When did your sexless marriage begin?

[Anonymous]

How old were both of you and how many years married? Was it tied to kids, hormones, relationship conflicts, or other life stress? How long did it last and did it recover?

[Anonymous]

When I got pregnant with my second child. Reason... husband not able to transition to being a family, or just an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Never. But I had a few years of “business sex” where I was stressed, strapped and no libido- so was a more passive, non-initiating partner when my kids were in elementary school.

When husband got over his midlife entitled behavior and started really chipping in and kids reached MS/HS, my libido came back hard.

We never missed a week without sex though, even the years I had little libido.

[Anonymous]

After the second child was born. I was 34, DW was 30. We'd been married for 5 years. I thought it was just the stress and hectic nature of having infants and toddlers. But when the kids went to school full time & it still didn't bounce back, I realized that a sexless marriage was the rest of my life.

[Anonymous]

2nd kid when husband checked out of home and family life.

[Anonymous]

Wow, I just wrote that and hadn’t read the previous entries.

Sounds like similar lack of expectations of being a father, husband and homeowner I continue to suffer from.

One kid I could still do everything but didn’t notice; two kids he needs to grow up and adult. And cannot or will not.

Very unattractive to not trust or team up w one’s spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never. But I had a few years of “business sex” where I was stressed, strapped and no libido- so was a more passive, non-initiating partner when my kids were in elementary school.

When husband got over his midlife entitled behavior and started really chipping in and kids reached MS/HS, my libido came back hard.

We never missed a week without sex though, even the years I had little libido.

cool story bro

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never. But I had a few years of “business sex” where I was stressed, strapped and no libido- so was a more passive, non-initiating partner when my kids were in elementary school.

When husband got over his midlife entitled behavior and started really chipping in and kids reached MS/HS, my libido came back hard.

We never missed a week without sex though, even the years I had little libido.

cool story bro

It actually IS a cool story!

[Anonymous]

Failing husbands get over their entitled midlife pisspoor behavior and start chipping in finally!?!?

Tell me more!

[Anonymous]

I had a big bout of depression at age 35 and if you count once a week as sexless like my asshole husband did, it began then. Things are better now but I don’t know that I’ll ever forgive him for how he handled the whole thing. Now sex isn’t about being emotionally close at all. It’s enjoyable but it will never be the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never. But I had a few years of “business sex” where I was stressed, strapped and no libido- so was a more passive, non-initiating partner when my kids were in elementary school.

When husband got over his midlife entitled behavior and started really chipping in and kids reached MS/HS, my libido came back hard.

We never missed a week without sex though, even the years I had little libido.

cool story bro

Interesting you doubt this post - why? This was my (wife) experience - sex was more routine/businesslike/less passionate/less frequent when kids where small - libido/frequency/passion returned big time when kids were older. But we never let it become "sexless" - always had 1x a week. Now, more like 5x.

[Anonymous]

She only wants sex once or twice a month. I have sex weekly. I refuse to be in a sexless marriage so I’ll pick up the slack at work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never. But I had a few years of “business sex” where I was stressed, strapped and no libido- so was a more passive, non-initiating partner when my kids were in elementary school.

When husband got over his midlife entitled behavior and started really chipping in and kids reached MS/HS, my libido came back hard.

We never missed a week without sex though, even the years I had little libido.

cool story bro

Interesting you doubt this post - why? This was my (wife) experience - sex was more routine/businesslike/less passionate/less frequent when kids where small - libido/frequency/passion returned big time when kids were older. But we never let it become "sexless" - always had 1x a week. Now, more like 5x.

+1

If men would know this and hang in there instead of going out and cheating during that time. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. We’ve been together 20 years now. It seems like its always been once or twice a week. I’m certainly not complaining especially when I read about all of the dead bedrooms on this forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. We’ve been together 20 years now. It seems like its always been once or twice a week. I’m certainly not complaining especially when I read about all of the dead bedrooms on this forum.

Why even post? Really!