How stressed is your senior?

[Anonymous]

Mine only got deferrals so far and is easily triggered these days.

[Anonymous]

OP, I have a senior so I get what you're saying because quite a few of his/her friends are in this situation. And DC is not particularly thrilled with acceptances so far, although does have 2, so I guess that's something.

However, please don't go down the path of turning this into a mental health issue by saying that your DC is "easily triggered." S/he is anxious and on-edge. That is normal with this level of uncertainty. Sorry, but that's part of life and growing up. This will not be the last time your DC has to wait for something, when others don't. The life lesson here is to do your best and then carry on. That's all any of us can ever do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have a senior so I get what you're saying because quite a few of his/her friends are in this situation. And DC is not particularly thrilled with acceptances so far, although does have 2, so I guess that's something.

However, please don't go down the path of turning this into a mental health issue by saying that your DC is "easily triggered." S/he is anxious and on-edge. That is normal with this level of uncertainty. Sorry, but that's part of life and growing up. This will not be the last time your DC has to wait for something, when others don't. The life lesson here is to do your best and then carry on. That's all any of us can ever do.

Thank you, good reminder. I definitely won’t let it turn into a mental health issue. I am curious if other kids are also on the edge. With covid, I don’t meet my mom friends face to face a lot, and I feel that I am not getting a lot of feedback or truth via texts. Thank you for sharing!

[Anonymous]

DD was stressed until she got the EA she wanted in December and now is pretty checked out from the social aspects of high school. Academically she’s still engaged (5 core APs) but she’s lost interest in anything else but babysitting to make money for college. She’s also pulling away from us. It’s concerning.

[Anonymous]

Not at all. In ED and decent 1st semester grades submitted.

Now with DC1, we did RD SLACs. And February was miserable. And then COVID hit in March just as decisions were released. Just thinking about makes me anxious. Residual PTSD.

BUT— it worked out well, despite COVID. Hugs to those waiting this year. This will be behind you soon, and in 2-3 months, your kid will make a choice and you can buy the t-shirt and look forward and celebrate.

[Anonymous]

DS is handling it but hasn’t gotten a rejection or acceptance yet due to needing financial aid so all regular decision. He’s still very involved with schoolwork, ECs and the girlfriend who is also waiting on acceptances to music schools which don’t have EAs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD was stressed until she got the EA she wanted in December and now is pretty checked out from the social aspects of high school. Academically she’s still engaged (5 core APs) but she’s lost interest in anything else but babysitting to make money for college. She’s also pulling away from us. It’s concerning.

Google “soiling the nest”. This is normal and even healthy as kids adjust to the realities of moving out next summer.

[Anonymous]

My son is anxious and struggling with academic motivation. He just wants it all over. He is into 5 schools, 3 he would definitely attend, but dream school won’t hear from until March, and there’s a high probability he will be waitlisted… dragging this out even further.

[Anonymous]

Really stressed. Feels lots of pressure from his FCPS culture of Ivy or bust. Kid already has great choices but having a hard time appreciating them.

[Anonymous]

DD is generally pretty even-keeled, no matter the circumstances. She stayed positive throughout 3 deferrals and 2 lower choice admittances. Now with admittance to her #2 choice, she is even more serene.

Academically she still wants to continue on the same level and not give in to seniorities.

[Anonymous]

DS has one admit and one deferral; all the dream schools are RD. Seems fine. Very busy with hard classes and deep into ECs right now. Once all the apps were in, his mood changed for the better, and he's actually quite pleasant for now.

[Anonymous]

DC is just happy all the apps are (finally) in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really stressed. Feels lots of pressure from his FCPS culture of Ivy or bust. Kid already has great choices but having a hard time appreciating them.

Mine is at TJ and boy, there are so many strategies at college application, in hindsight. Maybe we should have spent the money and hired a private counselor!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is anxious and struggling with academic motivation. He just wants it all over. He is into 5 schools, 3 he would definitely attend, but dream school won’t hear from until March, and there’s a high probability he will be waitlisted… dragging this out even further.

This whole process really needs to change. I feel that it is much more stressful than when I applied to college. I can’t imagine what it will be like for their children!

[Anonymous]

Not much. She is chill.