I am honestly devastated and completely lost...

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11:49 was a hypothetical guess at a possible other side of the story.

We had a nanny for more than three years who behaved in much the same way as that hypothetical scenario, and who also had increasing unreliability, growing depression, etc...

She is a lovely person and she dearly loved our kids, but she was no longer the best solution.

We debated putting the kids in an early preschool, because frankly that would have been MUCH easier than telling her she was no longer good enough.

It wasn't the best solution for our kids though, so we fired the nanny and replaced her with someone more appropriate and suited for their current ages and needs.

It was very hard.

Lots of parents don't have experience hiring and managing other people, much less in such personal circumstances. So putting a child in preschool can be an easier way for them to end a nanny relationship that wasn't working.

Whether that's right or not for the child(ren) in question is for the parents to decide. But it is pretty unlikely that serious harm will be done given a stable home life. It might even be a real improvement for the kid.

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Anonymous wrote:11:49 was a hypothetical guess at a possible other side of the story.

We had a nanny for more than three years who behaved in much the same way as that hypothetical scenario, and who also had increasing unreliability, growing depression, etc...

She is a lovely person and she dearly loved our kids, but she was no longer the best solution.

We debated putting the kids in an early preschool, because frankly that would have been MUCH easier than telling her she was no longer good enough.

It wasn't the best solution for our kids though, so we fired the nanny and replaced her with someone more appropriate and suited for their current ages and needs.

It was very hard.

Lots of parents don't have experience hiring and managing other people, much less in such personal circumstances. So putting a child in preschool can be an easier way for them to end a nanny relationship that wasn't working.

Whether that's right or not for the child(ren) in question is for the parents to decide. But it is pretty unlikely that serious harm will be done given a stable home life. It might even be a real improvement for the kid.

OF COURSE IT IS FOR THE PARENTS TO DECIDE!!! Who is debating that?! This is simply an educated nanny worried about her charge adjusting to daycare.

Christ, DCUM is really bugging me today. So many fricking Drama Queens!

The nanny feels bad. I get it. She will miss her charge. She doesn't thing the parents have made the right decision. THAT IS ALL THAT OP SAID. She wants ways to best handle the transition. Maybe one or two MBs and no nannies gave her any suggestions on how to best handle it for her charge! The rest of you just gave noise.

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Anonymous wrote:you all are assuming that these people are done with this nanny because they want to go on more vacation. we only know this because OP said this (I highly doubt the family said "we'd like to go on vacation more so we need to put DC in daycare"). is she that reliable of a storyteller given her extreme reaction and that she has "never been more disappointed in two people" in her entire life?

Exactly.

I bet the parents' side of this could read something like "We had this seemingly great nanny but the longer she was with us the more over-attached she got, and the more judgmental she became. It felt like she was questioning our authority as parents and really being way too emotional. But we like her, and we can't bring ourselves to fire her. So we decided, when Junior was old enough, to make a switch to daycare and we gave her more than a month's notice. We figured that would be easier on everyone. Instead she lost her mind and just totally convinced us we were making the right decision."

You bet and you think? Come on, you have less credibility than a biased OP.

Of course we have to take "her side" as truth otherwise there is not point in having a message board at all. This is not "point - counterpoint" where we will now hear the MB;s side of the story. A poster tell their "truth" and we advise or otherwise comment on it.


Sadly, as an MB, I have known parents even more selfish than just sacrificing their child's nanny for a couple of nice vacations and new shoes. As a PP wrote, you are very lucky to think those people don't exist.

There are parents in my kid's school who send the nanny and tutor to parent-teacher conferences and don't even show up. They don't even make the time to meet their child's teacher. Sad. And this is an expensive private school. What were both parents doing that is annually more important than their child?!

Good grief, you people are judgmental. My husband is deployed (mom or dad could be on a business trip in another family). I have zero flexibility in my work schedule because I have to cover everything else while he's gone. So the nanny went to the parent/teacher conference. If I could have scheduled the conference at my convenience, I would have gone. But, the day was scheduled by the school. The nanny was available, so she went.

Also, I have four kids. I cannot take four days off four parent/teacher conferences twice a year during the day. I am sure there are others with similar issues.

Nanny here. I've worked with temp single parents (one deployed or is out of country for a month+ at a time) and full-time single parents. I nanny and tutor, so I'm at every conference, and frequently schedule extras. If the parent writes a list of questions and has the opportunity to listen to the taped conference (including my questions) and make a call later for follow-up, why would they be less involved than the parent who goes, nods and leaves without caring?

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Anonymous wrote:11:49 was a hypothetical guess at a possible other side of the story.

We had a nanny for more than three years who behaved in much the same way as that hypothetical scenario, and who also had increasing unreliability, growing depression, etc...

She is a lovely person and she dearly loved our kids, but she was no longer the best solution.

We debated putting the kids in an early preschool, because frankly that would have been MUCH easier than telling her she was no longer good enough.

It wasn't the best solution for our kids though, so we fired the nanny and replaced her with someone more appropriate and suited for their current ages and needs.

It was very hard.

Lots of parents don't have experience hiring and managing other people, much less in such personal circumstances. So putting a child in preschool can be an easier way for them to end a nanny relationship that wasn't working.

Whether that's right or not for the child(ren) in question is for the parents to decide. But it is pretty unlikely that serious harm will be done given a stable home life. It might even be a real improvement for the kid.

OF COURSE IT IS FOR THE PARENTS TO DECIDE!!! Who is debating that?! This is simply an educated nanny worried about her charge adjusting to daycare.

Christ, DCUM is really bugging me today. So many fricking Drama Queens!

The nanny feels bad. I get it. She will miss her charge. She doesn't thing the parents have made the right decision. THAT IS ALL THAT OP SAID. She wants ways to best handle the transition. Maybe one or two MBs and no nannies gave her any suggestions on how to best handle it for her charge! The rest of you just gave noise.

Actually, a few nannies did. Telling her to get out is valid, as the child hasn't moved yet, and daycare won't start for a few weeks, so the child can start to get over losing her first, before dealing with the other changes.

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Anonymous wrote:Curious -- I can see why a move to daycare between 18-36 months is disruptive. What about a move to a morning preschool/nanny hybrid at 2 years?

We put all 3 of our children in morning preschool at 2 years old with the nanny picking them up. The two children who went 3 mornings a week took longer to adjust than the one who started 5 days a week (and she was only 25 months at the time and was adjusted by day 5 of preschool) but in general it's been great.

In my experience, there are some children who adjust well no matter the age. However, the vast majority of children do not adjust well between 18 and 36 months. And morning preschool with drop-off/pick-up by the nanny is far different from switching from nanny all day to daycare and losing nanny at the same time.

My son started his excellent home daycare at 20 months and was done with adjustment by the end of his first week.

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Anonymous wrote:how many of these sympathetic MBs are actually OP?

PP of an above comment and I am not OP.

I'm extremely sympathetic and I think this family has a marvelous nanny on their hands and it too stupid and cheap to see it. In my world, my kids come first. I don't economize to their deteiment.

Flame away, I think daycare is horrible. I'm a MB and the OP is the kind of nanny we had for our kids for many years. She is still very close to our kids am I'm secure enough in my role as a mother to allow another woman to hold a high place in my kids hearts.

Some mothers are terrified of people like the OP, too insecure to allow a woman in their lives who might love them as much as she does.

Thank you, PP! YOU are the MBs that good nannies want to work for. Your children are blessed.

They CANNOT afford the nanny. No, they haven't had a vacation (which everyone deserves, btw), but they are also not paying her very well and acan't afford raises, etc.. And the nanny cannot afford that job. She loves the boy, but she has taken on extra jobs just to pay her bills. This is not a good situation for either party. The daycare is doing a good transition time, and he may love it.

There is "can't afford" and "can't afford", PP. Cannot afford something because the money simply isn't there in any, way, shape or form? Or cannot afford because you want to spend the money on more fun things like vacations and clothes or to save money (while saving money is a laudable goal it is not always possible - this boy staying with his nanny for another year is far more important than having money in the bank at this point).

We are not a wealthy couple by any means. My DH is still in graduate school and we live in a rental apartment. We exist on my salary alone. But we sacrifice for a great nanny for our boy and will continue to do so. We cut cable, vacations, new clothes and saving money - we actually dip into our savings every month to pay our nanny. However, our situation is not forever - once DH graduates he will go to work and we will have two incomes again - and be able to save, buy a house, go on vacations, etc.

As I wrote earlier, I do not save money on my child's back. His welfare comes first - always.

Yup. Nanny family here. We have not flew as a family since our kids were born. In this order : essential bills, savings, nanny, luxuries. I'm sure as hell not swapping out excellent stable childcare for luxuries.let's not bullshit here, many people put themselves before what is best for their kids.

The bolded family cut savings for a nanny. They are borrowing from their future earnings.

And that is so bad - why? I wrote earlier that this is what we do. My DH is still in graduate school and we exist on my salary alone until he finishes - but he will finish and start working. Our situation is temporary. If OP's family is in a similar circumstance that it makes sense to borrow from future earnings now when it matters to their child the most. So, we have to wait another two years before we buy our first house - why does that matter? As long as my child is healthy, thriving, secure and we are all happy with the arrangement with our nanny, it makes good economic sense.

Changes are, at the age of most young parents, we will never be earning less than we do now. If you choose to have a child during the "salad years" then you sacrifice for the child.

You have no idea what their financial situation is, and you have no business telling other families how to organize their financial priorities. I would personally never touch my savings for childcare.

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Anonymous wrote:how many of these sympathetic MBs are actually OP?

PP of an above comment and I am not OP.

I'm extremely sympathetic and I think this family has a marvelous nanny on their hands and it too stupid and cheap to see it. In my world, my kids come first. I don't economize to their deteiment.

Flame away, I think daycare is horrible. I'm a MB and the OP is the kind of nanny we had for our kids for many years. She is still very close to our kids am I'm secure enough in my role as a mother to allow another woman to hold a high place in my kids hearts.

Some mothers are terrified of people like the OP, too insecure to allow a woman in their lives who might love them as much as she does.

Thank you, PP! YOU are the MBs that good nannies want to work for. Your children are blessed.

They CANNOT afford the nanny. No, they haven't had a vacation (which everyone deserves, btw), but they are also not paying her very well and acan't afford raises, etc.. And the nanny cannot afford that job. She loves the boy, but she has taken on extra jobs just to pay her bills. This is not a good situation for either party. The daycare is doing a good transition time, and he may love it.

There is "can't afford" and "can't afford", PP. Cannot afford something because the money simply isn't there in any, way, shape or form? Or cannot afford because you want to spend the money on more fun things like vacations and clothes or to save money (while saving money is a laudable goal it is not always possible - this boy staying with his nanny for another year is far more important than having money in the bank at this point).

We are not a wealthy couple by any means. My DH is still in graduate school and we live in a rental apartment. We exist on my salary alone. But we sacrifice for a great nanny for our boy and will continue to do so. We cut cable, vacations, new clothes and saving money - we actually dip into our savings every month to pay our nanny. However, our situation is not forever - once DH graduates he will go to work and we will have two incomes again - and be able to save, buy a house, go on vacations, etc.

As I wrote earlier, I do not save money on my child's back. His welfare comes first - always.

You have no idea what's more important for that boy.

And if he stayed with the nanny for one more year, she'd still be here hand-wringing about having to say goodbye and how she is SO emotional.

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Anonymous wrote:you all are assuming that these people are done with this nanny because they want to go on more vacation. we only know this because OP said this (I highly doubt the family said "we'd like to go on vacation more so we need to put DC in daycare"). is she that reliable of a storyteller given her extreme reaction and that she has "never been more disappointed in two people" in her entire life?

Exactly.

I bet the parents' side of this could read something like "We had this seemingly great nanny but the longer she was with us the more over-attached she got, and the more judgmental she became. It felt like she was questioning our authority as parents and really being way too emotional. But we like her, and we can't bring ourselves to fire her. So we decided, when Junior was old enough, to make a switch to daycare and we gave her more than a month's notice. We figured that would be easier on everyone. Instead she lost her mind and just totally convinced us we were making the right decision."

You bet and you think? Come on, you have less credibility than a biased OP.

Of course we have to take "her side" as truth otherwise there is not point in having a message board at all. This is not "point - counterpoint" where we will now hear the MB;s side of the story. A poster tell their "truth" and we advise or otherwise comment on it.


Sadly, as an MB, I have known parents even more selfish than just sacrificing their child's nanny for a couple of nice vacations and new shoes. As a PP wrote, you are very lucky to think those people don't exist.

There are parents in my kid's school who send the nanny and tutor to parent-teacher conferences and don't even show up. They don't even make the time to meet their child's teacher. Sad. And this is an expensive private school. What were both parents doing that is annually more important than their child?!

Good grief, you people are judgmental. My husband is deployed (mom or dad could be on a business trip in another family). I have zero flexibility in my work schedule because I have to cover everything else while he's gone. So the nanny went to the parent/teacher conference. If I could have scheduled the conference at my convenience, I would have gone. But, the day was scheduled by the school. The nanny was available, so she went.

Also, I have four kids. I cannot take four days off four parent/teacher conferences twice a year during the day. I am sure there are others with similar issues.

And this is why I would never have 4 kids and work FT. You cannot parent them properly without a partner who is present.

Not making it to parent teacher conferences. Pitiful.

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Maybe MB is 12 weeks along with a second child.

Maybe they were hoping to put off daycare a little longer, but know they can't afford a nanny for two small children.

Excellent daycares are difficult to get into, and it's much easier to get a sibling in than snag an open spot as a FTP. It would make sense, then, they'd take the opportunity of this spot opening up so they can have quality, secured childcare for both their children.

There are just so many possibilities here, I absolutely do not believe previous outraged posters are MBs. Let's all assume every mom we know is doing the best she can for her family.

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Anonymous wrote:you all are assuming that these people are done with this nanny because they want to go on more vacation. we only know this because OP said this (I highly doubt the family said "we'd like to go on vacation more so we need to put DC in daycare"). is she that reliable of a storyteller given her extreme reaction and that she has "never been more disappointed in two people" in her entire life?

Exactly.

I bet the parents' side of this could read something like "We had this seemingly great nanny but the longer she was with us the more over-attached she got, and the more judgmental she became. It felt like she was questioning our authority as parents and really being way too emotional. But we like her, and we can't bring ourselves to fire her. So we decided, when Junior was old enough, to make a switch to daycare and we gave her more than a month's notice. We figured that would be easier on everyone. Instead she lost her mind and just totally convinced us we were making the right decision."

You bet and you think? Come on, you have less credibility than a biased OP.

Of course we have to take "her side" as truth otherwise there is not point in having a message board at all. This is not "point - counterpoint" where we will now hear the MB;s side of the story. A poster tell their "truth" and we advise or otherwise comment on it.


Sadly, as an MB, I have known parents even more selfish than just sacrificing their child's nanny for a couple of nice vacations and new shoes. As a PP wrote, you are very lucky to think those people don't exist.

There are parents in my kid's school who send the nanny and tutor to parent-teacher conferences and don't even show up. They don't even make the time to meet their child's teacher. Sad. And this is an expensive private school. What were both parents doing that is annually more important than their child?!

Good grief, you people are judgmental. My husband is deployed (mom or dad could be on a business trip in another family). I have zero flexibility in my work schedule because I have to cover everything else while he's gone. So the nanny went to the parent/teacher conference. If I could have scheduled the conference at my convenience, I would have gone. But, the day was scheduled by the school. The nanny was available, so she went.

Also, I have four kids. I cannot take four days off four parent/teacher conferences twice a year during the day. I am sure there are others with similar issues.

And this is why I would never have 4 kids and work FT. You cannot parent them properly without a partner who is present.

Not making it to parent teacher conferences. Pitiful.

They just aren't as important as you think.

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Anonymous wrote:how many of these sympathetic MBs are actually OP?

PP of an above comment and I am not OP.

I'm extremely sympathetic and I think this family has a marvelous nanny on their hands and it too stupid and cheap to see it. In my world, my kids come first. I don't economize to their deteiment.

Flame away, I think daycare is horrible. I'm a MB and the OP is the kind of nanny we had for our kids for many years. She is still very close to our kids am I'm secure enough in my role as a mother to allow another woman to hold a high place in my kids hearts.

Some mothers are terrified of people like the OP, too insecure to allow a woman in their lives who might love them as much as she does.

Thank you, PP! YOU are the MBs that good nannies want to work for. Your children are blessed.

They CANNOT afford the nanny. No, they haven't had a vacation (which everyone deserves, btw), but they are also not paying her very well and acan't afford raises, etc.. And the nanny cannot afford that job. She loves the boy, but she has taken on extra jobs just to pay her bills. This is not a good situation for either party. The daycare is doing a good transition time, and he may love it.

There is "can't afford" and "can't afford", PP. Cannot afford something because the money simply isn't there in any, way, shape or form? Or cannot afford because you want to spend the money on more fun things like vacations and clothes or to save money (while saving money is a laudable goal it is not always possible - this boy staying with his nanny for another year is far more important than having money in the bank at this point).

We are not a wealthy couple by any means. My DH is still in graduate school and we live in a rental apartment. We exist on my salary alone. But we sacrifice for a great nanny for our boy and will continue to do so. We cut cable, vacations, new clothes and saving money - we actually dip into our savings every month to pay our nanny. However, our situation is not forever - once DH graduates he will go to work and we will have two incomes again - and be able to save, buy a house, go on vacations, etc.

As I wrote earlier, I do not save money on my child's back. His welfare comes first - always.

Yup. Nanny family here. We have not flew as a family since our kids were born. In this order : essential bills, savings, nanny, luxuries. I'm sure as hell not swapping out excellent stable childcare for luxuries.let's not bullshit here, many people put themselves before what is best for their kids.

The bolded family cut savings for a nanny. They are borrowing from their future earnings.

And that is so bad - why? I wrote earlier that this is what we do. My DH is still in graduate school and we exist on my salary alone until he finishes - but he will finish and start working. Our situation is temporary. If OP's family is in a similar circumstance that it makes sense to borrow from future earnings now when it matters to their child the most. So, we have to wait another two years before we buy our first house - why does that matter? As long as my child is healthy, thriving, secure and we are all happy with the arrangement with our nanny, it makes good economic sense.

Changes are, at the age of most young parents, we will never be earning less than we do now. If you choose to have a child during the "salad years" then you sacrifice for the child.

You have no idea what their financial situation is, and you have no business telling other families how to organize their financial priorities. I would personally never touch my savings for childcare.

I am not telling anybody anything, PP. I am relaying my experience, situation and opinion. You know - what people do on opinion boards like this. Since I do not know OP's employers I can only take her word for it. I put my child FIRST above all else. I guess not everyone else does.

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Anonymous wrote:Curious -- I can see why a move to daycare between 18-36 months is disruptive. What about a move to a morning preschool/nanny hybrid at 2 years?

We put all 3 of our children in morning preschool at 2 years old with the nanny picking them up. The two children who went 3 mornings a week took longer to adjust than the one who started 5 days a week (and she was only 25 months at the time and was adjusted by day 5 of preschool) but in general it's been great.

In my experience, there are some children who adjust well no matter the age. However, the vast majority of children do not adjust well between 18 and 36 months. And morning preschool with drop-off/pick-up by the nanny is far different from switching from nanny all day to daycare and losing nanny at the same time.

My son started his excellent home daycare at 20 months and was done with adjustment by the end of his first week.

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Anonymous wrote:These parents are nuts. I feel sorry for that poor child.

+1 a very poorly thought out move for their child.

+2 Two-years-old is a very bad time to move a child from a home environment with one-on-one attention to a daycare setting. Stupid economy on the parents part - their poor little boy will suffer because they couldn't wait a year.

MB here and these parents SUCK.

Agree! I did this at age 3 and my son freaked out. He lasted in daycare 2 days. Yes, 2. I could not do that to him, he was so distraught. We ended up (thankfully) being able to bring our nanny back and kept her through Kindergarten, as I'm in Loudoun and we have half day. We now do APS now that our kids are school aged. I think institutionally based daycare are terrible unless the kid started out in that environment. It is a harsh environment foe children and I firmly believe in a small home based daycare or nanny attention.

I agree 100%! Hopefully OP's MB will see the light and not be afraid to admit her mistake.

Actually the nanny was the one left apologizing for her silly tantrum.

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Anonymous wrote:how many of these sympathetic MBs are actually OP?

PP of an above comment and I am not OP.

I'm extremely sympathetic and I think this family has a marvelous nanny on their hands and it too stupid and cheap to see it. In my world, my kids come first. I don't economize to their deteiment.

Flame away, I think daycare is horrible. I'm a MB and the OP is the kind of nanny we had for our kids for many years. She is still very close to our kids am I'm secure enough in my role as a mother to allow another woman to hold a high place in my kids hearts.

Some mothers are terrified of people like the OP, too insecure to allow a woman in their lives who might love them as much as she does.

Thank you, PP! YOU are the MBs that good nannies want to work for. Your children are blessed.

They CANNOT afford the nanny. No, they haven't had a vacation (which everyone deserves, btw), but they are also not paying her very well and acan't afford raises, etc.. And the nanny cannot afford that job. She loves the boy, but she has taken on extra jobs just to pay her bills. This is not a good situation for either party. The daycare is doing a good transition time, and he may love it.

There is "can't afford" and "can't afford", PP. Cannot afford something because the money simply isn't there in any, way, shape or form? Or cannot afford because you want to spend the money on more fun things like vacations and clothes or to save money (while saving money is a laudable goal it is not always possible - this boy staying with his nanny for another year is far more important than having money in the bank at this point).

We are not a wealthy couple by any means. My DH is still in graduate school and we live in a rental apartment. We exist on my salary alone. But we sacrifice for a great nanny for our boy and will continue to do so. We cut cable, vacations, new clothes and saving money - we actually dip into our savings every month to pay our nanny. However, our situation is not forever - once DH graduates he will go to work and we will have two incomes again - and be able to save, buy a house, go on vacations, etc.

As I wrote earlier, I do not save money on my child's back. His welfare comes first - always.

Yup. Nanny family here. We have not flew as a family since our kids were born. In this order : essential bills, savings, nanny, luxuries. I'm sure as hell not swapping out excellent stable childcare for luxuries.let's not bullshit here, many people put themselves before what is best for their kids.

The bolded family cut savings for a nanny. They are borrowing from their future earnings.

And that is so bad - why? I wrote earlier that this is what we do. My DH is still in graduate school and we exist on my salary alone until he finishes - but he will finish and start working. Our situation is temporary. If OP's family is in a similar circumstance that it makes sense to borrow from future earnings now when it matters to their child the most. So, we have to wait another two years before we buy our first house - why does that matter? As long as my child is healthy, thriving, secure and we are all happy with the arrangement with our nanny, it makes good economic sense.

Changes are, at the age of most young parents, we will never be earning less than we do now. If you choose to have a child during the "salad years" then you sacrifice for the child.

You have no idea what their financial situation is, and you have no business telling other families how to organize their financial priorities. I would personally never touch my savings for childcare.

I am not telling anybody anything, PP. I am relaying my experience, situation and opinion. You know - what people do on opinion boards like this. Since I do not know OP's employers I can only take her word for it. I put my child FIRST above all else. I guess not everyone else does.

Yes, you are the bestest mother in the world. No one else can approach your mothering abilities. Everyone else is simply incapable of your level of devotion.

You said you are in your salad years. You know what, it totally shows in how black and white your vision of the world is.

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Anonymous wrote:These parents are nuts. I feel sorry for that poor child.

+1 a very poorly thought out move for their child.

+2 Two-years-old is a very bad time to move a child from a home environment with one-on-one attention to a daycare setting. Stupid economy on the parents part - their poor little boy will suffer because they couldn't wait a year.

MB here and these parents SUCK.

Agree! I did this at age 3 and my son freaked out. He lasted in daycare 2 days. Yes, 2. I could not do that to him, he was so distraught. We ended up (thankfully) being able to bring our nanny back and kept her through Kindergarten, as I'm in Loudoun and we have half day. We now do APS now that our kids are school aged. I think institutionally based daycare are terrible unless the kid started out in that environment. It is a harsh environment foe children and I firmly believe in a small home based daycare or nanny attention.

I agree 100%! Hopefully OP's MB will see the light and not be afraid to admit her mistake.

Actually the nanny was the one left apologizing for her silly tantrum.

You not only missed the point, PP, - you also missed OP's subsequent posts.

I also think that OP's MB is making a huge mistake with her child. She should wait a year. And it will be hard for OP after a year as well but at least then she won;t have to worry about her charge.

I get it.