Not hired because of my hair color (rant)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it was the hair, plus being late, plus telling her about belly dancing.

She knew about the belly dancing before setting up the interview. I can understand not hiring for any of those reasons -- that's her prerogative, but standing someone up in executable.

[Anonymous]

You were late. You can't blame her for that.

[Anonymous]

Look at it this way OP: there are families that will be okay with your appearance, and families that won't. Clearly, you don't want to work for a family that is this judgmental/close minded. You dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm sorry that this happened to you. I've previously had my lip pierced and pink hair and I have tattoos and have had no issues finding jobs. Someone who doesn't even bother to interview you based on your appearance isn't someone who would likely make a good employer.

OP here.
Same with me, never had an issue before.
And as I said, I worked for many families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look at it this way OP: there are families that will be okay with your appearance, and families that won't. Clearly, you don't want to work for a family that is this judgmental/close minded. You dodged a bullet.

OP here.
Yes, I completely agree.
Thank you.
And thank you to all who responded.

[Anonymous]

Here's why I would have an issue with your hair: I don't want to have to come up with a reason past "no" when my DD sees your hair and asks to dye her hair that way. You would make my life as a parent more difficult and the job of a nanny I hire is to make my life easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's why I would have an issue with your hair: I don't want to have to come up with a reason past "no" when my DD sees your hair and asks to dye her hair that way. You would make my life as a parent more difficult and the job of a nanny I hire is to make my life easier.

Then dont.

To pretend that you have to debate your kid about hair color is stupid. Our nanny has a tattoo, DD is 4 and said she wants a "taloo" of Elmo on her face, I told her when she turns 18 she can get whatever she wants.

Its about time for parents to stop pretending that they have no say in what their kids do. The nanny does not lay the ground work of the person your kid will become, you do. If you have to depend on the nanny for that, then you aren't doing your job as a parent.

-MB to a nanny who happens to be inked and pierced

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's why I would have an issue with your hair: I don't want to have to come up with a reason past "no" when my DD sees your hair and asks to dye her hair that way. You would make my life as a parent more difficult and the job of a nanny I hire is to make my life easier.

Then dont.

To pretend that you have to debate your kid about hair color is stupid. Our nanny has a tattoo, DD is 4 and said she wants a "taloo" of Elmo on her face, I told her when she turns 18 she can get whatever she wants.

Its about time for parents to stop pretending that they have no say in what their kids do. The nanny does not lay the ground work of the person your kid will become, you do. If you have to depend on the nanny for that, then you aren't doing your job as a parent.

-MB to a nanny who happens to be inked and pierced

But it's NOT okay with me for my kid to do whatever she wants when she turns 18.

[Anonymous]

Okay. Nanny here.

I grew up in Olney and always wanted to "get out of there" for this specific reason: Olney is SQUARE! I'm 24 years old and have had tattoos and piercings for some time now. Whenever I visit my family in Olney I get some crazy looks from the locals. Not saying everyone is Olney is judgemental. Just sharing my experience.

I CANT believe someone who didn't have the guts to meet you in person is passing a judgement on your outward appearance and then goes out of her way to mar your professional life. What a c*nt!!!!! I am so sorry this happened OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's why I would have an issue with your hair: I don't want to have to come up with a reason past "no" when my DD sees your hair and asks to dye her hair that way. You would make my life as a parent more difficult and the job of a nanny I hire is to make my life easier.

Then dont.

To pretend that you have to debate your kid about hair color is stupid. Our nanny has a tattoo, DD is 4 and said she wants a "taloo" of Elmo on her face, I told her when she turns 18 she can get whatever she wants.

Its about time for parents to stop pretending that they have no say in what their kids do. The nanny does not lay the ground work of the person your kid will become, you do. If you have to depend on the nanny for that, then you aren't doing your job as a parent.

-MB to a nanny who happens to be inked and pierced

But it's NOT okay with me for my kid to do whatever she wants when she turns 18.

Well then you've got a rough life ahead of you. You might want to start building a Rapunzel tower now...

[Anonymous]

I like how OP ignores any questions that imply she's in the wrong, and only replies to those giving her "oh, poor you OP! That MB sounds awful" replies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's why I would have an issue with your hair: I don't want to have to come up with a reason past "no" when my DD sees your hair and asks to dye her hair that way. You would make my life as a parent more difficult and the job of a nanny I hire is to make my life easier.

Then dont.

To pretend that you have to debate your kid about hair color is stupid. Our nanny has a tattoo, DD is 4 and said she wants a "taloo" of Elmo on her face, I told her when she turns 18 she can get whatever she wants.

Its about time for parents to stop pretending that they have no say in what their kids do. The nanny does not lay the ground work of the person your kid will become, you do. If you have to depend on the nanny for that, then you aren't doing your job as a parent.

-MB to a nanny who happens to be inked and pierced

Whoever is with your child for the most waking hours, has the greatest influence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like how OP ignores any questions that imply she's in the wrong, and only replies to those giving her "oh, poor you OP! That MB sounds awful" replies.

Because there are always judgemental DCUMers on every post. OP was ranting. She could care less what a bunch of anonymous people think. You guys aren't that important to OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's why I would have an issue with your hair: I don't want to have to come up with a reason past "no" when my DD sees your hair and asks to dye her hair that way. You would make my life as a parent more difficult and the job of a nanny I hire is to make my life easier.

Then dont.

To pretend that you have to debate your kid about hair color is stupid. Our nanny has a tattoo, DD is 4 and said she wants a "taloo" of Elmo on her face, I told her when she turns 18 she can get whatever she wants.

Its about time for parents to stop pretending that they have no say in what their kids do. The nanny does not lay the ground work of the person your kid will become, you do. If you have to depend on the nanny for that, then you aren't doing your job as a parent.

-MB to a nanny who happens to be inked and pierced

Whoever is with your child for the most waking hours, has the greatest influence.

Well it doesn't have to be that way. You are a parent. If you express values to your child, other things won't matter. I grew up with a nanny who was hyper conservative. My mom instilled in me values of open mindedness, those stuck, because when it came to it, she was my mother.

Learn how to parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's why I would have an issue with your hair: I don't want to have to come up with a reason past "no" when my DD sees your hair and asks to dye her hair that way. You would make my life as a parent more difficult and the job of a nanny I hire is to make my life easier.

Then dont.

To pretend that you have to debate your kid about hair color is stupid. Our nanny has a tattoo, DD is 4 and said she wants a "taloo" of Elmo on her face, I told her when she turns 18 she can get whatever she wants.

Its about time for parents to stop pretending that they have no say in what their kids do. The nanny does not lay the ground work of the person your kid will become, you do. If you have to depend on the nanny for that, then you aren't doing your job as a parent.

-MB to a nanny who happens to be inked and pierced

But it's NOT okay with me for my kid to do whatever she wants when she turns 18.

Well then you've got a rough life ahead of you. You might want to start building a Rapunzel tower now...

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