anonymous]

They probably assume it’s daughter home from college

[Anonymous]

Wow I sure am jealous, you seem like such a catch! /s