Worried Relationship Is Over
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Anonymous
| My gf and I of a year are in a really bad place and I need some advice. We met online and we very happy for the past year until I found out she slept with my best friend right before we got together. I wasn’t so much hurt it happened, but more so that she didn’t tell me about it. I had to hear about it from him. I needed a couple days to cool off and things have been strained. We haven’t been sleeping together this weekend and last night she decided to leave and go stay with her sister. I reached out to her after realizing she was gone and she said she is starting to question the whole relationship because of the way I handled things. I felt it was best to cool off and think about things before saying something I would regret. Now it’s turned into an even worse situation and I’m starting to worry it’s beyond repair. |
Anonymous
| Yes. Just move on. |
Anonymous
| What exactly happened between the two of them? How did you react? |
Anonymous
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So how did you handle things?
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Anonymous
| How does her sleeping with anyone before you were in a relationship with her matter? |
Anonymous
It's over. |
Anonymous
It's his best friend I get it. |
Anonymous
+1 and OP even says it's not so much that it happened, but that she chose to keep it from him for more than a year. I'm a woman and I wouldn't like it either. |
Anonymous
| How did she meet and sleep with your best friend before getting together with you if you met online? It feels like there’s a piece missing here. |
Anonymous
| Do any of your other friends live near her sister’s house? |
Anonymous
| It’s just a coincidence that she knew your best friend before meeting you online? |
Anonymous
OP here. They met online and had sex twice. Realized there wasn’t much there and then I met her two weeks later. We dated for about two months before introducing to family/friends since we are both looking for something serious. They met and decided not to tell me because she liked me and I had made a comment about not wanting to date someone a friend slept with. I told my friend how I was looking at rings and he said he felt he needed to tell me. I told her that I knew about that they had slept together and that my buddy told me. She cried and said she was afraid to tell me because of the comment that I made and because she liked me so much. I was more upset and hurt that they didn’t bother to tell me for a year. This weekend I was very distant and slept on the couch. I planned to talk to her but I just needed time to digest everything and not saying something I would regret. She decided to pack a back and leave to think things over. |
Anonymous
My reaction too. There is a big hole in this story. I'm sure OP is working on a response to dig himself out of the hole. |
Anonymous
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Have you seen your friend naked?
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Anonymous
I totally agree, and the fact that she’s acting like he did something wrong by needing time to cool off is a big red flag to me. She should be acting like she’s ecstatic he’s even considering staying with her, not twisting it around and acting like she’s the one who’s been hurt and deceived. It’s hard but I think ending this is good for OP. I’m sorry this happened to OP. Hugs and move on to find a better girl. |