Not hired because of my hair color (rant)

[Anonymous]

Op came on here to whine "poor me" that she's not getting hired because of her hair, but we aren't allowed to tell her the truth??? If she wants a job as a professional nanny maybe she should look like a professional nanny. If she wants to work for the circus, keep the hair. The face is maybe 10% of families would be okay with this hairstyle, most would not so quit crying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's why I would have an issue with your hair: I don't want to have to come up with a reason past "no" when my DD sees your hair and asks to dye her hair that way. You would make my life as a parent more difficult and the job of a nanny I hire is to make my life easier.

Then dont.

To pretend that you have to debate your kid about hair color is stupid. Our nanny has a tattoo, DD is 4 and said she wants a "taloo" of Elmo on her face, I told her when she turns 18 she can get whatever she wants.

Its about time for parents to stop pretending that they have no say in what their kids do. The nanny does not lay the ground work of the person your kid will become, you do. If you have to depend on the nanny for that, then you aren't doing your job as a parent.

-MB to a nanny who happens to be inked and pierced

You're the type of parent who would be okay with your child becoming a heroin addicted prostitute, so long as it happens when they're 18. Given that's probably when you started yourself. As they say, to each their own. For the rest of the world, we want what's best for our children and exposure to weirdos who have the priority of expressing themselves through tats and piercings vs. making sure they can keep a job is not the kind of example I want to show to my kids. But again, different strokes. If you want to post an email, I'll be glad to steer all of the druggy pierced and dyed weirdos that try to apply for my nanny jobs your way. Glad there's somebody for everybody!

[Anonymous]

*fact

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I'd hire you for Halloween and for my kids' birthday where you'd be required to wear a clown outfit to match the hair. Good grief, OP. What's nauseating is you had the audacity to set up an appointment with a family. I'm sorry that MB wasted gas money trying to meet you. Shame on you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people dye their hair, others insult strangers on an anonymous forum. Clearly PP, you have the "issues".

Not that PP, but I disagree with you. I think OP insulted a family by wasting their time and have them come to a meeting where she was late and looked like a clown. Talk about insulting...

[Anonymous]

I don't like your hair and don't think it is professional. But if I had made an appointment to interview you, I would have introduced myself and done the interview. If you had really impressed me with your personality and qualifications, I would have hired you anyway. Even if you didn't impress me, you deserve the courtesy of me following through on the interview.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't like your hair and don't think it is professional. But if I had made an appointment to interview you, I would have introduced myself and done the interview. If you had really impressed me with your personality and qualifications, I would have hired you anyway. Even if you didn't impress me, you deserve the courtesy of me following through on the interview.

You must have extra time on your hands. Most working moms don't. If the hair was a deal breaker, I would have sent a text canceling the interview once I saw her from afar. An interview would have been a waste of her time and mine. I also might've told her to her face, but letting her know something which would be hurtful when the end result- no job-would not be fair or useful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't like your hair and don't think it is professional. But if I had made an appointment to interview you, I would have introduced myself and done the interview. If you had really impressed me with your personality and qualifications, I would have hired you anyway. Even if you didn't impress me, you deserve the courtesy of me following through on the interview.

You must have extra time on your hands. Most working moms don't. If the hair was a deal breaker, I would have sent a text canceling the interview once I saw her from afar. An interview would have been a waste of her time and mine. I also might've told her to her face, but letting her know something which would be hurtful when the end result- no job-would not be fair or useful.

She would have treated the girl with courtesy and respect, why is that wasting her time? Here you have someone willing to try to overlook OP's appearance and get to know the person, not the hair, and you are criticizing her for doing so.

[Anonymous]

We don't even know if the mom was actually there! OP said she didn't see anyone in the place that fit the description of the family.

For all we know, the mom waited and waited, assuming the OP would be there by 3:45 like she said. When it got to be 4, the mom left. OP didn't show up until after 4.

[Anonymous]

Wow.

We have become so intolerant on DCUM. This is her choice and it is part of her culture. What if the potential MB thought that cornrows, or dreadlocks were unprofessional on an AA person. Would you be so quick to pounce on OP?

I'm sure all the negative posters think that all male nannies are pedophiles.

Let's stop judging people by their appearance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow.

We have become so intolerant on DCUM. This is her choice and it is part of her culture. What if the potential MB thought that cornrows, or dreadlocks were unprofessional on an AA person. Would you be so quick to pounce on OP?

I'm sure all the negative posters think that all male nannies are pedophiles.

Let's stop judging people by their appearance.

Are you kidding me? Her hair is part of her "culture"? Which one would that be?
Guess what OP, and everyone defending her, people make first impression judgements based on appearance. It's how the entire world works. OP is going to have a pretty tough time if she needs to whine and play the victim every time someone doesn't like her appearance.

[Anonymous]

Would I hire OP? Probably not. But does that mean she should be treated like she is a serial killer? No.

[Anonymous]

You must have extra time on your hands. Most working moms don't. If the hair was a deal breaker, I would have sent a text canceling the interview once I saw her from afar

That is incredibly immature and unprofessional. Send her a text once you see her from afar? If you don't intend to hire her, just introduce yourself and say that it isn't going to work out, so you don't want to do the interview, but thank her for her time coming to meet you. I don't have extra time on my hands, but try to maintain the standard of behaving like a decent human being nevertheless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You must have extra time on your hands. Most working moms don't. If the hair was a deal breaker, I would have sent a text canceling the interview once I saw her from afar

That is incredibly immature and unprofessional. Send her a text once you see her from afar? If you don't intend to hire her, just introduce yourself and say that it isn't going to work out, so you don't want to do the interview, but thank her for her time coming to meet you. I don't have extra time on my hands, but try to maintain the standard of behaving like a decent human being nevertheless.

When you show up 20 minutes late for an interview, you relinquish your right to mutual curtesy. I would have texted after 10 minutes of waiting lettering her know not to even bother to show up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You must have extra time on your hands. Most working moms don't. If the hair was a deal breaker, I would have sent a text canceling the interview once I saw her from afar

That is incredibly immature and unprofessional. Send her a text once you see her from afar? If you don't intend to hire her, just introduce yourself and say that it isn't going to work out, so you don't want to do the interview, but thank her for her time coming to meet you. I don't have extra time on my hands, but try to maintain the standard of behaving like a decent human being nevertheless.

When you show up 20 minutes late for an interview, you relinquish your right to mutual curtesy. I would have texted after 10 minutes of waiting lettering her know not to even bother to show up.

But OP DIDN'T show up 20 minutes late. They agreed to meet at 4:00PM, OP said she would probably be 15 minutes early (3:45PM), and would simply wait. Then one thing led to another (read the OP), and she ended up being a, *gasp,* entire 4 minutes late (arrived at 4:04PM). While punctuality certainly is important to most employers, a 5-10 minute grace period offered by either party during an interview is generous, and it's certainly not asking much.