DEI st St. Pat’s?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is probably why the training at St. Pats is direly needed and racism exists because parents genuinely do not know but assume they know and then teach their children what they think is best.

"To make sense of this discrepancy, I’ve spent the past few years researching how white people think about race and racism and more specifically, how white parents verbally and nonverbally communicate racial messages to their children. What I learned was that white parents often refrain from speaking with their children about race, racism and racial inequality. If racial discussions do occur they are characterized by a colorblind rhetoric. White parents adopt these practices because they believe it will help them raise a non-racist child. From a sociological perspective though, white parents' racial messages may do more harm than good."

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2018/10/05/white-parents-teach-their-children-be-colorblind-heres-why-thats-bad-everyone/

I don’t need to be “trained,”’on how to think or what to say, thank you, by my children’s elementary school administrators, who have a rather limited world view themselves. I am not an animal nor an automaton. I have my own very valid experiences and opinions on these issues, which I as a parent will impart to my kids.

From the same article

Most white Americans grow up in majority white environments where they have few neighbors, classmates or friends of color. These mono-racial environments preclude whites from seeing or understanding how race positively or negatively influences people’s social environments or their life chances. It also hinders whites from developing an awareness of themselves as racialized beings and as members of a privileged racial group.

As research demonstrates, identity development is relational. That means people develop an awareness of themselves as a member of a particular group when they spend time around people whom they perceive as being different from them. Hence, if a white person grows up in a mono-racial environment, it is unlikely that they will accord much attention to race. Instead, they will focus on the factors that differentiate themselves and their families from other members of their community — their class status, political affiliation or religion. Over time, race will fade from their view as a meaningful social identity for themselves and others.

When we reflect on the majority white environments in which most white parents raise their children, combined with the color-mute or colorblind messages they relay about race — whites' minimization of racism and racial discrimination is less surprising.

It's an old piece and an opinion piece. See the words "Perspective" at the top? Opinion pieces aren't supposed to be cited as authority for anything, and BTW very few people read the post anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is probably why the training at St. Pats is direly needed and racism exists because parents genuinely do not know but assume they know and then teach their children what they think is best.

"To make sense of this discrepancy, I’ve spent the past few years researching how white people think about race and racism and more specifically, how white parents verbally and nonverbally communicate racial messages to their children. What I learned was that white parents often refrain from speaking with their children about race, racism and racial inequality. If racial discussions do occur they are characterized by a colorblind rhetoric. White parents adopt these practices because they believe it will help them raise a non-racist child. From a sociological perspective though, white parents' racial messages may do more harm than good."

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2018/10/05/white-parents-teach-their-children-be-colorblind-heres-why-thats-bad-everyone/

I don’t need to be “trained,”’on how to think or what to say, thank you, by my children’s elementary school administrators, who have a rather limited world view themselves. I am not an animal nor an automaton. I have my own very valid experiences and opinions on these issues, which I as a parent will impart to my kids.

Well maybe your values don’t align with the school community so maybe you should leave the school community or get some training to expand your views because bigoted racist views are not acceptable and it’s a private school so they can determine who is in their community and who is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is probably why the training at St. Pats is direly needed and racism exists because parents genuinely do not know but assume they know and then teach their children what they think is best.

"To make sense of this discrepancy, I’ve spent the past few years researching how white people think about race and racism and more specifically, how white parents verbally and nonverbally communicate racial messages to their children. What I learned was that white parents often refrain from speaking with their children about race, racism and racial inequality. If racial discussions do occur they are characterized by a colorblind rhetoric. White parents adopt these practices because they believe it will help them raise a non-racist child. From a sociological perspective though, white parents' racial messages may do more harm than good."

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2018/10/05/white-parents-teach-their-children-be-colorblind-heres-why-thats-bad-everyone/

I don’t need to be “trained,”’on how to think or what to say, thank you, by my children’s elementary school administrators, who have a rather limited world view themselves. I am not an animal nor an automaton. I have my own very valid experiences and opinions on these issues, which I as a parent will impart to my kids.

This +1000%

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is probably why the training at St. Pats is direly needed and racism exists because parents genuinely do not know but assume they know and then teach their children what they think is best.

"To make sense of this discrepancy, I’ve spent the past few years researching how white people think about race and racism and more specifically, how white parents verbally and nonverbally communicate racial messages to their children. What I learned was that white parents often refrain from speaking with their children about race, racism and racial inequality. If racial discussions do occur they are characterized by a colorblind rhetoric. White parents adopt these practices because they believe it will help them raise a non-racist child. From a sociological perspective though, white parents' racial messages may do more harm than good."

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2018/10/05/white-parents-teach-their-children-be-colorblind-heres-why-thats-bad-everyone/

I don’t need to be “trained,”’on how to think or what to say, thank you, by my children’s elementary school administrators, who have a rather limited world view themselves. I am not an animal nor an automaton. I have my own very valid experiences and opinions on these issues, which I as a parent will impart to my kids.

Well maybe your values don’t align with the school community so maybe you should leave the school community or get some training to expand your views because bigoted racist views are not acceptable and it’s a private school so they can determine who is in their community and who is not.

Just so you know, the only bigot around here is YOU!

History will judge this progressive-wing insanity and you will be on the wrong side of it. Mark my words.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is probably why the training at St. Pats is direly needed and racism exists because parents genuinely do not know but assume they know and then teach their children what they think is best.

"To make sense of this discrepancy, I’ve spent the past few years researching how white people think about race and racism and more specifically, how white parents verbally and nonverbally communicate racial messages to their children. What I learned was that white parents often refrain from speaking with their children about race, racism and racial inequality. If racial discussions do occur they are characterized by a colorblind rhetoric. White parents adopt these practices because they believe it will help them raise a non-racist child. From a sociological perspective though, white parents' racial messages may do more harm than good."

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2018/10/05/white-parents-teach-their-children-be-colorblind-heres-why-thats-bad-everyone/

I don’t need to be “trained,”’on how to think or what to say, thank you, by my children’s elementary school administrators, who have a rather limited world view themselves. I am not an animal nor an automaton. I have my own very valid experiences and opinions on these issues, which I as a parent will impart to my kids.

Well maybe your values don’t align with the school community so maybe you should leave the school community or get some training to expand your views because bigoted racist views are not acceptable and it’s a private school so they can determine who is in their community and who is not.

Just so you know, the only bigot around here is YOU!

History will judge this progressive-wing insanity and you will be on the wrong side of it. Mark my words.

I suggest you stop the day drinking and happy hour because it makes you look much older than your husband not to mention your kids are very aware and you’re not setting a good example.

The world is full of same-sex couples you’re doing a disservice to your child to keep that from them. You don’t have to agree to make them be informed. There were two same-sex couples at our very conservative preschool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP, you are not wrong about the demographic. This is a way for the country club set to feel good and virtuous about themselves.

Precisely.

[Anonymous]

Is there any data (or anecdata) about whether DEI trainings attract diverse families?

[Anonymous]

I doubt it. But more privates keep doing these separate open houses for families of different colors and LGBTQ families because schools think that attracts more applicants (I happen to think these are awful ideas, but that’s a different story)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the feedback. I had written off the school as too nouveau riche and enmeshed with the CCC/Spring Valley set but maybe I need to take another look. Not so much because I’d love to receive anti-bias training but more because the staff is diverse and there are potentially open minded people in the community...

Are most parents pro-masks and screening or is it a split?

Mixed. Definitely some anti vaxxer right wing Trump families at St. Pats. They really try to push back on the school a lot but the school thankfully holds strong to its policies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is probably why the training at St. Pats is direly needed and racism exists because parents genuinely do not know but assume they know and then teach their children what they think is best.

"To make sense of this discrepancy, I’ve spent the past few years researching how white people think about race and racism and more specifically, how white parents verbally and nonverbally communicate racial messages to their children. What I learned was that white parents often refrain from speaking with their children about race, racism and racial inequality. If racial discussions do occur they are characterized by a colorblind rhetoric. White parents adopt these practices because they believe it will help them raise a non-racist child. From a sociological perspective though, white parents' racial messages may do more harm than good."

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2018/10/05/white-parents-teach-their-children-be-colorblind-heres-why-thats-bad-everyone/

Yup as a family of color. This whole thread and the ignorant responses make me realize dc is a scary place for children of color. Again with assumptions of what is best for poc without actually taking the time to learn the issues and spewing out language like marxism and liberalism.

Agreed 100%. DC has turned into California on steroids. I grew up here, and I am finding it an increasingly scary place to live.