Getting angry about 20 pounds
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Anonymous
| I‘ve been losing the same 10 pounds for three years. I’m 20 pounds over my pre-baby weight and I’m actually starting to get mad. Every morning I wake up with the intention to eat less, and I do fine until the afternoon, when I get hungry. I’m just f****ing hungry and tired of eating less than I want. I’m so f***ing done with dieting but I absolutely cannot abide by my weight (5‘4“ and 137 lbs). None of my clothes fit me well, I can’t move well, I feel gross. But I’m just hungry and tired of dieting for a decade. Thank you for listening to me rant, I will now return to my making plans to do the exact same dance tomorrow. |
Anonymous
| I am right with you. Just remember that exercise and sleep are more correlated with health than weight and BMI. |
Anonymous
| I know the feeling - but getting your diet on track unfortunately requires biting the bullet and powering through the initial hunger & cravings. Chew gum, take a nap, go for walk, clean the house etc. Good news is after being consistent for 2-3 weeks, the body adjusts and the cravings subside. And once you start seeing the results, it will motivate you to keep going! |
Anonymous
| OP can you change tactics for a while? Focus on exercise and sleep and nutrition, rather than weight? At least to give yourself a break and consider a reset? I'm sorry. Ten years is a long time to be that angry. |
Anonymous
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I'll go a bit against the grain here - I think you need to eat more in the morning, and make it super protein heavy to make you feel full for longer. You're sabotaging yourself by trying to starve. Try having a bowl of unsweetened greek yogurt with some berries, cottage cheese, 1 egg+2 egg whites scrambled with some veggies, or some low sugar oatmeal with high protein count (I like the Qia coconut one) within an hour or two of waking up.
Keep protein dense snacks on hand for the afternoon slump, and get outside or moving mid-afternoon to give yourself a boost. Protein shakes, hard boiled eggs, veggies, protein bars (but watch the calories). I buy veggie platters at the grocery store and keep them on hand for snacking with hummus and greek yogurt-based tzatziki for dipping, but you could do it for cheaper if you're willing to chop and prep the veggies yourself. You can do it, OP! |
Anonymous
How do you get through the cravings and hunger? I get this feeling every single day that I am tired of denying myself food, but I know logically my body doesn’t “need“ the calories. How do you mentally deal with this? |
Anonymous
What? This is bullshit. I’ve dieted on and off my whole life and this has never happened. |
Anonymous
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I find eating protein for breakfast and few carbs stop me from being want to chew my arm off hungry. I still feel hungry, but it does not feel as urgent. Also, too much caffeine makes me feel like I have to eat to feel ok.
Another tactic is plan for a decent sized snack in the afternoon. If you plan, you can at least eat something decently healthy. |
Anonymous
| OP you’re 5’4” and 137 lbs, maybe it’s not your best weight but it’s hardly fat. If you’re healthy and exercising and eating well and it just doesn’t come off, is it so bad to just accept it? It’s not worth being angry over IMO. |
Anonymous
| You shouldn't be hungry. If you are physically hungry, you're not eating enough of the right foods. If it's mind hunger, you need to learn how to deal with it appropriately. Also, up your water. |
Anonymous
| I’m just half an inch taller than you and 135 is my goal weight 😂 I’m sorry you’re not feeling your best, but you’re a healthy weight! I would suggest getting rid of your scale and starting weight training. Focus on how your body looks and how your clothes fit than the number on the scale. |
Anonymous
You shouldn’t be denying yourself food. You just need to eat a smaller quantity and/or replace some of the foods you eat with healthier options. Protein and whole grains keep you fuller longer than processed crap food. And you may just have to get used to being a little bit hungry at times, but you shouldn’t be starving. Switching to a macro based diet has really helped me find foods that are healthy and filling which has allowed me to wean myself off junk food. |
Anonymous
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Yes - dieting is so emotionally hard. I've been there.
I used to struggle with the afternoon crash. "If I don't have that coffee drink and muffin/scone, I will DIE!!!" What's helped me is Dr. Mark Hyman's Pegan diet - more healthy fats and protein and less sugar and white flour. He has a podcast and he talks about high carb breakfasts that later in the day makes you want to "eat the wallpaper off the wall". Everyone has different insulin triggers. There are glucose monitors that you can use - one that is emerging is called Levels. I'm also really working on my sleep. I use the Oura sleep ring to track. Lots of research about sleep and hunger hormones. Good luck!! |
Anonymous
I agree with this poster. I am at about 135, same height as OP, and since I’ve started lifting more over the last year and a half I feel fantastic. I’m stronger than I’ve ever been. I’m above my pre pregnancy weight by about 15 pounds, but honestly even my husband tells me how good I look. OP, I’m sure you look better than you think you do. |
Anonymous
| Op I feel you. I was 20 lbs up on baby weight until recently. I’ve realized that I can’t eat like I did prepregnancy, in part because it was a decade ago. Try eating a lot more vegetables and fruit. Every meal at least half your food. You will feel less hungry and eat less. You need to cook a lot of stuff for this to work but you won’t be hungry. cut out white flour and sugar. you will miss foods but it is way better than being hangry. And yo I have to accept you either get to eat whatever you want or look how you want. Not both. Ugh. First world problems I guess. |