My NF won't leave an outdoor light on for me

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Life is so scary, I don't know how you people even leave the house!

Is it too much to ask DB to install solar powered garden lights from their house down both directions of the public sidewalk so I can park on either side. And also is it too much to ask DB to watch out the window 5 minutes before my scheduled arrival time to make sure the coast is clear and watch me approach for safety? And is it too much to ask that DB install a biometric house lock so someone can't break in incase I forget to lock the door? Oh and is it too much to ask that MB provide pepper spray as part of my compensation package?

I was sexually assaulted by a stranger while walking alone in the dark. This isn't something to joke about. Everyone deserves to have safe working conditions. Why is asking for a porch light to be left on such an unreasonable thing to you?
This entire thread makes me sad.

I would not leave my porch lights on all night for nanny. Nor would I race down at 6:30 am to turn them on for her. If my nanny ever asked for something so ridiculous I would fire her, but luckily I have nothing to worry about because I hired a mentally stable nanny.

You would fire someone for asking you to leave a porcelain tht on for her in the dark? That says waaaaaaaay more about you than it does her.

*porchlight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life is so scary, I don't know how you people even leave the house!

Is it too much to ask DB to install solar powered garden lights from their house down both directions of the public sidewalk so I can park on either side. And also is it too much to ask DB to watch out the window 5 minutes before my scheduled arrival time to make sure the coast is clear and watch me approach for safety? And is it too much to ask that DB install a biometric house lock so someone can't break in incase I forget to lock the door? Oh and is it too much to ask that MB provide pepper spray as part of my compensation package?

I was sexually assaulted by a stranger while walking alone in the dark. This isn't something to joke about. Everyone deserves to have safe working conditions. Why is asking for a porch light to be left on such an unreasonable thing to you?
This entire thread makes me sad.

I would not leave my porch lights on all night for nanny. Nor would I race down at 6:30 am to turn them on for her. If my nanny ever asked for something so ridiculous I would fire her, but luckily I have nothing to worry about because I hired a mentally stable nanny.

You would fire someone for asking you to leave a porcelain tht on for her in the dark? That says waaaaaaaay more about you than it does her.

I need someone mature, stable, and smart to care for my DS, not someone who is worried about being raped every morning and can't function in the real world.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life is so scary, I don't know how you people even leave the house!

Is it too much to ask DB to install solar powered garden lights from their house down both directions of the public sidewalk so I can park on either side. And also is it too much to ask DB to watch out the window 5 minutes before my scheduled arrival time to make sure the coast is clear and watch me approach for safety? And is it too much to ask that DB install a biometric house lock so someone can't break in incase I forget to lock the door? Oh and is it too much to ask that MB provide pepper spray as part of my compensation package?

I was sexually assaulted by a stranger while walking alone in the dark. This isn't something to joke about. Everyone deserves to have safe working conditions. Why is asking for a porch light to be left on such an unreasonable thing to you?
This entire thread makes me sad.

I would not leave my porch lights on all night for nanny. Nor would I race down at 6:30 am to turn them on for her. If my nanny ever asked for something so ridiculous I would fire her, but luckily I have nothing to worry about because I hired a mentally stable nanny.

You would fire someone for asking you to leave a porcelain tht on for her in the dark? That says waaaaaaaay more about you than it does her.

I need someone mature, stable, and smart to care for my DS, not someone who is worried about being raped every morning and can't function in the real world.

I function just fine in the real world and am very mature, smart and stable. I'm not afraid of being raped every morning, I just don't like putting myself in situations that can jeopardize my safety. Walking from my car in the dark is absolutely a dangerous situation. You'd prefer your nanny be willing to take chances with her health and safety? If she's willing to take chances with her own life, she'll have no problem taking chances with your child.
You are a silly woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life is so scary, I don't know how you people even leave the house!

Is it too much to ask DB to install solar powered garden lights from their house down both directions of the public sidewalk so I can park on either side. And also is it too much to ask DB to watch out the window 5 minutes before my scheduled arrival time to make sure the coast is clear and watch me approach for safety? And is it too much to ask that DB install a biometric house lock so someone can't break in incase I forget to lock the door? Oh and is it too much to ask that MB provide pepper spray as part of my compensation package?

I was sexually assaulted by a stranger while walking alone in the dark. This isn't something to joke about. Everyone deserves to have safe working conditions. Why is asking for a porch light to be left on such an unreasonable thing to you?
This entire thread makes me sad.

I would not leave my porch lights on all night for nanny. Nor would I race down at 6:30 am to turn them on for her. If my nanny ever asked for something so ridiculous I would fire her, but luckily I have nothing to worry about because I hired a mentally stable nanny.

You would fire someone for asking you to leave a porcelain tht on for her in the dark? That says waaaaaaaay more about you than it does her.

I need someone mature, stable, and smart to care for my DS, not someone who is worried about being raped every morning and can't function in the real world.

I function just fine in the real world and am very mature, smart and stable. I'm not afraid of being raped every morning, I just don't like putting myself in situations that can jeopardize my safety. Walking from my car in the dark is absolutely a dangerous situation. You'd prefer your nanny be willing to take chances with her health and safety? If she's willing to take chances with her own life, she'll have no problem taking chances with your child.
You are a silly woman.

So you draw the line for safety at walk 200 feet from your car, but you'll drive on the road with the rest of those maniacs with no fear?!?!?! The point here is that everything is a dangerous situation, you could die, get mugged, raped, or hurt doing anything, even sitting at the park with 20 other nannies. Being petrified of walking a short distance in the dark in a residential neighborhood is not a normal fear and you really should get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life is so scary, I don't know how you people even leave the house!

Is it too much to ask DB to install solar powered garden lights from their house down both directions of the public sidewalk so I can park on either side. And also is it too much to ask DB to watch out the window 5 minutes before my scheduled arrival time to make sure the coast is clear and watch me approach for safety? And is it too much to ask that DB install a biometric house lock so someone can't break in incase I forget to lock the door? Oh and is it too much to ask that MB provide pepper spray as part of my compensation package?

I was sexually assaulted by a stranger while walking alone in the dark. This isn't something to joke about. Everyone deserves to have safe working conditions. Why is asking for a porch light to be left on such an unreasonable thing to you?
This entire thread makes me sad.

I would not leave my porch lights on all night for nanny. Nor would I race down at 6:30 am to turn them on for her. If my nanny ever asked for something so ridiculous I would fire her, but luckily I have nothing to worry about because I hired a mentally stable nanny.

You would fire someone for asking you to leave a porcelain tht on for her in the dark? That says waaaaaaaay more about you than it does her.

I need someone mature, stable, and smart to care for my DS, not someone who is worried about being raped every morning and can't function in the real world.

I function just fine in the real world and am very mature, smart and stable. I'm not afraid of being raped every morning, I just don't like putting myself in situations that can jeopardize my safety. Walking from my car in the dark is absolutely a dangerous situation. You'd prefer your nanny be willing to take chances with her health and safety? If she's willing to take chances with her own life, she'll have no problem taking chances with your child.
You are a silly woman.

So you draw the line for safety at walk 200 feet from your car, but you'll drive on the road with the rest of those maniacs with no fear?!?!?! The point here is that everything is a dangerous situation, you could die, get mugged, raped, or hurt doing anything, even sitting at the park with 20 other nannies. Being petrified of walking a short distance in the dark in a residential neighborhood is not a normal fear and you really should get over it.

As I said before, I was assaulted while walking alone in the dark. If I can decrease the risk of that ever hPpening to me again by asking my employer to leave a light on for me, I'll do it. You really have no idea what you're yalking about.

[Anonymous]

But it is NOT pitch black at 6:30am. You're welcome, problem solved. I leave for work at 6:15am everyday for work and safely get to my car parked on the street without a porch light. I'm not trying to be snarky, but OP you are starting to sound very dramatic. If your employers continue to forget, either get a flashlight or use flashlight app on our iPhone or quit. These are reasonable easy solutions. Stop being dramatic and find a solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As I said before, I was assaulted while walking alone in the dark. If I can decrease the risk of that ever hPpening to me again by asking my employer to leave a light on for me, I'll do it. You really have no idea what you're yalking about.

Wait, are you the OP?

If you were assaulted while walking in the dark, then you certainly do/should have a heightened sense of fear when you are in that situation. While it's reasonable in any situation to ask your NF to turn the light on for you, in this situation, your NF should have a greater awareness of how vulnerable you feel alone in the dark. Have you told them about this? Not saying that you have to, but if you explain why, exactly, this is so important to you, then I am sure you would have a better chance of them complying with your request.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But it is NOT pitch black at 6:30am. You're welcome, problem solved. I leave for work at 6:15am everyday for work and safely get to my car parked on the street without a porch light. I'm not trying to be snarky, but OP you are starting to sound very dramatic. If your employers continue to forget, either get a flashlight or use flashlight app on our iPhone or quit. These are reasonable easy solutions. Stop being dramatic and find a solution.

I don't l be in DC. Where I live, the sun isn't up until 7:36 and it is black at 6:30.
I carry 2 bags and also have to deal with keys. Adding a flashlight to the mix is not an option.
I am not being dramatic. I am asking for appropriate lighting so I can see where I am going and so I can out the key in the lock.
Fumbling around with a flashlight or an iPhone is dangerous. Ask any self-defense expert and they will tell you that our risk of attack is increased exponentially the more you are carrying. I'm not asking for an armed escort. I just want one light.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But it is NOT pitch black at 6:30am. You're welcome, problem solved. I leave for work at 6:15am everyday for work and safely get to my car parked on the street without a porch light. I'm not trying to be snarky, but OP you are starting to sound very dramatic. If your employers continue to forget, either get a flashlight or use flashlight app on our iPhone or quit. These are reasonable easy solutions. Stop being dramatic and find a solution.

I don't l be in DC. Where I live, the sun isn't up until 7:36 and it is black at 6:30.
I carry 2 bags and also have to deal with keys. Adding a flashlight to the mix is not an option.
I am not being dramatic. I am asking for appropriate lighting so I can see where I am going and so I can out the key in the lock.
Fumbling around with a flashlight or an iPhone is dangerous. Ask any self-defense expert and they will tell you that our risk of attack is increased exponentially the more you are carrying. I'm not asking for an armed escort. I just want one light.

*live in

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As I said before, I was assaulted while walking alone in the dark. If I can decrease the risk of that ever hPpening to me again by asking my employer to leave a light on for me, I'll do it. You really have no idea what you're yalking about.

Wait, are you the OP?

If you were assaulted while walking in the dark, then you certainly do/should have a heightened sense of fear when you are in that situation. While it's reasonable in any situation to ask your NF to turn the light on for you, in this situation, your NF should have a greater awareness of how vulnerable you feel alone in the dark. Have you told them about this? Not saying that you have to, but if you explain why, exactly, this is so important to you, then I am sure you would have a better chance of them complying with your request.

Yes, I'm OP. I really don't want to tell them about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But it is NOT pitch black at 6:30am. You're welcome, problem solved. I leave for work at 6:15am everyday for work and safely get to my car parked on the street without a porch light. I'm not trying to be snarky, but OP you are starting to sound very dramatic. If your employers continue to forget, either get a flashlight or use flashlight app on our iPhone or quit. These are reasonable easy solutions. Stop being dramatic and find a solution.

Telling a tape victim that she's being dramatic. You're a special kind of stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But it is NOT pitch black at 6:30am. You're welcome, problem solved. I leave for work at 6:15am everyday for work and safely get to my car parked on the street without a porch light. I'm not trying to be snarky, but OP you are starting to sound very dramatic. If your employers continue to forget, either get a flashlight or use flashlight app on our iPhone or quit. These are reasonable easy solutions. Stop being dramatic and find a solution.

Telling a tape victim that she's being dramatic. You're a special kind of stupid.

That should read 'rape victim.'

[Anonymous]

I find it interesting that OP has not responded to the very logical and reasonable suggestions that she buy a flashlight and take her keys out of her bag before exiting her car. That would solve her problem and empower herself to take care of herself, like every other reasonable adults.

For me to have faith in a nanny's judgment, I would expect her to demonstrate the ability to take care of herself and take precautions for her own safety like an adult. If she is too timid to solve her own lighting problem, I'd have reservations about her ability to take care of children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But it is NOT pitch black at 6:30am. You're welcome, problem solved. I leave for work at 6:15am everyday for work and safely get to my car parked on the street without a porch light. I'm not trying to be snarky, but OP you are starting to sound very dramatic. If your employers continue to forget, either get a flashlight or use flashlight app on our iPhone or quit. These are reasonable easy solutions. Stop being dramatic and find a solution.

Telling a tape victim that she's being dramatic. You're a special kind of stupid.

That should read 'rape victim.'

She is being dramatic because there are easy solutions. Not dramatic because she wants light. Rape was never mentioned btw. USE A DAMN FLASHLIGHT! How is this still a discussion?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it interesting that OP has not responded to the very logical and reasonable suggestions that she buy a flashlight and take her keys out of her bag before exiting her car. That would solve her problem and empower herself to take care of herself, like every other reasonable adults.

For me to have faith in a nanny's judgment, I would expect her to demonstrate the ability to take care of herself and take precautions for her own safety like an adult. If she is too timid to solve her own lighting problem, I'd have reservations about her ability to take care of children.

I have responded to that several times.