My nanny has lost my trust, very complicated.
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Anonymous
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you're highly overreacting! holy cow! it's not like she was withholding medications or something crucial to his life because she didn't like them side effects of them. it's milk, give it up.
what's up with the high horse attitude, lady???! "my nanny's child is lactose intolerant and she knows the symptoms, BUT THIS IS MY CHILD" ok, fucking relax. your nanny isn't a peasant off the street. she gave you a legit concern, you ignored, and you were WRONG. she "disobeyed" (ok, queen bitch) one of your (stupid) orders - yes. she did. it didn't harm anyone - IT ACTUALLY HELPED. however, it hurt your mommy/boss ego. i'd hate to work for you. she LOST YOUR TRUST? she was LOOKING OUT FOR YOUR KID AFTER YOU LEAVE HIM! you act like she did some horrible act, like leaving your child in the car and forgot about him. to be fair, i understand if you're annoyed because i try to understand crazy personalities such as yours, but to say she lost your trust forever is so, so, so, so absurd. |
Anonymous
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"My intent was not to ignore my nannies suggestions, I assure you. My intent was for ME to make these decisions for my son. If I had found out she was disobeying me and my son was not lactose-intolerant I would have already fired her."
You're a nightmare, OP. |
Anonymous
| Nannies are not robots. Nannies are not a exact replica of you. If you want something done 10000000000% your way, you'll have to do it yourself. You seem to be on some sort of power trip. To lose all trust over someone who cares about your child is really horrible of you. |
Anonymous
| Shame on you for not taking her advice in the first place. A simple google search would tell you that his pain was not caused by teething. |
Anonymous
| Fire her so she can get a job with a family that actually values her experience. |
Anonymous
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Forget these wretched nannies. They spend all day pleasing their MBs who they secretly resent but can't show because they would lose their job. They need to keep their jobs because the nanny job market is really tough right now and they have no other options. They are taking it out on you.
You didn't say anything unreasonable. Sorry you are in this situation. |
Anonymous
Because.... she wants her son to get milk during the day? Go back to whatever hole you crawled out of. |
Anonymous
| ALSO a simple google search will tell you that teething has been linked to vomiting and diarrhea. Do not listen to these stupid nannies who don't know one from two. |
Anonymous
Washing baby's bottle and rinsing three times vs one or two times? Yes, you are absolutely right. Starting milk elimination just because she suspects it without parent consent is an entirely different matter.Does the nanny get to choose the preschool too? No, big decisions belong to parents. |
Anonymous
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Nutty poster calling all of the nannies names, you need to calm your bitter self down. Because a couple of nannies say ridiculous things is not an excuse to dismiss, and talk down to all the others.
To OP, I can understand where you are coming from in feeling like your nanny went behind your back when she changed your DS's diet. That's not okay. But you really should ask yourself what you would have preferred she do? How would you have felt if she had told you she thought it was a dairy allergy, you disagreed, and she continued to feed DS dairy knowingly making him sick? I think you should have a conversation with your nanny and start with apologizing for dismissing her instincts and experience. But be sure to also address your concerns that she made what you feel is a big decision in changing his diet and that in the future big decisions/changes need to be discussed and okay'd with you. Take this situation and use it to improve your relationship with your nanny, not as a reason to distrust her. Let her know that in the future you will not be so quick to dismiss her thoughts/instincts, and ask that she openly communicate with you. You closed the door to open communication when you dismissed her initial concerns. |
Anonymous
No one possibly can KNOW this for sure. Her nanny guessed, secondguessing MB behind her back. OP doesn't need to be apologetic about anything. |
Anonymous
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Wait. Wait. Wait.
You're upset because your nanny DIDN'T feed your child something that made him sick? New low for DCmoms. |
Anonymous
If you really think this, you have really low reading comprehension. |
Anonymous
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Ok people, it really is not that hard to know what is causing an allergy in a child. Two of my children have some food allergies. It really didn't take us long at all to figure out exactly what they are. And we didn't need to go get them allergy tested to know for sure. If your nanny is the one with your son 70% of the time, she would know this. She raised her concerns with you numerous times. You really should have listened to her. I think that you are more upset with yourself for not picking this up on your own and knowing that it was your nanny that "saved" your child. Just be so happy that your nanny cares so much.
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Anonymous
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Nanny here. Whatever the nanny did, she should have told you. I write down everything the kids ate, what we did that day and any special concerns.
I don't think there is anything one could say in defense of keeping milk from a 1 year old and not telling MB. |