Would You Divorce If Adult Child Would Reject You?

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Anonymous wrote:My lawyer advises against the continuance. Her reasons? We risk the court resetting all the deadlines in the order- which prejudices us as we have already met deadlines and filed everything, so she has our exhibits and would be able to file things she missed before.

I caught W hiding assets. Continuance might allow her to move them.

I am happy to settle out of court, but W needs to come to the table. She doesn't like an equitable distribution of assets, where she would receive about $1.7 million and I would receive $1.3 million. She keeps the marital residence. I keep a jointly owned marital property. We each hold our retirements. So, no, not a SAHM being left high and dry. Adultery and other factors mitigate against her. I feel I am being fair and generous, and can easily see a judge approving this. W wants more than a 60/40 split, where she gets half of my retirement and keeps hers, as well as half equity in the marital residence and half equity in the investment property—not going to wash. I told my D that I am protecting everyone's interests.

What does this mean? I don’t think adultery matters in cases these days

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Anonymous wrote:To answer your question - no, I would not divorce if I were to cause a deep rift with my child. My children come first, and our relationship needs to be preserved. I’m the parent, so I make the sacrifice.

Np. Ditto ditto ditto. Marriages are tough. People are imperfect. But my family is important to me and I keep it together.

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Anonymous wrote:Where’s the fire OP? What are you trying to accomplish at your age that another six months is going to genuinely affect? You clearly want the divorce and your wife doesn’t. That happens all the time. So this is where the rubber meets the road: give her a continuance and let her know this is her opportunity to find representation and if she does not, she’ll suffer the consequences. You don’t have to live in an unhappy marriage. But there are lots of ways to exit a marriage without swinging a bat on your way out.

You can explain all this with kindness to your daughter, and if you’re genuine, your daughter will see that. If you are leaving a stay at home mom high and dry in her 60s who is about to live at the poverty line, it doesn’t matter what you do with the continuance because you’ll lose your kid.

FWIW, my dad left my mom for his AP. My mom is now remarried and living a great life. Dad was married a P until she died of a chronic ill illness many years later. Everyone would say that everyone moved on in my family and got along great. Privately, I will tell you that I grew up watching my mom lay on the couch on NYE and I’ve never forgiven my father. Have I moved on? Sure. I wasn’t given a choice. But he’s a selfish man, full stop.

Why do I think that’s the same thing op is planning on…

probably.

that's why the OP only selectively responds to posters, not the ones asking WHY THE DIVORCE?

OP here. I filed for divorce on grounds of adultery, cruelty and constructive desertion. W had a several affairs, the last with a partner at the former law firm where she worked. That office romance blew up in her face. She was fired from her job, partner had to leave the firm. That answer enough?

It’d that’s supposedly true why you twiddling your thumbs here on dcum not knowing how to supposedly divorce or speak with your supposed adult daughter.

+1. Tell your daughter the truth about her moms affairs, but only if you don’t have similar indiscretions.

So mature