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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]how many of these sympathetic MBs are actually OP?[/quote]

PP of an above comment and I am not OP.  [/quote]

I'm extremely sympathetic and I think this family has a marvelous nanny on their hands and it too stupid and cheap to see it. In my world, my kids come first. I don't economize to their deteiment.

Flame away, I think daycare is horrible. I'm a MB and the OP is the kind of nanny we had for our kids for many years. She is still very close to our kids am I'm secure enough in my role as a mother to allow another woman to hold a high place in my kids hearts.

Some mothers are terrified of people like the OP, too insecure to allow a woman in their lives who might love them as much as she does.[/quote]

Thank you, PP!  YOU are the MBs that good nannies want to work for.  Your children are blessed.  [/quote]

They CANNOT afford the nanny. No, they haven't had a vacation (which everyone deserves, btw), but they are also not paying her very well and acan't afford raises, etc.. And the nanny cannot afford that job. She loves the boy, but she has taken on extra jobs just to pay her bills. This is not a good situation for either party. The daycare is doing a good transition time, and he may love it.[/quote]

There is "can't afford" and "can't afford", PP.  Cannot afford something because the money simply isn't there in any, way, shape or form?  Or cannot afford because you want to spend the money on more fun things like vacations and clothes or to save money (while saving money is a laudable goal it is not always possible - this boy staying with his nanny for another year is far more important than having money in the bank at this point).

We are not a wealthy couple by any means.  My DH is still in graduate school and we live in a rental apartment.  We exist on my salary alone.  But we sacrifice for a great nanny for our boy and will continue to do so.  [b]We cut cable, vacations, new clothes and saving money - we actually dip into our savings every month to pay our nanny.[/b]  However, our situation is not forever - once DH graduates he will go to work and we will have two incomes again - and be able to save, buy a house, go on vacations, etc.

As I wrote earlier, I do not save money on my child's back.  His welfare comes first - always.  [/quote]

Yup. Nanny family here. We have not flew as a family since our kids were born. In this order : essential bills, savings, nanny, luxuries. I'm sure as hell not swapping out excellent stable childcare for luxuries.let's not bullshit here,  many people put themselves before what is best for their kids.[/quote]

The bolded family cut savings for a nanny. They are borrowing from their future earnings.[/quote]

And that is so bad - why?  I wrote earlier that this is what we do.  My DH is still in graduate school and we exist on my salary alone until he finishes - but he will finish and start working.  Our situation is temporary.  If OP's family is in a similar circumstance that it makes sense to borrow from future earnings now when it matters to their child the most.  So, we have to wait another two years before we buy our first house - why does that matter?  As long as my child is healthy, thriving, secure and we are all happy with the arrangement with our nanny, it makes good economic sense.

Changes are, at the age of most young parents, we will never be earning less than we do now.  If you choose to have a child during the "salad years" then you sacrifice for the child.  [/quote]
You have no idea what their financial situation is, and you have no business telling other families how to organize their financial priorities.  I would personally never touch my savings for childcare. [/quote]

I am not telling anybody anything, PP.  I am relaying my experience, situation and opinion.  You know - what people do on opinion boards like this.  Since I do not know OP's employers I can only take her word for it.  I put my child FIRST above all else.  I guess not everyone else does.  [/quote]
Yes, you are the bestest mother in the world. No one else can approach your mothering abilities. Everyone else is simply incapable of your level of devotion.

You said you are in your salad years.  You know what, it totally shows in how black and white your vision of the world is. [/quote]

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