APS had my second grader eat inside today

[Anonymous]

I’m irate. After keeping schools closed almost all year last year they elected at their own discretion to have my child eat inside with another kid that he is friends with who has emotional/behavioral issues today.

Nobody contacted me for permission beforehand.

They are using my child as an emotional/behavioral support and reward for this child who has issues.

We know their family because they were in our same daycare. During covid we did hang out with them a bit because they were in our daycare bubble. We really like the parents but the kid has serious issues and we wish to separate our child from him to a good extent so he forms other friendships and also doesn’t pick up this kid’s behaviors or become exclusively associated with him.

I’m just so furious that they risked my child’s health and safety with no regard for my concern or permission (after he was kept out of school almost all of last year) and that they are using him as an emotional support/reward for this ED kid. And I will now look like the bad guy for breaking up their lunch club.

They also told my son he could bring beyblades to school last week when he and the other boy get to have indoor recess together if the other boy is well behaved. Again. They didn’t ask my permission before telling my son this and it was again a difficult conversation when we first resisted letting him bring toys to school (a general no in our house).

I’ve already emailed the special Ed aide and principal and asked for someone to contact me about this ASAP.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a jersey.

Lighten up.

[Anonymous]

Make that JERK^^

[Anonymous]

Wow. Your son sounds lovely. He doesn't get it from you.

[Anonymous]

I would be irritated too if they were isolating my child from the rest of the class to reward another kid, especially if it meant giving up running around outside for recess.

[Anonymous]

Umm, how exactly is your kid’s health and safety impacted?

Also, you’re crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Umm, how exactly is your kid’s health and safety impacted?

Also, you’re crazy.

Presumably with the indoor lunch and covid. Some people feel strongly about it from what I understand.

[Anonymous]

Did your kid want to eat with the other kid? Was he kept from recess and lunch with people he wanted to eat with? Why was the other kid inside? I'm trying to figure out why you're mad. Is it just the covid risk or something else?

[Anonymous]

Maybe you could advocate for the disabled kid to be integrated with the wider community (which is what APS is supposed to be doing) so that both kids can eat outside. Instead, you just show your full a$$.

You're only okay with the other kid when you can use them towards your own ends. I hope the other family reads this and sees that you are pure trash and tells the other parents in your class not to hang out with your precious kid. I'd bet the other kids would love to have lunch with a kid with Beyblades.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be irritated too if they were isolating my child from the rest of the class to reward another kid, especially if it meant giving up running around outside for recess.

I could definitely see being irritated about this, and would probably agree with raising it, in a rational and measured way, to the teacher/school.

However, this poster seems completely unhinged, and somehow is conflating this issue with uncontrolled Covid anxiety. FYI OP: They eat lunch inside when it rains, too. Like last week. With way more kids inside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Umm, how exactly is your kid’s health and safety impacted?

Also, you’re crazy.

Presumably with the indoor lunch and covid. Some people feel strongly about it from what I understand.

I'd recommend mental therapy for the parents immediately. And maybe a refresher course in statistics since they don't know that the risk of COVID in kids is less than the car ride to school today.

[Anonymous]

I’d be pissed too op.

[Anonymous]

That sounds sneaky and manipulative. I’m also on op’s side. And it’s not just about the being indoors part, it’s everything else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did your kid want to eat with the other kid? Was he kept from recess and lunch with people he wanted to eat with? Why was the other kid inside? I'm trying to figure out why you're mad. Is it just the covid risk or something else?

According to our child the other child was restricted form eating outside because he was hitting, kicking, and punching other kids outside. My child likes this kid because he has known him for so long and feels comfortable with him and saw him sometimes during covid. But we don’t want our kid to fail to interact with others or make new friends because be keeps getting pulled into these one off’s with the child with issues. We also don’t want him to pick up those behaviors or be ostracized because of association with the problem kid. It’s a fine line. And we are trying to encourage friendships and interaction with other kids while not portraying the problematic kid as such to our child.

It also makes me mad that the school is picking and choosing when indoor activities are risky or not at their convenience. We have not eaten inside a restaurant since covid started because the risk isn’t worth it. We understand indoor lunch will happen when there’s inclement weather but to arbitrarily and discretionarily make that decision without my permission is not acceptable in my view. And yes I am bitter after spending tons of time and money last year supporting and keep my lower ed child afloat while working full time when the schools failed to do so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Umm, how exactly is your kid’s health and safety impacted?

Also, you’re crazy.

FFS. Because maskless indoor lunch during a pandemic is profoundly stupid.