Anonymous wrote:You will fall out of love with everyone.

It good to learn to be on your own bc by the time you figure out you WANT to be alone. It will be too late.

Be more confident and be more honest about how you feel.

That’s it.

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Be more confident and be more honest about how you feel.

That’s it.

+1

I'm astounded by all the PP's advice to "date" more. "Dating" was pretty much dead 25 years ago when I was in college. We were already in the hook up culture back then (at my college, anyway). My advice to my younger self (and to my daughter) would be to actually allow yourself to take chances on deeper relationships - be honest about your feelings. I went for years pretending that I didn't really care, or purposely avoiding expressing true feelings. Prioritized my education, career, over everything else. My regret is that I didn't allow myself deeper connections and looking back that part of my life feels like it was shallow (and I did not enjoy it. I was not happy.

Fortunately, I met DH late 20s and for whatever reason allowed myself to be more honest with him. It feels like my relationship with DH was my only true relationship.

Anonymous wrote:Actually, I think my younger self had it right when it comes to dating/relationships.

Friendships are a different story. There's a lot I'd like to tell my younger self about trusting other people.

I think I had a pretty good understanding of men and dating. I didn't follow a lot of traditional advice. I had a lot of interesting dating/relationship experiences, and honestly, I don't think I'd change a thing about them. I have no regrets in that regard.

But friendships are different, and I think I have never been good understanding women (I am a woman). I also think that society kind of drills it into women to be wary of men when dating, but they don't drill it into women enough to be wary of other women in life. Female friends have hurt me far more than any man ever did or any breakup. I think it's because I never really had it on my radar to be careful not to trust other women.

Just my 2 cents.

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Anonymous wrote:You will fall out of love with everyone.

It good to learn to be on your own bc by the time you figure out you WANT to be alone. It will be too late.

I wonder how much overlap there is between this mindset and that of the “don’t settle” posters. Because personally I’m glad I settled, but I had an incentive of missing that want to be alone mindset.

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Anonymous wrote:College years are your best time to date and meet a variety of guys. Do not be so focused on studies you forget about romance. You’ll be 30 and regret it.
Also don’t be scared to ask a guy out.

find a woman that likes to masturbate and can bring herself to orgasm. Having a partner that likes sex is by far the most important factor in a happy relationship for a man.

Anonymous wrote:Dear Self, These are the qualities that are instant deal breakers. Run away quickly if you see them in a man.

- addiction past or present -booze, drugs, gambling
- mental illness past or present, ptsd, depress
- violence, especially in previous relationships
- stupid debt, bad credit , overspending
- kids that he doesn't see or take care of
- spotty employment
-criminal records
- bad family relationships