When did your sexless marriage begin?

[Anonymous]

This past year. I am menopausal and enjoying it less. It wasn't terribly good prior and now that the hormones aren't driving me, there's no real motivation. Last time I asked though, I was told no. So there's that.

[Anonymous]

Around the time we found out our second child was a girl. He started with some misogynistic behaviors towards me shortly after which was a major turnoff. Then it kind of spiraled as he got more mad I wasn't putting out anymore, which made me definitely NOT want to put out.

[Anonymous]

Around the time her daily Cabernet consumption doubled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sexless when I became depressed....child with severe mental health issues, stress eating, don't like my body....I want to get back to a healthier dynamic. I love my husband and find him very attractive.

Hugs. I hope you figure things out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Around the time her daily Cabernet consumption doubled.

What triggered that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is amazing that some people cannot even imagine that some (many?) men in sexless marriages don’t have side pieces. Different strokes and all.

Guessing you aren’t a man. So what do you know about it?

So you think every man has stepped out when their woman isn’t putting out frequently enough? Not all men are that lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is amazing that some people cannot even imagine that some (many?) men in sexless marriages don’t have side pieces. Different strokes and all.

Guessing you aren’t a man. So what do you know about it?

So you think every man has stepped out when their woman isn’t putting out frequently enough? Not all men are that lucky.

Yes. Normal healthy men don’t remain celibate. Amazing how “luck” simply falls upon the motivated person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Around the time we found out our second child was a girl. He started with some misogynistic behaviors towards me shortly after which was a major turnoff. Then it kind of spiraled as he got more mad I wasn't putting out anymore, which made me definitely NOT want to put out.

Another “I’m staying sexlessly married to an a$$hole” martyr. Did you give him an official hall pass or are you pretending he is faithful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wife told me just over 20 years ago “no woman anywhere wants to do it more than 4x per year”. Which I have a hard time believing. Last five years zero x. Between 5 and 10 years ago maybe 5 x total. I have never strayed. Live with deep emotional pain. No sex on 26 out of 27 anniversaries. No sex on 26 out of 27 Valentine’s Days. I do well financially. Been a great Dad. Always have been in great physical shape. Never left because I could not risk losing a great relationship with my son. Mayo Clinic says one of the reasons for pain during sex is from infrequency. It became painful for my wife over 5 years ago. She has closed up shop. We went through counseling 15 years ago which I initiated.

You don’t sound normal sir. Healthy men could not survive like that without sex. This is what exactly affairs are for: to save the sexless marriage.

If sex could only make me love my spouse. Fake it til you make it doesn’t work. I resent him more every time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is amazing that some people cannot even imagine that some (many?) men in sexless marriages don’t have side pieces. Different strokes and all.

Guessing you aren’t a man. So what do you know about it?

So you think every man has stepped out when their woman isn’t putting out frequently enough? Not all men are that lucky.

Yes. Normal healthy men don’t remain celibate. Amazing how “luck” simply falls upon the motivated person.

What an insulting thing to say. You really hate men. You’re just a closeted man-hater. Maybe even a self hating CIS man, but definitely a man hater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wife told me just over 20 years ago “no woman anywhere wants to do it more than 4x per year”. Which I have a hard time believing. Last five years zero x. Between 5 and 10 years ago maybe 5 x total. I have never strayed. Live with deep emotional pain. No sex on 26 out of 27 anniversaries. No sex on 26 out of 27 Valentine’s Days. I do well financially. Been a great Dad. Always have been in great physical shape. Never left because I could not risk losing a great relationship with my son. Mayo Clinic says one of the reasons for pain during sex is from infrequency. It became painful for my wife over 5 years ago. She has closed up shop. We went through counseling 15 years ago which I initiated.

You don’t sound normal sir. Healthy men could not survive like that without sex. This is what exactly affairs are for: to save the sexless marriage.

If sex could only make me love my spouse. Fake it til you make it doesn’t work. I resent him more every time.

Wow and yet another “staying sexlessly married to an a$$hole”. Tell us did you give him an official hall pass or you prefer he keeps sneaking around?

[Anonymous]

They stay sexlessly married to AHoles for the same reasons these AHoles stay sexlessly married to wives who won’t touch them. Kids and finances mostly.

[Anonymous]

When my DH became depressed and suicidal at about age 47 is when I started dropping off. Combination of his meds and my complete hurt and sadness about how he could be suicidal with our amazing kids in the home. Now he’s completely out to shape, never leaves the house and frankly I have no desire to go near him. Probably should get divorced but am kind of trapped due to the aforementioned depression. Think about it every day though. We’ll see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They stay sexlessly married to AHoles for the same reasons these AHoles stay sexlessly married to wives who won’t touch them. Kids and finances mostly.

Exactly. Someone else to take care of the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my DH became depressed and suicidal at about age 47 is when I started dropping off. Combination of his meds and my complete hurt and sadness about how he could be suicidal with our amazing kids in the home. Now he’s completely out to shape, never leaves the house and frankly I have no desire to go near him. Probably should get divorced but am kind of trapped due to the aforementioned depression. Think about it every day though. We’ll see.

You seem cruel, maybe you’re not but there isn’t even a whif of empathy in your post. He has a deadly disorder, he wouldn’t contemplate suicide if he didn’t, he is well aware of your obvious disdain for him and I’ll bet it keep him from progressing towards recovery.