Personal issue ( my mom)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here I am sorry that you had bad experience. There is different in Mom and child. Your nanny used to take care of her kids during work hours but my mom is helpful for me. She is not my child that I have to take care of her.
I really don’t know why all nannies replies are negative. When the families had no issue why they have issue.
Or I am fortunate that I had been with very nice families.

Most of the replies have been from MBs - “mother bosses” - Employers of nannies. All of the mothers (MB) are saying they would not want their nanny to have her visiting mother with her while she was being paid to care for the child.

“Nice” is not the issue. I want a professional nanny who gives 100% to my baby - and is not distracted by her mother coming to work with her!! Why can’t you understand that? No other job allows you to bring your mother to work for three months!! You have weekends to spend with your mother while she is visiting and you can postpone classes for three months.

Do you understand now?

Op here , first you have to understand not me. SO SHIT UP. I am talking from my experiences.
How you know they are MBs?
I can answer my posts as MBs ( stupid think about that)
I think I had to learned from my experience then posting my issue here.

Calm down, OP. Your English is so much worse when you are angry.

No one seems to agree with you on the “can my mom come to work with me” front. Live with it.

[Anonymous]

Op here , I really don’t care what you guys think about my English. Your opinion is not important for me.
My employer never had any issue with my English. That’s why they are paying me very well. Infact, I teach their child another language as well.
I had interview with a very loving family. My previous employer introduced me with them.
I discuss with them about my issue. They said my mom is welcome . She is like their kids grandmother.
Now, I am waiting for their decision. They are interviewing other candidates as well.
I don’t have any reason to update my issue. I just wanted to share my situation with any one who is going through my situation.

[Anonymous]

That’s not what you said in your original post. You asked for advice, you just didn’t like the advice you received.

[Anonymous]

Op here yes that’s true I wanted advice . But, every one advice was different then my own experience.
I welcome extra help if I am going to hire nanny for my child.
My child is going to get love and attention from two nannies.
I really don’t know how nannies have enough time to reply all my posts. My posts are just few lines but I got long ( judgment) replies.
It was so funny when my previous MB read all judgementals replies. She didn’t believe it how folks could be negative like that. She is American . She believes all Americans are not same. I am sure who replied my posts are not Americans.
But they are the once who follow Americans culture more then Americans just to show how much they are Americanize

[Anonymous]

Don’t ask to being your mom. It’s a job.

[Anonymous]

There is no way that OP is paid $33/hr as she claims.

This is absurd. If the english weren't so atrocious I'd call troll, but maybe this is simply a really creative troll who spends extra time butchering the writing. Equally unfathomable to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here yes that’s true I wanted advice . But, every one advice was different then my own experience.
I welcome extra help if I am going to hire nanny for my child.
My child is going to get love and attention from two nannies.
I really don’t know how nannies have enough time to reply all my posts. My posts are just few lines but I got long ( judgment) replies.
It was so funny when my previous MB read all judgementals replies. She didn’t believe it how folks could be negative like that. She is American . She believes all Americans are not same. I am sure who replied my posts are not Americans.
But they are the once who follow Americans culture more then Americans just to show how much they are Americanize

You are nuts, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here , I really don’t care what you guys think about my English. Your opinion is not important for me.
My employer never had any issue with my English. That’s why they are paying me very well. Infact, I teach their child another language as well.
I had interview with a very loving family. My previous employer introduced me with them.
I discuss with them about my issue. They said my mom is welcome . She is like their kids grandmother.
Now, I am waiting for their decision. They are interviewing other candidates as well.
I don’t have any reason to update my issue. I just wanted to share my situation with any one who is going through my situation.

OP, it's great that your old employer allowed you to bring your mom along to your job. Many, many PPs are trying to tell you that it's pretty unusual for a family to be okay with this, and that it will likely not make a good impression if you bring her with you to an interview and/or ask about bringing her to work with you in an interview. While it would be nice for you to have your mom keep you company while you're at work, that's not going to be what many employers are looking to have happen. They are going to expect you to be working and focused on their child/children. No matter how nice your mom is, I would never expect an adult to ask to bring their parent with them to work.

[Anonymous]

We let our nanny bring his mom to work for two days when she was visiting, after we'd met her. But it was two DAYS. I am not even sure we'd be comfortable with two weeks let alone months.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And this is why I make $30/hr. Because when I show up to interviews there has been a parade of clowns like OP before me, and the parents are so happy to finally find an educated professional nanny. Keep it up, op!!

Op here I make $33 hourly not $30. The families hired me since I have my bachelor in education, seven years experience of childcare are and the way I care for my mom. Mostly families wants I raise their kids the way I am.

A hahahahahahahahaha okay! They must hire you also for your excellent English. You have zero self awareness and good luck getting another job bringing your mom to work!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here yes that’s true I wanted advice . But, every one advice was different then my own experience.
I welcome extra help if I am going to hire nanny for my child.
My child is going to get love and attention from two nannies.
I really don’t know how nannies have enough time to reply all my posts. My posts are just few lines but I got long ( judgment) replies.
It was so funny when my previous MB read all judgementals replies. She didn’t believe it how folks could be negative like that. She is American . She believes all Americans are not same. I am sure who replied my posts are not Americans.
But they are the once who follow Americans culture more then Americans just to show how much they are Americanize

[b]

Canadian here, since you were asking. We are a pretty nice nation of friendly and reasonable people. And, I think your attitude and situation is absurd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And this is why I make $30/hr. Because when I show up to interviews there has been a parade of clowns like OP before me, and the parents are so happy to finally find an educated professional nanny. Keep it up, op!!

Op here I make $33 hourly not $30. The families hired me since I have my bachelor in education, seven years experience of childcare are and the way I care for my mom. Mostly families wants I raise their kids the way I am.

A hahahahahahahahaha okay! They must hire you also for your excellent English. You have zero self awareness and good luck getting another job bringing your mom to work!

Op here, hahaha wow how long you have been working as nanny? Why do you think employer will hire you only if your English is excellent. (Experience is more important then excellent in English) Stupid . Employer are ready to hire someone who is not excellent in English but they are not ready to hire someone who don’t have childcare experience or has less experience
Yes , they will must hire my like my previous employer hired me. They told me their kids will learn English in school and with family I have to teach them another language. I did and they are very thankful for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here , I really don’t care what you guys think about my English. Your opinion is not important for me.
My employer never had any issue with my English. That’s why they are paying me very well. Infact, I teach their child another language as well.
I had interview with a very loving family. My previous employer introduced me with them.
I discuss with them about my issue. They said my mom is welcome . She is like their kids grandmother.
Now, I am waiting for their decision. They are interviewing other candidates as well.
I don’t have any reason to update my issue. I just wanted to share my situation with any one who is going through my situation.

OP, it's great that your old employer allowed you to bring your mom along to your job. Many, many PPs are trying to tell you that it's pretty unusual for a family to be okay with this, and that it will likely not make a good impression if you bring her with you to an interview and/or ask about bringing her to work with you in an interview. While it would be nice for you to have your mom keep you company while you're at work, that's not going to be what many employers are looking to have happen. They are going to expect you to be working and focused on their child/children. No matter how nice your mom is, I would never expect an adult to ask to bring their parent with them to work.

Op here, Thanks for kind words. I understand your point.
I know what I am asking is WRONG. My previous employer were very nice and very soon I will start to work with their family members. I didn’t ask them but my previous employer discussed with them . They are okay with that. My point is any time I wanted any advice I got lot of judgmental answers.
I meant in the past whenever I had any question I got very negative answers
My question was professional ( not like my recent question)
I think mostly Nannie are very upset in their lives. I ask them about my mom issue they started giving me advices about my English.
I didn’t ask about my English and their opinion is not important for me.
I feel bad for them . I read some posts so I think they work OT which makes them so upset. Or maybe mental illness. Since they do lots of OT.
If you ordered for pizza but the waitress brought burger what do you think about waitress?
She will start to give you comments about your appearance as well. Lol.

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny and I would have never dared ask my employers this kind of favor.

Especially new employers.

I am a people pleaser but honestly, had I been a MB, I would have said no to your request.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here yes that’s true I wanted advice . But, every one advice was different then my own experience.
I welcome extra help if I am going to hire nanny for my child.
My child is going to get love and attention from two nannies.
I really don’t know how nannies have enough time to reply all my posts. My posts are just few lines but I got long ( judgment) replies.
It was so funny when my previous MB read all judgementals replies. She didn’t believe it how folks could be negative like that. She is American . She believes all Americans are not same. I am sure who replied my posts are not Americans.
But they are the once who follow Americans culture more then Americans just to show how much they are Americanize

In other words - you didn’t want advice- you just wanted people to agree with you and they didn’t .

If you told me that your mom was visiting but not capable of being alone, I would assume that meant your mom had some type of cognitive issue and that would worry me. You paint a picture of your mother as someone who is not mentally capable of taking care of herself. Maybe that’s not the case but that’s what it sounds like from reading your posts. At 57, if mentally ok, your mom should be more than able to figure out how to occupy herself during the day.

I do not think your current employer is as happy as much as you think. If they were, they would have found a way to keep you when their child went to school. If I had to guess, it’s the money they are paying couples with all the crazy requests from you and they are fed up now. They will likely talk you up very highly to their friends you are interviewing with bc they just want to be done and have you move on.

Do yourself a favor. Go back and read through some of the posts that MBs posted and instead of arguing, believe them. Accept that their opinion is real and is one you will encounter in the future. Just because someone doesn’t agree with you doesn’t make them wrong.