APS had my second grader eat inside today

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did your kid want to eat with the other kid? Was he kept from recess and lunch with people he wanted to eat with? Why was the other kid inside? I'm trying to figure out why you're mad. Is it just the covid risk or something else?

According to our child the other child was restricted form eating outside because he was hitting, kicking, and punching other kids outside. My child likes this kid because he has known him for so long and feels comfortable with him and saw him sometimes during covid. But we don’t want our kid to fail to interact with others or make new friends because be keeps getting pulled into these one off’s with the child with issues. We also don’t want him to pick up those behaviors or be ostracized because of association with the problem kid. It’s a fine line. And we are trying to encourage friendships and interaction with other kids while not portraying the problematic kid as such to our child.

It also makes me mad that the school is picking and choosing when indoor activities are risky or not at their convenience. We have not eaten inside a restaurant since covid started because the risk isn’t worth it. We understand indoor lunch will happen when there’s inclement weather but to arbitrarily and discretionarily make that decision without my permission is not acceptable in my view. And yes I am bitter after spending tons of time and money last year supporting and keep my lower ed child afloat while working full time when the schools failed to do so.

That's not anyone at your schools fault, so you need to find a way to compartmentalize. You can ask that your child not be used as an incentive but be sure that is what your child would like. After the last few years this familiar friend may be comforting for your child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Umm, how exactly is your kid’s health and safety impacted?

Also, you’re crazy.

Presumably with the indoor lunch and covid. Some people feel strongly about it from what I understand.

I'd recommend mental therapy for the parents immediately. And maybe a refresher course in statistics since they don't know that the risk of COVID in kids is less than the car ride to school today.

Car rides aren’t contagious, moron. Kids are more than 25%of Delta cases. STFU.

[Anonymous]

So you want to break up the friendship because you’re afraid that your kid will get SN-cooties, and you’re mad that the school isn’t facilitating that. Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you want to break up the friendship because you’re afraid that your kid will get SN-cooties, and you’re mad that the school isn’t facilitating that. Got it.

OP here- I usually don’t respond to idiot trolls but, since I’ve watered it down to a polite PC narrative, let me be explicit now. The parents were contacted today because the child was throwing objects in the classroom and would not stop and had to be physically restrained by school staff.

He needs legitimate help and I feel bad for the school because I appreciate that their hands are tied but my child is my priority and while I in no way will cut off the friendship but I will also not allow my child to be used as a crutch or de facto aide or incentive for this dysfunctional kid whose parents are not taking meaningful steps to begin to address his issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Umm, how exactly is your kid’s health and safety impacted?

Also, you’re crazy.

Presumably with the indoor lunch and covid. Some people feel strongly about it from what I understand.

I'd recommend mental therapy for the parents immediately. And maybe a refresher course in statistics since they don't know that the risk of COVID in kids is less than the car ride to school today.

Well, most kids who ride in a car without a seatbelt don’t die, and plenty of kids who swim unsupervised don’t die, but we put them in seatbelts and supervise them anyway — you know, like outdoor lunch during a pandemic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did your kid want to eat with the other kid? Was he kept from recess and lunch with people he wanted to eat with? Why was the other kid inside? I'm trying to figure out why you're mad. Is it just the covid risk or something else?

According to our child the other child was restricted form eating outside because he was hitting, kicking, and punching other kids outside. My child likes this kid because he has known him for so long and feels comfortable with him and saw him sometimes during covid. But we don’t want our kid to fail to interact with others or make new friends because be keeps getting pulled into these one off’s with the child with issues. We also don’t want him to pick up those behaviors or be ostracized because of association with the problem kid. It’s a fine line. And we are trying to encourage friendships and interaction with other kids while not portraying the problematic kid as such to our child.

It also makes me mad that the school is picking and choosing when indoor activities are risky or not at their convenience. We have not eaten inside a restaurant since covid started because the risk isn’t worth it. We understand indoor lunch will happen when there’s inclement weather but to arbitrarily and discretionarily make that decision without my permission is not acceptable in my view. And yes I am bitter after spending tons of time and money last year supporting and keep my lower ed child afloat while working full time when the schools failed to do so.

That's not anyone at your schools fault, so you need to find a way to compartmentalize. You can ask that your child not be used as an incentive but be sure that is what your child would like. After the last few years this familiar friend may be comforting for your child.

Yes. That’s why I didn’t say anything when I found out about the beyblades last week. I know my kiddo feels comfortable and familiar with this kid. And I know it’s not the individual school’s fault that the district admin made that choice last year, but to be so cavalier about arbitrarily holding indoor lunch after holding families hostage for so long absolutely enrages me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Umm, how exactly is your kid’s health and safety impacted?

Also, you’re crazy.

Presumably with the indoor lunch and covid. Some people feel strongly about it from what I understand.

I'd recommend mental therapy for the parents immediately. And maybe a refresher course in statistics since they don't know that the risk of COVID in kids is less than the car ride to school today.

Well, most kids who ride in a car without a seatbelt don’t die, and plenty of kids who swim unsupervised don’t die, but we put them in seatbelts and supervise them anyway — you know, like outdoor lunch during a pandemic.

Those stats are actually with all of the precautions we take.

"During a pandemic" - it's over here. Population is highly vaccinated and there's hardly any cases or hospitalizations. 405 people are hospitalized and 36 are in the ICU at Virginia Hospital Center right now...for something other than COVID.

The same kids are going and eating indoors at restaurants every weekend too. Let's stop with the hygiene theater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you want to break up the friendship because you’re afraid that your kid will get SN-cooties, and you’re mad that the school isn’t facilitating that. Got it.

OP here- I usually don’t respond to idiot trolls but, since I’ve watered it down to a polite PC narrative, let me be explicit now. The parents were contacted today because the child was throwing objects in the classroom and would not stop and had to be physically restrained by school staff.

He needs legitimate help and I feel bad for the school because I appreciate that their hands are tied but my child is my priority and while I in no way will cut off the friendship but I will also not allow my child to be used as a crutch or de facto aide or incentive for this dysfunctional kid whose parents are not taking meaningful steps to begin to address his issues.

Advocate for your child. While honestly I cringed at some of what you wrote, I can sort of relate. My kids was used as a behaviour model and was separated from all close friends a few years ago, by being placed in a class with no close friends. This school always insists all children will be paired with a buddy; when that didn't happen I inquired and was told it was because they were a behaviour model in the special needs class, like an honor kind of. So I let it be. Without getting into detail, my child had anxiety attacks due to bullying in the classroom and isolation from friends. I wish I had listened to my gut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you could advocate for the disabled kid to be integrated with the wider community (which is what APS is supposed to be doing) so that both kids can eat outside. Instead, you just show your full a$$.

You're only okay with the other kid when you can use them towards your own ends. I hope the other family reads this and sees that you are pure trash and tells the other parents in your class not to hang out with your precious kid. I'd bet the other kids would love to have lunch with a kid with Beyblades.

This. This right here OP. The kid needs SpED services, not to be separated from their classmates. Your kid is their only friend likely, and you want to take that away from them?

I agree that neither kid should be eating or spending recess inside. This school needs better ways of intervening. This is not the only kid with mental/learning disabilities, and not the first child of this nature they've ever dealt with.

This child was okay in a bubble, not okay when your child can have "normal" friends? Shame on you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Umm, how exactly is your kid’s health and safety impacted?

Also, you’re crazy.

FFS. Because maskless indoor lunch during a pandemic is profoundly stupid.

Get help for your anxiety.

[Anonymous]

I would also be livid. I imagine you can’t share, but I am very curious is this is my kids elementary school. All of it would bother me - the indoor lunch and using your kid as an incentive. Definitely within your rights to put a stop to it. It’s really putting your son in a bad spot too - what if he makes other friends and this kid fees possessive? Next year I would request they be in separate classes.

My kids haven’t been inside with unmasked people in 18 months, our school does outdoor lunch every day, even in the rain, I don’t think you are overreacting about that.

[Anonymous]

Get a grip nutjob.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did your kid want to eat with the other kid? Was he kept from recess and lunch with people he wanted to eat with? Why was the other kid inside? I'm trying to figure out why you're mad. Is it just the covid risk or something else?

According to our child the other child was restricted form eating outside because he was hitting, kicking, and punching other kids outside. My child likes this kid because he has known him for so long and feels comfortable with him and saw him sometimes during covid. But we don’t want our kid to fail to interact with others or make new friends because be keeps getting pulled into these one off’s with the child with issues. We also don’t want him to pick up those behaviors or be ostracized because of association with the problem kid. It’s a fine line. And we are trying to encourage friendships and interaction with other kids while not portraying the problematic kid as such to our child.

It also makes me mad that the school is picking and choosing when indoor activities are risky or not at their convenience. We have not eaten inside a restaurant since covid started because the risk isn’t worth it. We understand indoor lunch will happen when there’s inclement weather but to arbitrarily and discretionarily make that decision without my permission is not acceptable in my view. And yes I am bitter after spending tons of time and money last year supporting and keep my lower ed child afloat while working full time when the schools failed to do so.

Your son sounds sweet and caring. You, not so much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you could advocate for the disabled kid to be integrated with the wider community (which is what APS is supposed to be doing) so that both kids can eat outside. Instead, you just show your full a$$.

You're only okay with the other kid when you can use them towards your own ends. I hope the other family reads this and sees that you are pure trash and tells the other parents in your class not to hang out with your precious kid. I'd bet the other kids would love to have lunch with a kid with Beyblades.

This. This right here OP. The kid needs SpED services, not to be separated from their classmates. Your kid is their only friend likely, and you want to take that away from them?

I agree that neither kid should be eating or spending recess inside. This school needs better ways of intervening. This is not the only kid with mental/learning disabilities, and not the first child of this nature they've ever dealt with.

This child was okay in a bubble, not okay when your child can have "normal" friends? Shame on you.

It sounds to me like this kid is already receiving SPED

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you could advocate for the disabled kid to be integrated with the wider community (which is what APS is supposed to be doing) so that both kids can eat outside. Instead, you just show your full a$$.

You're only okay with the other kid when you can use them towards your own ends. I hope the other family reads this and sees that you are pure trash and tells the other parents in your class not to hang out with your precious kid. I'd bet the other kids would love to have lunch with a kid with Beyblades.

This. This right here OP. The kid needs SpED services, not to be separated from their classmates. Your kid is their only friend likely, and you want to take that away from them?

I agree that neither kid should be eating or spending recess inside. This school needs better ways of intervening. This is not the only kid with mental/learning disabilities, and not the first child of this nature they've ever dealt with.

This child was okay in a bubble, not okay when your child can have "normal" friends? Shame on you.

It’s not OPs job to advocate for services for someone else’s child. It is her responsibility to make sure her kid is not isolated from his peers because it makes another kid easier to handle. You’re saying that OPs kid should suck it up and perform only friend duties instead of playing tag outside during recess or sitting with the rest of the class during lunch. The other kid needs help. It is not another child’s job to be that help.