SAHM-friend has NEVER once asked about my job

[Anonymous]

There are some SAHMs who never even ask their partners about their work. Is your friend one of those, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I could be your friend (and maybe I am)
I know your work it is a very important part of your life but I have hard time to relate with you. I don’t have the knowledge to understand the details of your important projects and honestly (if this is you) now I feel even more embarassed to talk about my very own simple daily life because I feel judged and you surely cannot relate with sleepless nights, grumpy spouse or doggy mess on the carpet.
I think if we want to be friends we need to focus on each other more as persons. We may be different and living very different lives but we both have our own dreams, hopes and fears

I am not the OP but I do work outside the home, and I can assure you just because you get a paycheck, the bolded above don't go away.

[Anonymous]

Your job is boring to other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I could be your friend (and maybe I am)
I know your work it is a very important part of your life but I have hard time to relate with you. I don’t have the knowledge to understand the details of your important projects and honestly (if this is you) now I feel even more embarassed to talk about my very own simple daily life because I feel judged and you surely cannot relate with sleepless nights, grumpy spouse or doggy mess on the carpet.
I think if we want to be friends we need to focus on each other more as persons. We may be different and living very different lives but we both have our own dreams, hopes and fears

I am not the OP but I do work outside the home, and I can assure you just because you get a paycheck, the bolded above don't go away.

Unless you are a ‘single professional’

[Anonymous]

She's embarassed that she's a brain dead housewife. Jus think of the technology she has missed in the last decade.

[Anonymous]

My MIL was a SAHM and has not worked except occasional part-time volunteer jobs in 40+ years. She never asks me about work and calls / texts me regularly between 9am and 4pm to chat - and seems genuinely surprised that I am in a meeting or that I don’t have time to shop or research vacations during the day.

I make 2x what her son does, but she would never cal him mid-day because “he’s working”. I think most of her friends were sahm too and she just has no concept what my day is like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I could be your friend (and maybe I am)
I know your work it is a very important part of your life but I have hard time to relate with you. I don’t have the knowledge to understand the details of your important projects and honestly (if this is you) now I feel even more embarassed to talk about my very own simple daily life because I feel judged and you surely cannot relate with sleepless nights, grumpy spouse or doggy mess on the carpet.
I think if we want to be friends we need to focus on each other more as persons. We may be different and living very different lives but we both have our own dreams, hopes and fears

But some of my dreams and hopes have to do with my job, and you act like I have your life. Why do we default to what is familiar and comfortable to you??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are some SAHMs who never even ask their partners about their work. Is your friend one of those, OP?

Probably, because when we are all together, he seems desperate for conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL was a SAHM and has not worked except occasional part-time volunteer jobs in 40+ years. She never asks me about work and calls / texts me regularly between 9am and 4pm to chat - and seems genuinely surprised that I am in a meeting or that I don’t have time to shop or research vacations during the day.

I make 2x what her son does, but she would never cal him mid-day because “he’s working”. I think most of her friends were sahm too and she just has no concept what my day is like.

This!

It is some lack of empathy or willingness to consider another experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are both moms, but I work full time outside the home at a professional job. She has grown children but nonetheless, is fully supported by her wealthy husband.

I am not surprised that we usually wind up discussing our children (who are close in age).

What I have realized over the years though,is that she has NEVER once asked how my job is going. Am I busy? What am I working on?
It is where I spend most of my waking hours, but she shows NO interest in it whatsoever.

What do you make of that?

The bold above shows your condescending attitude about her!