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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you not have a pediatrician? You say he's in preschool - are there not teachers there? Instead of asking strangers on the internet for advice on how to parent your child through what sounds like a difficult series of emotional patterns and behaviors, consult a professional who knows him personally. You can't outsource stuff like this and there is no one-size fits all approach. Any worthwhile pediatrician will work with you on behavioral issues - it is part of development and health - or refer you to someone, if necessary. Also words like "good" or "bad kid" are definitely not going to help anyone. [/quote]

Teacher here of 15 years- I am SO sick of parents asking for help how to raise children. What happens in your home is because of the environment you’ve created- it’s on you. I’m with your child 7 hours a day and have figured out how to take control of the situation and manage a room full of children in a warm/loving yet stern way. But if you can’t handle your own child, that’s on you so please stop encouraging the OP to put even more on teachers plates. Half the time, you waste our time and don’t implement what we suggest and the behaviors begin to manifest into the classroom and then your child ends up kicking me when I’m 35 weeks pregnant (yes this has happened). We are a child’s teacher, therapist, caretaker (yes I have given children snacks because parents don’t give them enough food) but I’m not also going to be their parents therapist for $60,000 a year.  Do your homework, read books and follow through and stop outsourcing help. Bringing a super nanny in isn’t going to change the relationship you’ve established with your child.

OP-all I have to say is remove all TV’s from your house and explain to the child why this is happening. Let your child go outdoors to play instead and spend quality time (off your phone) and play with him. If he kicks say that really hurt mom, we do not kick, playtime is over and take away something your child loves.  But basically you have to be present. Get off your phones, screens etc and get to know one another. That’s my advice- now it’s up to you to make it happen. [/quote]

Nobody was suggesting the teacher raise the kid for OP. Asking a professional who knows the child for more insight - eg why the kid is "good" at school - is a far more reasonable approach than soliciting strangers on the internet for uninformed advice or, as you say, outsourcing to some mythical super nanny. Agree OP sounds like she wants to outsource the work of parenting, which is the problem. But safer and better for the kid for OP to start by getting more info from a teacher than a DCUM thread. If that sounds like such a terrible imposition to you, maybe you should do some introspecting about burn out and consider a career change. (XOXOX pediatric RN)[/quote]

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