Worried Relationship Is Over

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:he said he left. he said he didn't talk to her. he said he "didn't even know she left after a couple days".

so after 2 days of stonewalling and neglect and passive aggressiveness on OP's part, she went to stay with family.

nothing about her being mad. it's not "being mad" to want to talk to an understanding or at least have a talk.

she has nothing to be guilty about.

i guess she should have broke it off immediately when OP happed generally about "never wanting to date people my friends went on a couple dates with."

OP here. I wasn’t going to come back on here but then I saw this. I have no idea where you’re getting your “ facts” because I said none of this.

I never once said I left. If you read my replies from 20:26 and 21:36, you will see that I explained what happened and it was none of what you just lied about.

I never once left. I said I slept on the couch. We were cordial but I told her I needed time to process everything before talking. She was mad I wouldn’t talked and was gone when I woke up one morning. She texted me that she was going to stay with her sister until we figure things out.

Did I leave? No? Did I refuse to talk to her? No. We talked but just not about the situation. Did I know she was gone? Now until about an hour later when I woke up. She left at 7am.

I did say in my replies she was mad that I needed time and wouldn’t talk to her right away about it. I said I needed time before I said something I would regret.

I never said I didn’t want to date someone my friend went on dates with. Again, another lie to fit your narrative and act like you’re right. I jokingly said I wouldn’t want to date someone I found out that my friend banged. It was a joke while watching some tv show.

So, instead of making up your own facts to a situation that doesn’t involve you to feel like you somehow know better than other posters, at least get your facts straight. PP was right, you weren’t.

So have you spoken to her since she went to her sister’s?

[Anonymous]

So cool to ignore the elephant in the room stuck in an apartment together for a couple days asking about insignificant BS.

Talk about EQ to read the room….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So did she tell you the dates, names, ages of everyone else she slept with? And vice versa.

You know, people like Op might want to cross check if any neighbors, coworkers, cousins or friends are lying to him as well. You know, saw the pics posted and stayed like lying cheating a holes Op thinks they must be.

op had better get his Dating Partners Due diligence Questionnaire ready cuz he is back in the market!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My gf and I of a year are in a really bad place and I need some advice. We met online and we very happy for the past year until I found out she slept with my best friend right before we got together. I wasn’t so much hurt it happened, but more so that she didn’t tell me about it. I had to hear about it from him. I needed a couple days to cool off and things have been strained. We haven’t been sleeping together this weekend and last night she decided to leave and go stay with her sister. I reached out to her after realizing she was gone and she said she is starting to question the whole relationship because of the way I handled things. I felt it was best to cool off and think about things before saying something I would regret. Now it’s turned into an even worse situation and I’m starting to worry it’s beyond repair.

Couple days to cool off?
In a really bad place and things have been strained?
Haven’t been “sleeping together” last weekend?
You told her you’re not talking and threatened that it was “because you might say something you regret?”
She left last night or at 7am? Hmm

[Anonymous]

Guy here. How did she "lie to you"? Did you ever ask her if she slept with him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:he said he left. he said he didn't talk to her. he said he "didn't even know she left after a couple days".

so after 2 days of stonewalling and neglect and passive aggressiveness on OP's part, she went to stay with family.

nothing about her being mad. it's not "being mad" to want to talk to an understanding or at least have a talk.

she has nothing to be guilty about.

i guess she should have broke it off immediately when OP happed generally about "never wanting to date people my friends went on a couple dates with."

OP here. I wasn’t going to come back on here but then I saw this. I have no idea where you’re getting your “ facts” because I said none of this.

I never once said I left. If you read my replies from 20:26 and 21:36, you will see that I explained what happened and it was none of what you just lied about.

I never once left. I said I slept on the couch. We were cordial but I told her I needed time to process everything before talking. She was mad I wouldn’t talked and was gone when I woke up one morning. She texted me that she was going to stay with her sister until we figure things out.

Did I leave? No? Did I refuse to talk to her? No. We talked but just not about the situation. Did I know she was gone? Now until about an hour later when I woke up. She left at 7am.

I did say in my replies she was mad that I needed time and wouldn’t talk to her right away about it. I said I needed time before I said something I would regret.

I never said I didn’t want to date someone my friend went on dates with. Again, another lie to fit your narrative and act like you’re right. I jokingly said I wouldn’t want to date someone I found out that my friend banged. It was a joke while watching some tv show.

So, instead of making up your own facts to a situation that doesn’t involve you to feel like you somehow know better than other posters, at least get your facts straight. PP was right, you weren’t.

Why waste your time arguing with internet strangers about facts? If you care about her, talk to her. What do you think a passive aggressive silent treatment would archive?

[Anonymous]

OP you sound quite young….

I am guessing still in your early/mid-20’s?

Regardless of age - you have every right to be angry + disappointed here.
Just because you & your girlfriend were not exclusive when this happened does not make this acceptable that they kept this secret from you.
Especially for this long.

Considering this is your best friend > you certainly should have been privy to this information.
The way your girlfriend is reacting is not only selfish but is wholly immature as well.

Dump her and you will definitely find someone later on w/more maturity as well as integrity.
Trust me on this.

Good luck. 💔

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. How did she "lie to you"? Did you ever ask her if she slept with him?

OP never said she lied to him. Those were posters making stuff up. He said he didn’t care that they slept together. He was more hurt that his gf and best friend didn’t tell him they knew each other or slept together. Can you imagine that you didn’t know for a year that they knew each other and had slept together two weeks before meeting you? His best friend told him that his gf begged him not to tell him. OP is right to be upset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. How did she "lie to you"? Did you ever ask her if she slept with him?

OP never said she lied to him. Those were posters making stuff up. He said he didn’t care that they slept together. He was more hurt that his gf and best friend didn’t tell him they knew each other or slept together. Can you imagine that you didn’t know for a year that they knew each other and had slept together two weeks before meeting you? His best friend told him that his gf begged him not to tell him. OP is right to be upset.

From page 3.

OP here. In all fairness, I told her I needed some time to think things over. Would you want to sleep in the bed with someone who lied to you for a whole year about banging your best friend?

He says she lied about it. If he never asked, she didn’t lie about sleeping with him. Is she supposed to say "I slept with that guy" anytime they see someone she slept with?

[Anonymous]

Lol. Exactly.