Not hired because of my hair color (rant)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's why I would have an issue with your hair: I don't want to have to come up with a reason past "no" when my DD sees your hair and asks to dye her hair that way. You would make my life as a parent more difficult and the job of a nanny I hire is to make my life easier.

Then dont.

To pretend that you have to debate your kid about hair color is stupid. Our nanny has a tattoo, DD is 4 and said she wants a "taloo" of Elmo on her face, I told her when she turns 18 she can get whatever she wants.

Its about time for parents to stop pretending that they have no say in what their kids do. The nanny does not lay the ground work of the person your kid will become, you do. If you have to depend on the nanny for that, then you aren't doing your job as a parent.

-MB to a nanny who happens to be inked and pierced

But it's NOT okay with me for my kid to do whatever she wants when she turns 18.

i'm the pp you are responding to. I was using that as an example because I'm sure my DD will forget about having elmo inked on her face within 2.5 minutes. But at the same time, honestly, if you don't let your kid decide once they are 18, you need to get used to the fact that you may lose your child to your controlling nature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's why I would have an issue with your hair: I don't want to have to come up with a reason past "no" when my DD sees your hair and asks to dye her hair that way. You would make my life as a parent more difficult and the job of a nanny I hire is to make my life easier.

It's actually pretty easy PP, all you have to do is say that when your child is a grown up, she can make decisions like this at that time. Just like she can decide to get a tattoo or piercings, or wear hideous looking shoes. Someone else having different colored hair (whether it is bleached blond, fire engine red, or rainbow) does not make your job as a parent harder. It means teaching your child things that they should be learning anyways, that not everyone looks the same or likes the same things. You might love pink while I hate it. That wouldn't make your job as a parent any harder either. Why would someone's hair color make anything harder?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's why I would have an issue with your hair: I don't want to have to come up with a reason past "no" when my DD sees your hair and asks to dye her hair that way. You would make my life as a parent more difficult and the job of a nanny I hire is to make my life easier.

Then dont.

To pretend that you have to debate your kid about hair color is stupid. Our nanny has a tattoo, DD is 4 and said she wants a "taloo" of Elmo on her face, I told her when she turns 18 she can get whatever she wants.

Its about time for parents to stop pretending that they have no say in what their kids do. The nanny does not lay the ground work of the person your kid will become, you do. If you have to depend on the nanny for that, then you aren't doing your job as a parent.

-MB to a nanny who happens to be inked and pierced

But it's NOT okay with me for my kid to do whatever she wants when she turns 18.

Then you are in for quite a shock when you realize that your children are NOT always going to NOT do what they want to, just because you don't like it.

It's their life, not yours. You are living yours already.

[Anonymous]

You got lucky OP. The family sounds very judgmental and not worth your time. I don't understand why they would agree to an interview if they saw your pic beforehand though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like how OP ignores any questions that imply she's in the wrong, and only replies to those giving her "oh, poor you OP! That MB sounds awful" replies.

Because there are always judgemental DCUMers on every post. OP was ranting. She could care less what a bunch of anonymous people think. You guys aren't that important to OP.

No, it's because OP only posted so she could hear what she wanted to hear. I wasn't being judgmental in my previous posts.

[Anonymous]

Do you know for sure the OP saw you at the meeting place? You said you didn't see anyone who met the description. The two of you may have just missed each other. It has happened to me, it could happen to anyone.

It is funny. You say in your post you don't want to work for someone judgmental, but you come off just as judgmental, if not more so than the MB in your rant. Yes, it is a silly reason not to want to hire someone because they don't want to deal with someone with six different colors of hair, but that is their choice. Companies have dress codes and if you work for someone and they have a dress code, you abide by it or move along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know for sure the OP saw you at the meeting place? You said you didn't see anyone who met the description. The two of you may have just missed each other. It has happened to me, it could happen to anyone.

It is funny. You say in your post you don't want to work for someone judgmental, but you come off just as judgmental, if not more so than the MB in your rant. Yes, it is a silly reason not to want to hire someone because they don't want to deal with someone with six different colors of hair, but that is their choice. Companies have dress codes and if you work for someone and they have a dress code, you abide by it or move along.

However, MB didn't even bother to interview her. Maybe OP would have been willing to change her hair color if they otherwise were a good match. I've changed my hair for a retail job before.

For those of you saying you shouldn't have to explain to your children why someone has multicolored hair, I certainly hope you are willing to explain other differences such as skin color, disabilities, etc. A simple "everybody is different" would suffice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know for sure the OP saw you at the meeting place? You said you didn't see anyone who met the description. The two of you may have just missed each other. It has happened to me, it could happen to anyone.

It is funny. You say in your post you don't want to work for someone judgmental, but you come off just as judgmental, if not more so than the MB in your rant. Yes, it is a silly reason not to want to hire someone because they don't want to deal with someone with six different colors of hair, but that is their choice. Companies have dress codes and if you work for someone and they have a dress code, you abide by it or move along.

I'm not sure. As I said, the place was busy.
I think she was there, because in her negative review that she posted on care.com, she said she wanted someone punctual (and as I posted before, I got there at 4:04.)
If she wasn't there, how would she know that?
I haven't seen her picture because she doesn't have one on care.com.
There were some kids and babies when I got to our agreed location, but they didn't seem to be the age she had posted on her website.
There was a lady with two infants, one lady with another infant, some older kids.. I didn't see anyone with a 4 year old and an 18 month old.
And the reason why she insisted to meet at 4 was so she could bring both kids with her.
So I guess either I missed her, or she didn't have her kids (or one of them) with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You got lucky OP. The family sounds very judgmental and not worth your time. I don't understand why they would agree to an interview if they saw your pic beforehand though.

OP here.
Exactly my thoughts.
Why would you ask someone to come to an interview if you knew you wouldn't hire that person anyway?
It's a waste of time for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm sorry that this happened to you. I've previously had my lip pierced and pink hair and I have tattoos and have had no issues finding jobs. Someone who doesn't even bother to interview you based on your appearance isn't someone who would likely make a good employer.

+1

[Anonymous]

OP you cut off your nose to spite your face. You're long response makes you sound nuts and now you will have fewer people contacting you. If you had put up a polite, short, professional reply then the negative review would not harm you as much. As it is, you've not only validated the employer's negative posting but you've made yourself look even worse.

On the rainbow hair and nose piercing, this stuff is fine for college students BUT you need to decide what is more important... looking like a vintage Cyndi Lauper or being a professional. Holding onto to adolescent things at the expense of your profession is a sign of immaturity, poor judgement, and bad attitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Do you know for sure the OP saw you at the meeting place? You said you didn't see anyone who met the description. The two of you may have just missed each other. It has happened to me, it could happen to anyone.

It is funny. You say in your post you don't want to work for someone judgmental, but you come off just as judgmental, if not more so than the MB in your rant. Yes, it is a silly reason not to want to hire someone because they don't want to deal with someone with six different colors of hair, but that is their choice. Companies have dress codes and if you work for someone and they have a dress code, you abide by it or move along.





I'm not sure. As I said, the place was busy.
I think she was there, because in her negative review that she posted on care.com, she said she wanted someone punctual (and as I posted before, I got there at 4:04.)
If she wasn't there, how would she know that?
I haven't seen her picture because she doesn't have one on care.com.
There were some kids and babies when I got to our agreed location, but they didn't seem to be the age she had posted on her website.
There was a lady with two infants, one lady with another infant, some older kids.. I didn't see anyone with a 4 year old and an 18 month old.
And the reason why she insisted to meet at 4 was so she could bring both kids with her.
So I guess either I missed her, or she didn't have her kids (or one of them) with her.

You are so full of excuses, OP. I get it. You really want to be wronged. You want it to be about your hair color or something else entirely unfair. Problem is, we are only hearing your one side of the story and it isn't compelling.

She cares about punctuality. You were late.

Because you couldn't identify her, you draw conclusions about her screwing you over.

Funny you don't just chalk this up to a mismatch and move on. What's up with your victim talk?

[Anonymous]

Could you post a link to your care.com profile?

I wanna see the hair

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could you post a link to your care.com profile?

I wanna see the hair

Link? No
But sure, you can see my hair:

[Anonymous]

I change it every few weeks, this is what my hair looked like before: