Problems with my four year old. I need a super nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you not have a pediatrician? You say he's in preschool - are there not teachers there? Instead of asking strangers on the internet for advice on how to parent your child through what sounds like a difficult series of emotional patterns and behaviors, consult a professional who knows him personally. You can't outsource stuff like this and there is no one-size fits all approach. Any worthwhile pediatrician will work with you on behavioral issues - it is part of development and health - or refer you to someone, if necessary. Also words like "good" or "bad kid" are definitely not going to help anyone.

Teacher here of 15 years- I am SO sick of parents asking for help how to raise children. What happens in your home is because of the environment you’ve created- it’s on you. I’m with your child 7 hours a day and have figured out how to take control of the situation and manage a room full of children in a warm/loving yet stern way. But if you can’t handle your own child, that’s on you so please stop encouraging the OP to put even more on teachers plates. Half the time, you waste our time and don’t implement what we suggest and the behaviors begin to manifest into the classroom and then your child ends up kicking me when I’m 35 weeks pregnant (yes this has happened). We are a child’s teacher, therapist, caretaker (yes I have given children snacks because parents don’t give them enough food) but I’m not also going to be their parents therapist for $60,000 a year. Do your homework, read books and follow through and stop outsourcing help. Bringing a super nanny in isn’t going to change the relationship you’ve established with your child.

OP-all I have to say is remove all TV’s from your house and explain to the child why this is happening. Let your child go outdoors to play instead and spend quality time (off your phone) and play with him. If he kicks say that really hurt mom, we do not kick, playtime is over and take away something your child loves. But basically you have to be present. Get off your phones, screens etc and get to know one another. That’s my advice- now it’s up to you to make it happen.

[Anonymous]

Watch SuperNanny, it's free, simple, basic and gets to the main points.
We love her!

[Anonymous]

Teach good manners. Be an example.

He might have odd. Defiant disorder. If you think it's not normal then check with a specialist

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you not have a pediatrician? You say he's in preschool - are there not teachers there? Instead of asking strangers on the internet for advice on how to parent your child through what sounds like a difficult series of emotional patterns and behaviors, consult a professional who knows him personally. You can't outsource stuff like this and there is no one-size fits all approach. Any worthwhile pediatrician will work with you on behavioral issues - it is part of development and health - or refer you to someone, if necessary. Also words like "good" or "bad kid" are definitely not going to help anyone.

Teacher here of 15 years- I am SO sick of parents asking for help how to raise children. What happens in your home is because of the environment you’ve created- it’s on you. I’m with your child 7 hours a day and have figured out how to take control of the situation and manage a room full of children in a warm/loving yet stern way. But if you can’t handle your own child, that’s on you so please stop encouraging the OP to put even more on teachers plates. Half the time, you waste our time and don’t implement what we suggest and the behaviors begin to manifest into the classroom and then your child ends up kicking me when I’m 35 weeks pregnant (yes this has happened). We are a child’s teacher, therapist, caretaker (yes I have given children snacks because parents don’t give them enough food) but I’m not also going to be their parents therapist for $60,000 a year. Do your homework, read books and follow through and stop outsourcing help. Bringing a super nanny in isn’t going to change the relationship you’ve established with your child.

OP-all I have to say is remove all TV’s from your house and explain to the child why this is happening. Let your child go outdoors to play instead and spend quality time (off your phone) and play with him. If he kicks say that really hurt mom, we do not kick, playtime is over and take away something your child loves. But basically you have to be present. Get off your phones, screens etc and get to know one another. That’s my advice- now it’s up to you to make it happen.

Nobody was suggesting the teacher raise the kid for OP. Asking a professional who knows the child for more insight - eg why the kid is "good" at school - is a far more reasonable approach than soliciting strangers on the internet for uninformed advice or, as you say, outsourcing to some mythical super nanny. Agree OP sounds like she wants to outsource the work of parenting, which is the problem. But safer and better for the kid for OP to start by getting more info from a teacher than a DCUM thread. If that sounds like such a terrible imposition to you, maybe you should do some introspecting about burn out and consider a career change. (XOXOX pediatric RN)

[Anonymous]

OP enabled the bad behavior. It's not the teacher's job to raise theur kid's 24/7. It STARTS AT HOME.
The parents are the first teachers in a child's life. Start teaching good manners and independence. Praise good behavior. Teaching good manners is so important. That is SO BASIC. Everyone knows what it means.

Even if teachers told the parents about their kid's misbehaving nothing is done.

If is a medical disorder then uts the parents FAULT for not taking their own child to a specialist.

I know many stupid, ignorant parents against taking their child to a behavioralist specialist because are afraid of medications. You want your kid to focus or NOT?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op again. So give me an example. If he hits me or kicks me do I give him a time out? (For us time out means going in your room) sometimes he doesn’t care ither times he hangs on the door. Feel like we’ve tried this so many times and the behavior didn’t change. What is something I do in the moment?

Psychologist here- highly recommend looking into parent child interaction therapy- will learn and practice exactly how to respond

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel totally out of control with my four year old. He turned four in September and doesn’t listen to me. The worst part of the day is getting dressed. He refuses. I have to get him dressed like a baby and he starts kicking me. He has been kicking me a lot lately. He’s been going into the fridge and grabbing an entire package of cheese or something as I’m making dinner. I say no and he thinks it’s a joke and runs away. Never listens. Getting him to take a bath has been impossible. Also kicks and screams. I got a reward chart thing but he’s not motivated by the stickers or the reward at the end of the month. I feel like his behavior isn’t normal and that he’s going to be the “bad” kid in class. (At preschool teacher says he’s good) if I could pay someone to come help me deal with him I would- someone who could tell me what to do. But I don’t know if anyone like that exists aside from the super nanny tv show

He's a brat and this is 100% on you. Discipline starts from the get go. A nanny will do no good if you continue to let him do whatever he wants. You need some parenting classes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you not have a pediatrician? You say he's in preschool - are there not teachers there? Instead of asking strangers on the internet for advice on how to parent your child through what sounds like a difficult series of emotional patterns and behaviors, consult a professional who knows him personally. You can't outsource stuff like this and there is no one-size fits all approach. Any worthwhile pediatrician will work with you on behavioral issues - it is part of development and health - or refer you to someone, if necessary. Also words like "good" or "bad kid" are definitely not going to help anyone.

Teacher here of 15 years- I am SO sick of parents asking for help how to raise children. What happens in your home is because of the environment you’ve created- it’s on you. I’m with your child 7 hours a day and have figured out how to take control of the situation and manage a room full of children in a warm/loving yet stern way. But if you can’t handle your own child, that’s on you so please stop encouraging the OP to put even more on teachers plates. Half the time, you waste our time and don’t implement what we suggest and the behaviors begin to manifest into the classroom and then your child ends up kicking me when I’m 35 weeks pregnant (yes this has happened). We are a child’s teacher, therapist, caretaker (yes I have given children snacks because parents don’t give them enough food) but I’m not also going to be their parents therapist for $60,000 a year. Do your homework, read books and follow through and stop outsourcing help. Bringing a super nanny in isn’t going to change the relationship you’ve established with your child.

OP-all I have to say is remove all TV’s from your house and explain to the child why this is happening. Let your child go outdoors to play instead and spend quality time (off your phone) and play with him. If he kicks say that really hurt mom, we do not kick, playtime is over and take away something your child loves. But basically you have to be present. Get off your phones, screens etc and get to know one another. That’s my advice- now it’s up to you to make it happen.

Perhaps the real issue here, the issue completely failed to even see, is the very real possibility of the child’s gender dissatisfaction.

[Anonymous]

Seems like simply a kid with too much energy. Let him run 10 hours a day and see if he still has the energy to misbehave. It's exhausting, but normal for that age to have that much energy. He puts it into mischief.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you not have a pediatrician? You say he's in preschool - are there not teachers there? Instead of asking strangers on the internet for advice on how to parent your child through what sounds like a difficult series of emotional patterns and behaviors, consult a professional who knows him personally. You can't outsource stuff like this and there is no one-size fits all approach. Any worthwhile pediatrician will work with you on behavioral issues - it is part of development and health - or refer you to someone, if necessary. Also words like "good" or "bad kid" are definitely not going to help anyone.

Teacher here of 15 years- I am SO sick of parents asking for help how to raise children. What happens in your home is because of the environment you’ve created- it’s on you. I’m with your child 7 hours a day and have figured out how to take control of the situation and manage a room full of children in a warm/loving yet stern way. But if you can’t handle your own child, that’s on you so please stop encouraging the OP to put even more on teachers plates. Half the time, you waste our time and don’t implement what we suggest and the behaviors begin to manifest into the classroom and then your child ends up kicking me when I’m 35 weeks pregnant (yes this has happened). We are a child’s teacher, therapist, caretaker (yes I have given children snacks because parents don’t give them enough food) but I’m not also going to be their parents therapist for $60,000 a year. Do your homework, read books and follow through and stop outsourcing help. Bringing a super nanny in isn’t going to change the relationship you’ve established with your child.

OP-all I have to say is remove all TV’s from your house and explain to the child why this is happening. Let your child go outdoors to play instead and spend quality time (off your phone) and play with him. If he kicks say that really hurt mom, we do not kick, playtime is over and take away something your child loves. But basically you have to be present. Get off your phones, screens etc and get to know one another. That’s my advice- now it’s up to you to make it happen.

Wowwwww sounds like someone needs a whaaambulance and a new job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you not have a pediatrician? You say he's in preschool - are there not teachers there? Instead of asking strangers on the internet for advice on how to parent your child through what sounds like a difficult series of emotional patterns and behaviors, consult a professional who knows him personally. You can't outsource stuff like this and there is no one-size fits all approach. Any worthwhile pediatrician will work with you on behavioral issues - it is part of development and health - or refer you to someone, if necessary. Also words like "good" or "bad kid" are definitely not going to help anyone.

Teacher here of 15 years- I am SO sick of parents asking for help how to raise children. What happens in your home is because of the environment you’ve created- it’s on you. I’m with your child 7 hours a day and have figured out how to take control of the situation and manage a room full of children in a warm/loving yet stern way. But if you can’t handle your own child, that’s on you so please stop encouraging the OP to put even more on teachers plates. Half the time, you waste our time and don’t implement what we suggest and the behaviors begin to manifest into the classroom and then your child ends up kicking me when I’m 35 weeks pregnant (yes this has happened). We are a child’s teacher, therapist, caretaker (yes I have given children snacks because parents don’t give them enough food) but I’m not also going to be their parents therapist for $60,000 a year. Do your homework, read books and follow through and stop outsourcing help. Bringing a super nanny in isn’t going to change the relationship you’ve established with your child.

OP-all I have to say is remove all TV’s from your house and explain to the child why this is happening. Let your child go outdoors to play instead and spend quality time (off your phone) and play with him. If he kicks say that really hurt mom, we do not kick, playtime is over and take away something your child loves. But basically you have to be present. Get off your phones, screens etc and get to know one another. That’s my advice- now it’s up to you to make it happen.

Wowwwww sounds like someone needs a whaaambulance and a new job.

Wow sounds like someone needs a good fk and new hubby

[Anonymous]

OP failed as a parent. Stop treating your son like a baby. Stop enabling the bad behavior.

Teach good manners. It's your job. Not the teacher.
Are you a parent or just someone who provides food and rent?

Parents are the first teachers of a child's life. Start acting like one OP.

Teach the basics, good manners, respect to yourself and others

[Anonymous]

Some parents should stop bring so lazy. Just don’t have more kids please. There's enough kids in orphanage

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you not have a pediatrician? You say he's in preschool - are there not teachers there? Instead of asking strangers on the internet for advice on how to parent your child through what sounds like a difficult series of emotional patterns and behaviors, consult a professional who knows him personally. You can't outsource stuff like this and there is no one-size fits all approach. Any worthwhile pediatrician will work with you on behavioral issues - it is part of development and health - or refer you to someone, if necessary. Also words like "good" or "bad kid" are definitely not going to help anyone.

Teacher here of 15 years- I am SO sick of parents asking for help how to raise children. What happens in your home is because of the environment you’ve created- it’s on you. I’m with your child 7 hours a day and have figured out how to take control of the situation and manage a room full of children in a warm/loving yet stern way. But if you can’t handle your own child, that’s on you so please stop encouraging the OP to put even more on teachers plates. Half the time, you waste our time and don’t implement what we suggest and the behaviors begin to manifest into the classroom and then your child ends up kicking me when I’m 35 weeks pregnant (yes this has happened). We are a child’s teacher, therapist, caretaker (yes I have given children snacks because parents don’t give them enough food) but I’m not also going to be their parents therapist for $60,000 a year. Do your homework, read books and follow through and stop outsourcing help. Bringing a super nanny in isn’t going to change the relationship you’ve established with your child.

OP-all I have to say is remove all TV’s from your house and explain to the child why this is happening. Let your child go outdoors to play instead and spend quality time (off your phone) and play with him. If he kicks say that really hurt mom, we do not kick, playtime is over and take away something your child loves. But basically you have to be present. Get off your phones, screens etc and get to know one another. That’s my advice- now it’s up to you to make it happen.

Wowwwww sounds like someone needs a whaaambulance and a new job.

Wow sounds like someone needs a good fk and new hubby

Yes, I agree the teacher who first posted could probably use some relaxation. As for me, I like my job just fine and I've never had to ask a low wage, low skill worker for advice on raising my child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you not have a pediatrician? You say he's in preschool - are there not teachers there? Instead of asking strangers on the internet for advice on how to parent your child through what sounds like a difficult series of emotional patterns and behaviors, consult a professional who knows him personally. You can't outsource stuff like this and there is no one-size fits all approach. Any worthwhile pediatrician will work with you on behavioral issues - it is part of development and health - or refer you to someone, if necessary. Also words like "good" or "bad kid" are definitely not going to help anyone.

Teacher here of 15 years- I am SO sick of parents asking for help how to raise children. What happens in your home is because of the environment you’ve created- it’s on you. I’m with your child 7 hours a day and have figured out how to take control of the situation and manage a room full of children in a warm/loving yet stern way. But if you can’t handle your own child, that’s on you so please stop encouraging the OP to put even more on teachers plates. Half the time, you waste our time and don’t implement what we suggest and the behaviors begin to manifest into the classroom and then your child ends up kicking me when I’m 35 weeks pregnant (yes this has happened). We are a child’s teacher, therapist, caretaker (yes I have given children snacks because parents don’t give them enough food) but I’m not also going to be their parents therapist for $60,000 a year. Do your homework, read books and follow through and stop outsourcing help. Bringing a super nanny in isn’t going to change the relationship you’ve established with your child.

OP-all I have to say is remove all TV’s from your house and explain to the child why this is happening. Let your child go outdoors to play instead and spend quality time (off your phone) and play with him. If he kicks say that really hurt mom, we do not kick, playtime is over and take away something your child loves. But basically you have to be present. Get off your phones, screens etc and get to know one another. That’s my advice- now it’s up to you to make it happen.

Wowwwww sounds like someone needs a whaaambulance and a new job.

Wow sounds like someone needs a good fk and new hubby

Yes, I agree the teacher who first posted could probably use some relaxation. As for me, I like my job just fine and I've never had to ask a low wage, low skill worker for advice on raising my child.

You sound esquizofrenic. Are you one of those moms who will stay home 24/7 with their kids? Crazy. Stay home forever with your kid 24/7 and never let them go. You sound so non empathetic. Please don't have kids or having more.
You need to work better and respect the Early Educators. They have more experience.

I hope your kids don't get that insane non empathetic mentality of yours. Well, they do say some kids turn out the same aholes like their parents.