APS had my second grader eat inside today

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Anonymous wrote:It’s good to remember that second graders aren’t reliable narrators. I’m sure he ate inside but there may be more to it.

Ugh the the relatable narrator phrase 🙄

The OP sounds like she hit the roof before getting the whole story. Her own title is "APS had my 2nd grader...". APS (as a system) was not responsible, this was a teacher decision. So, email the teacher!! Find out what's going on. THEN react. Don't just freak out because of a story your 7 year old told you. He may have it mostly right, but the entire crux on her anger is intent. She may not completely understand the teacher's intentions here. The best way to find those is to talk to the other adults. Once the teacher confirms she is using her hcild as a reward system (IF that is what is happening) then you can elevate this to other channels and let her know you don't think that's appropriate.

OP here--just received a call from the Assistant Principal and SPED aide. Immediately off the bat they stated that it was a decision made on the spot and it was a mistake. They said the staff member didn't know that kids should eat outside on nice days.

I call BS. I'm sorry--that has been the most contentious issue of returning to in person school and if staff don't understand the gravity of the risks that come with that situation and that they are way out of bounds if they think that it is their own discretion to uniquely put a child at risk without the parent's consent or awareness, then I don't even know what to say.

They acknowledged that it is the other child who needs support, and not my child, so, my child will not be singled out in that way going forward and they will modify lunch and recess for the other child as needed.

I described it as APS to indicate which system we were dealing with, but, did not name the school so as to not totally throw them under the bus though I am half tempted to. I emailed the SPED aide and principal immediately upon returning home last evening, so, I didn't wait around stewing over a child's hearsay.

great job making the lives of the school SPED harder, making a SPED kid’s life harder, and probably confusing your kid. Hope you’re happy!!!

If the school wants to blend these kids in with kids without issues and create problems for themselves, they damn well better have the staff to handle it. They used her kid because they didn’t want to deal with the problems this other child creates for them.

It’s really a shame that class sizes are so large. Integrating children with behavioral and academic issues is SO much harder when there are that many kids in a single classroom. No wonder test scores have been going down for years. The teacher can’t focus on academics. He/she is working too hard to get little Timmy to calm down and stop disrupting the class.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- Fairfax kids eat inside EVERY SINGLE DAY in the cafeteria. Be thankful it only happened to your kid one day. Most kids across the country are eating inside in the cafeteria every day. You are coming across like an entitled jerk.

Well, that’s stupid, but OP is in a district that is not doing that and thus wants them to follow their own clearly communicated protocols.

What “Fairfax kids” are doing is irrelevant.

What is OP's kid going to do when it's freezing cold and raining outside?

Come on DCUM and complain!

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Anonymous wrote:It’s good to remember that second graders aren’t reliable narrators. I’m sure he ate inside but there may be more to it.

Ugh the the relatable narrator phrase 🙄

The OP sounds like she hit the roof before getting the whole story. Her own title is "APS had my 2nd grader...". APS (as a system) was not responsible, this was a teacher decision. So, email the teacher!! Find out what's going on. THEN react. Don't just freak out because of a story your 7 year old told you. He may have it mostly right, but the entire crux on her anger is intent. She may not completely understand the teacher's intentions here. The best way to find those is to talk to the other adults. Once the teacher confirms she is using her hcild as a reward system (IF that is what is happening) then you can elevate this to other channels and let her know you don't think that's appropriate.

OP here--just received a call from the Assistant Principal and SPED aide. Immediately off the bat they stated that it was a decision made on the spot and it was a mistake. They said the staff member didn't know that kids should eat outside on nice days.

I call BS. I'm sorry--that has been the most contentious issue of returning to in person school and if staff don't understand the gravity of the risks that come with that situation and that they are way out of bounds if they think that it is their own discretion to uniquely put a child at risk without the parent's consent or awareness, then I don't even know what to say.

They acknowledged that it is the other child who needs support, and not my child, so, my child will not be singled out in that way going forward and they will modify lunch and recess for the other child as needed.

I described it as APS to indicate which system we were dealing with, but, did not name the school so as to not totally throw them under the bus though I am half tempted to. I emailed the SPED aide and principal immediately upon returning home last evening, so, I didn't wait around stewing over a child's hearsay.

great job making the lives of the school SPED harder, making a SPED kid’s life harder, and probably confusing your kid. Hope you’re happy!!!

If the school wants to blend these kids in with kids without issues and create problems for themselves, they damn well better have the staff to handle it. They used her kid because they didn’t want to deal with the problems this other child creates for them.

It’s really a shame that class sizes are so large. Integrating children with behavioral and academic issues is SO much harder when there are that many kids in a single classroom. No wonder test scores have been going down for years. The teacher can’t focus on academics. He/she is working too hard to get little Timmy to calm down and stop disrupting the class.

Yep. But heaven forbid we raise behavioral expectations that are conducive to learning. Karen gets all upset that her problem child can’t be included.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s good to remember that second graders aren’t reliable narrators. I’m sure he ate inside but there may be more to it.

Ugh the the relatable narrator phrase 🙄

The OP sounds like she hit the roof before getting the whole story. Her own title is "APS had my 2nd grader...". APS (as a system) was not responsible, this was a teacher decision. So, email the teacher!! Find out what's going on. THEN react. Don't just freak out because of a story your 7 year old told you. He may have it mostly right, but the entire crux on her anger is intent. She may not completely understand the teacher's intentions here. The best way to find those is to talk to the other adults. Once the teacher confirms she is using her hcild as a reward system (IF that is what is happening) then you can elevate this to other channels and let her know you don't think that's appropriate.

OP here--just received a call from the Assistant Principal and SPED aide. Immediately off the bat they stated that it was a decision made on the spot and it was a mistake. They said the staff member didn't know that kids should eat outside on nice days.

I call BS. I'm sorry--that has been the most contentious issue of returning to in person school and if staff don't understand the gravity of the risks that come with that situation and that they are way out of bounds if they think that it is their own discretion to uniquely put a child at risk without the parent's consent or awareness, then I don't even know what to say.

They acknowledged that it is the other child who needs support, and not my child, so, my child will not be singled out in that way going forward and they will modify lunch and recess for the other child as needed.

I described it as APS to indicate which system we were dealing with, but, did not name the school so as to not totally throw them under the bus though I am half tempted to. I emailed the SPED aide and principal immediately upon returning home last evening, so, I didn't wait around stewing over a child's hearsay.

great job making the lives of the school SPED harder, making a SPED kid’s life harder, and probably confusing your kid. Hope you’re happy!!!

If the school wants to blend these kids in with kids without issues and create problems for themselves, they damn well better have the staff to handle it. They used her kid because they didn’t want to deal with the problems this other child creates for them.

It’s really a shame that class sizes are so large. Integrating children with behavioral and academic issues is SO much harder when there are that many kids in a single classroom. No wonder test scores have been going down for years. The teacher can’t focus on academics. He/she is working too hard to get little Timmy to calm down and stop disrupting the class.

Yep. But heaven forbid we raise behavioral expectations that are conducive to learning. Karen gets all upset that her problem child can’t be included.

You all missed the key point here. OP's son wasn't upset. He likes this kid. He didn't mind being indoors and wants to bring his beyblades to school. The problem was entirely OP's.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s good to remember that second graders aren’t reliable narrators. I’m sure he ate inside but there may be more to it.

Ugh the the relatable narrator phrase 🙄

The OP sounds like she hit the roof before getting the whole story. Her own title is "APS had my 2nd grader...". APS (as a system) was not responsible, this was a teacher decision. So, email the teacher!! Find out what's going on. THEN react. Don't just freak out because of a story your 7 year old told you. He may have it mostly right, but the entire crux on her anger is intent. She may not completely understand the teacher's intentions here. The best way to find those is to talk to the other adults. Once the teacher confirms she is using her hcild as a reward system (IF that is what is happening) then you can elevate this to other channels and let her know you don't think that's appropriate.

OP here--just received a call from the Assistant Principal and SPED aide. Immediately off the bat they stated that it was a decision made on the spot and it was a mistake. They said the staff member didn't know that kids should eat outside on nice days.

I call BS. I'm sorry--that has been the most contentious issue of returning to in person school and if staff don't understand the gravity of the risks that come with that situation and that they are way out of bounds if they think that it is their own discretion to uniquely put a child at risk without the parent's consent or awareness, then I don't even know what to say.

They acknowledged that it is the other child who needs support, and not my child, so, my child will not be singled out in that way going forward and they will modify lunch and recess for the other child as needed.

I described it as APS to indicate which system we were dealing with, but, did not name the school so as to not totally throw them under the bus though I am half tempted to. I emailed the SPED aide and principal immediately upon returning home last evening, so, I didn't wait around stewing over a child's hearsay.

great job making the lives of the school SPED harder, making a SPED kid’s life harder, and probably confusing your kid. Hope you’re happy!!!

If the school wants to blend these kids in with kids without issues and create problems for themselves, they damn well better have the staff to handle it. They used her kid because they didn’t want to deal with the problems this other child creates for them.

It’s really a shame that class sizes are so large. Integrating children with behavioral and academic issues is SO much harder when there are that many kids in a single classroom. No wonder test scores have been going down for years. The teacher can’t focus on academics. He/she is working too hard to get little Timmy to calm down and stop disrupting the class.

Yep. But heaven forbid we raise behavioral expectations that are conducive to learning. Karen gets all upset that her problem child can’t be included.

You all missed the key point here. OP's son wasn't upset. He likes this kid. He didn't mind being indoors and wants to bring his beyblades to school. The problem was entirely OP's.

You spoke with the 7 yo yourself?

When my sister was 15, she “fell in love” with a 20 year old. My parents stepped in and stopped that relationship. Sometimes young people need adults to intervene on their behalf.

OP doesn’t actually say that she has a problem with her son interacting with this child. She has a problem with the school pulling her child out of group activities so he can be a one-on-one reward for the child with problematic behavior. If her son and this child were playing together on the playground with all of the other children, it doesn’t sound like there would be an issue.

Big difference.

The adults in this situation suck. APS needs to do better.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s good to remember that second graders aren’t reliable narrators. I’m sure he ate inside but there may be more to it.

Ugh the the relatable narrator phrase 🙄

The OP sounds like she hit the roof before getting the whole story. Her own title is "APS had my 2nd grader...". APS (as a system) was not responsible, this was a teacher decision. So, email the teacher!! Find out what's going on. THEN react. Don't just freak out because of a story your 7 year old told you. He may have it mostly right, but the entire crux on her anger is intent. She may not completely understand the teacher's intentions here. The best way to find those is to talk to the other adults. Once the teacher confirms she is using her hcild as a reward system (IF that is what is happening) then you can elevate this to other channels and let her know you don't think that's appropriate.

OP here--just received a call from the Assistant Principal and SPED aide. Immediately off the bat they stated that it was a decision made on the spot and it was a mistake. They said the staff member didn't know that kids should eat outside on nice days.

I call BS. I'm sorry--that has been the most contentious issue of returning to in person school and if staff don't understand the gravity of the risks that come with that situation and that they are way out of bounds if they think that it is their own discretion to uniquely put a child at risk without the parent's consent or awareness, then I don't even know what to say.

They acknowledged that it is the other child who needs support, and not my child, so, my child will not be singled out in that way going forward and they will modify lunch and recess for the other child as needed.

I described it as APS to indicate which system we were dealing with, but, did not name the school so as to not totally throw them under the bus though I am half tempted to. I emailed the SPED aide and principal immediately upon returning home last evening, so, I didn't wait around stewing over a child's hearsay.

great job making the lives of the school SPED harder, making a SPED kid’s life harder, and probably confusing your kid. Hope you’re happy!!!

If the school wants to blend these kids in with kids without issues and create problems for themselves, they damn well better have the staff to handle it. They used her kid because they didn’t want to deal with the problems this other child creates for them.

It’s really a shame that class sizes are so large. Integrating children with behavioral and academic issues is SO much harder when there are that many kids in a single classroom. No wonder test scores have been going down for years. The teacher can’t focus on academics. He/she is working too hard to get little Timmy to calm down and stop disrupting the class.

Yep. But heaven forbid we raise behavioral expectations that are conducive to learning. Karen gets all upset that her problem child can’t be included.

You all missed the key point here. OP's son wasn't upset. He likes this kid. He didn't mind being indoors and wants to bring his beyblades to school. The problem was entirely OP's.

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OP here--yes, sometimes adults have to make decisions for their own children that the children may not particularly care for, understand, or agree with--even if it is in their own best interest. That's what being a parent is about.

Of course our child is welcome to be friends with the problem child--we encourage our kids to treat all children with kindness and respect. But, it is well within my purview and rights to ensure that my child is not exposed to unnecessary risk (eating inside on a nice day in violation of APS' own policy/protocol) or uniquely used as an incentive for a child who has serious issues.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s good to remember that second graders aren’t reliable narrators. I’m sure he ate inside but there may be more to it.

Ugh the the relatable narrator phrase 🙄

The OP sounds like she hit the roof before getting the whole story. Her own title is "APS had my 2nd grader...". APS (as a system) was not responsible, this was a teacher decision. So, email the teacher!! Find out what's going on. THEN react. Don't just freak out because of a story your 7 year old told you. He may have it mostly right, but the entire crux on her anger is intent. She may not completely understand the teacher's intentions here. The best way to find those is to talk to the other adults. Once the teacher confirms she is using her hcild as a reward system (IF that is what is happening) then you can elevate this to other channels and let her know you don't think that's appropriate.

OP here--just received a call from the Assistant Principal and SPED aide. Immediately off the bat they stated that it was a decision made on the spot and it was a mistake. They said the staff member didn't know that kids should eat outside on nice days.

I call BS. I'm sorry--that has been the most contentious issue of returning to in person school and if staff don't understand the gravity of the risks that come with that situation and that they are way out of bounds if they think that it is their own discretion to uniquely put a child at risk without the parent's consent or awareness, then I don't even know what to say.

They acknowledged that it is the other child who needs support, and not my child, so, my child will not be singled out in that way going forward and they will modify lunch and recess for the other child as needed.

I described it as APS to indicate which system we were dealing with, but, did not name the school so as to not totally throw them under the bus though I am half tempted to. I emailed the SPED aide and principal immediately upon returning home last evening, so, I didn't wait around stewing over a child's hearsay.

great job making the lives of the school SPED harder, making a SPED kid’s life harder, and probably confusing your kid. Hope you’re happy!!!

If the school wants to blend these kids in with kids without issues and create problems for themselves, they damn well better have the staff to handle it. They used her kid because they didn’t want to deal with the problems this other child creates for them.

It’s really a shame that class sizes are so large. Integrating children with behavioral and academic issues is SO much harder when there are that many kids in a single classroom. No wonder test scores have been going down for years. The teacher can’t focus on academics. He/she is working too hard to get little Timmy to calm down and stop disrupting the class.

Yep. But heaven forbid we raise behavioral expectations that are conducive to learning. Karen gets all upset that her problem child can’t be included.

You all missed the key point here. OP's son wasn't upset. He likes this kid. He didn't mind being indoors and wants to bring his beyblades to school. The problem was entirely OP's.

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OP here--yes, sometimes adults have to make decisions for their own children that the children may not particularly care for, understand, or agree with--even if it is in their own best interest. That's what being a parent is about.

Of course our child is welcome to be friends with the problem child--we encourage our kids to treat all children with kindness and respect. But, it is well within my purview and rights to ensure that my child is not exposed to unnecessary risk (eating inside on a nice day in violation of APS' own policy/protocol) or uniquely used as an incentive for a child who has serious issues.

Don’t worry OP. There are plenty of us here that get your frustration. I would be upset, too.

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It’s really a shame that class sizes are so large. Integrating children with behavioral and academic issues is SO much harder when there are that many kids in a single classroom. No wonder test scores have been going down for years. The teacher can’t focus on academics. He/she is working too hard to get little Timmy to calm down and stop disrupting the class.

Yep. But heaven forbid we raise behavioral expectations that are conducive to learning. Karen gets all upset that her problem child can’t be included.

It's all about mainstreaming these days... putting kids of all abilities together and pretending that you can adequately meet all of their needs at once. It's an impossible task.

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It’s really a shame that class sizes are so large. Integrating children with behavioral and academic issues is SO much harder when there are that many kids in a single classroom. No wonder test scores have been going down for years. The teacher can’t focus on academics. He/she is working too hard to get little Timmy to calm down and stop disrupting the class.

Yep. But heaven forbid we raise behavioral expectations that are conducive to learning. Karen gets all upset that her problem child can’t be included.

It's all about mainstreaming these days... putting kids of all abilities together and pretending that you can adequately meet all of their needs at once. It's an impossible task.

It’s most unfair to the children capable of high achievement. I feel sad for this generation of kids. It’s a race to the bottom.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s good to remember that second graders aren’t reliable narrators. I’m sure he ate inside but there may be more to it.

Ugh the the relatable narrator phrase 🙄

The OP sounds like she hit the roof before getting the whole story. Her own title is "APS had my 2nd grader...". APS (as a system) was not responsible, this was a teacher decision. So, email the teacher!! Find out what's going on. THEN react. Don't just freak out because of a story your 7 year old told you. He may have it mostly right, but the entire crux on her anger is intent. She may not completely understand the teacher's intentions here. The best way to find those is to talk to the other adults. Once the teacher confirms she is using her hcild as a reward system (IF that is what is happening) then you can elevate this to other channels and let her know you don't think that's appropriate.

OP here--just received a call from the Assistant Principal and SPED aide. Immediately off the bat they stated that it was a decision made on the spot and it was a mistake. They said the staff member didn't know that kids should eat outside on nice days.

I call BS. I'm sorry--that has been the most contentious issue of returning to in person school and if staff don't understand the gravity of the risks that come with that situation and that they are way out of bounds if they think that it is their own discretion to uniquely put a child at risk without the parent's consent or awareness, then I don't even know what to say.

They acknowledged that it is the other child who needs support, and not my child, so, my child will not be singled out in that way going forward and they will modify lunch and recess for the other child as needed.

I described it as APS to indicate which system we were dealing with, but, did not name the school so as to not totally throw them under the bus though I am half tempted to. I emailed the SPED aide and principal immediately upon returning home last evening, so, I didn't wait around stewing over a child's hearsay.

great job making the lives of the school SPED harder, making a SPED kid’s life harder, and probably confusing your kid. Hope you’re happy!!!

If the school wants to blend these kids in with kids without issues and create problems for themselves, they damn well better have the staff to handle it. They used her kid because they didn’t want to deal with the problems this other child creates for them.

It’s really a shame that class sizes are so large. Integrating children with behavioral and academic issues is SO much harder when there are that many kids in a single classroom. No wonder test scores have been going down for years. The teacher can’t focus on academics. He/she is working too hard to get little Timmy to calm down and stop disrupting the class.

Yep. But heaven forbid we raise behavioral expectations that are conducive to learning. Karen gets all upset that her problem child can’t be included.

You all missed the key point here. OP's son wasn't upset. He likes this kid. He didn't mind being indoors and wants to bring his beyblades to school. The problem was entirely OP's.

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OP here--yes, sometimes adults have to make decisions for their own children that the children may not particularly care for, understand, or agree with--even if it is in their own best interest. That's what being a parent is about.

Of course our child is welcome to be friends with the problem child--we encourage our kids to treat all children with kindness and respect. But, it is well within my purview and rights to ensure that my child is not exposed to unnecessary risk (eating inside on a nice day in violation of APS' own policy/protocol) or uniquely used as an incentive for a child who has serious issues.

Uh no you don’t treat children with kindness and respect OP. No you don’t.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s good to remember that second graders aren’t reliable narrators. I’m sure he ate inside but there may be more to it.

Ugh the the relatable narrator phrase 🙄

The OP sounds like she hit the roof before getting the whole story. Her own title is "APS had my 2nd grader...". APS (as a system) was not responsible, this was a teacher decision. So, email the teacher!! Find out what's going on. THEN react. Don't just freak out because of a story your 7 year old told you. He may have it mostly right, but the entire crux on her anger is intent. She may not completely understand the teacher's intentions here. The best way to find those is to talk to the other adults. Once the teacher confirms she is using her hcild as a reward system (IF that is what is happening) then you can elevate this to other channels and let her know you don't think that's appropriate.

OP here--just received a call from the Assistant Principal and SPED aide. Immediately off the bat they stated that it was a decision made on the spot and it was a mistake. They said the staff member didn't know that kids should eat outside on nice days.

I call BS. I'm sorry--that has been the most contentious issue of returning to in person school and if staff don't understand the gravity of the risks that come with that situation and that they are way out of bounds if they think that it is their own discretion to uniquely put a child at risk without the parent's consent or awareness, then I don't even know what to say.

They acknowledged that it is the other child who needs support, and not my child, so, my child will not be singled out in that way going forward and they will modify lunch and recess for the other child as needed.

I described it as APS to indicate which system we were dealing with, but, did not name the school so as to not totally throw them under the bus though I am half tempted to. I emailed the SPED aide and principal immediately upon returning home last evening, so, I didn't wait around stewing over a child's hearsay.

great job making the lives of the school SPED harder, making a SPED kid’s life harder, and probably confusing your kid. Hope you’re happy!!!

If the school wants to blend these kids in with kids without issues and create problems for themselves, they damn well better have the staff to handle it. They used her kid because they didn’t want to deal with the problems this other child creates for them.

It’s really a shame that class sizes are so large. Integrating children with behavioral and academic issues is SO much harder when there are that many kids in a single classroom. No wonder test scores have been going down for years. The teacher can’t focus on academics. He/she is working too hard to get little Timmy to calm down and stop disrupting the class.

Yep. But heaven forbid we raise behavioral expectations that are conducive to learning. Karen gets all upset that her problem child can’t be included.

You all missed the key point here. OP's son wasn't upset. He likes this kid. He didn't mind being indoors and wants to bring his beyblades to school. The problem was entirely OP's.

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OP here--yes, sometimes adults have to make decisions for their own children that the children may not particularly care for, understand, or agree with--even if it is in their own best interest. That's what being a parent is about.

Of course our child is welcome to be friends with the problem child--we encourage our kids to treat all children with kindness and respect. But, it is well within my purview and rights to ensure that my child is not exposed to unnecessary risk (eating inside on a nice day in violation of APS' own policy/protocol) or uniquely used as an incentive for a child who has serious issues.

Uh no you don’t treat children with kindness and respect OP. No you don’t.

Because you said so? (I’m not OP.)