Personal issue ( my mom)

[Anonymous]

I am looking for new nanny position. Since, my current charge family don’t need my service any more. My charge is going to pre school soon.
Now, here is my issue my mom is going to visit me for three or four months . She is going to visit me from UK.
I am going to take my classes in evening. If I will find a job I am going to be at work for eight hours then my classes for three hours. So my poor mom will be by herself. Last year my previous employer were so nice they had no issue when my mom stayed with me at my work. I asked for their permission they were okay with that. Now, I am going to start with new family. Is that nice if I will ask them if my mom joins me for three months. Since, she is just visiting.
Please give me any advice. I don’t want to stop my mom for visiting me.
Thanks

[Anonymous]

It is bad form to ask for any favors with a new job. Get the job and do great for a few mo this before asking. Can your mother choose to come later?

[Anonymous]

Op here no she paid for the ticket. My current employer just inform me they don’t need my care any more. If I knew I would stopped my mom.

[Anonymous]

When is your mom coming? 3 or 4 months is a long time.

[Anonymous]

Op here she will be here by next week.

[Anonymous]

Oof. How old is the new baby, and when is your mom coming?

I would feel very uncomfortable about agreeing to this until I got to know my new nanny better. I mean, I interviewed you, and did a background check on you, not your mom. And 3 months is a long time. Maybe you need to postpone school.

If it's an infant, it would be easier to agree because it seems easy to have someone else just hanging out all day. An older kid, I'd worry you were interacting with your mom more than the baby, prioritizing places to go with her, having the tv on, etc..

[Anonymous]

As an employer, I would feel very uncomfortable having a brand new nanny - and her mother - in the first few months of a new job.

No, OP, I would feel angry even being asked and needing to to say no. I want you to bond with my baby and not be distracted by your mother.

Sorry, but you need to be more professional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As an employer, I would feel very uncomfortable having a brand new nanny - and her mother - in the first few months of a new job.

No, OP, I would feel angry even being asked and needing to to say no. I want you to bond with my baby and not be distracted by your mother.

Sorry, but you need to be more professional.

I would also be really, really annoyed that you interviewed for and accepted the job without ever bringing this HUGE request up, which you clearly knew about before you even applied.

[Anonymous]

I concur w/the previous responders that it would be rude to ask a new employer if you can bring your Mother to work w/you.

And yes, they may also resent being “put on the spot.”

Better to just refrain from asking.
Do you have a friend or neighbor who can spend some time w/your Mum while you are busy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I concur w/the previous responders that it would be rude to ask a new employer if you can bring your Mother to work w/you.

And yes, they may also resent being “put on the spot.”

Better to just refrain from asking.
Do you have a friend or neighbor who can spend some time w/your Mum while you are busy?

For 3 months? 8+ hours a day? That's a lot to impose on a friend or neighbor too.

OP, can you afford to not work while your mom is visiting? If you want to spend the whole day with your mom, that might be your only option. I really don't know of any occupations that would allow an employee to bring an adult family member along to work every day for 3 months. Honestly, it's a completely outlandish request.

[Anonymous]

OP, what job exists where you can bring your mother?! Come on - you know it is bad form to even ask.

[Anonymous]

Please do not even ask. Either postpone school or tell your mother not to come.

[Anonymous]

Op here , I am working as nanny almost seven years. All my previous employer never had any issue with that. The difference is I was working with the family when my mom visited me. So , once they met my mom they accepted her happily.
Now, I am going to start with new family . It’s not like before.
Before I was working with families now I am going to start with a family.
The best thing is I will take my mom when I will go for interview. ( I will not ask them but I will mention that she is visiting I will mention the situation)If they offer me so I will take her with me if they don’t then I will start my classes after she will leave. I had been with very nice families. My mom visit me every two years or every year.
Thanks for all replies

[Anonymous]

Op here , my mom is 57 years old, healthy, non smoker I know she is not going to be employe but my last employer gave me raise for $3. They felt my mom is excellent cook. She loves cooking she cooked for them ( whenever she was in mood not regular basis) we were like family. They loved her .
I am sharing my experience since I feel there is very nice families.

[Anonymous]

It has nothing to do with whether they were nice families. The point is that you are just starting with a new family, and it’s very, very unprofessional.