If you could go back in time what would you tell your younger self about dating/ relationships?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never get married.

+100.

And don’t have kids until around age 37 and older.

Married 34 year old mother of 2 here.

This is drudgery.

[Anonymous]

Never have sex on the first date

[Anonymous]

Don’t marry a man with a small penis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never get married.

+100.

And don’t have kids until around age 37 and older.

Married 34 year old mother of 2 here.

This is drudgery.

+1

-another woman and mother of two (kids not planned)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never get married.

+100.

And don’t have kids until around age 37 and older.

Married 34 year old mother of 2 here.

This is drudgery.

+1

-another woman and mother of two (kids not planned)

Take it one day at a time. Your kids will be a blessing, you just need to polish the gems.

You’ll get out of the experience what you put into it. We all can’t feel awesome every minute. We’ve all been there, at some point,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never get married.

+100.

And don’t have kids until around age 37 and older.

Married 34 year old mother of 2 here.

This is drudgery.

+1

-another woman and mother of two (kids not planned)

Take it one day at a time. Your kids will be a blessing, you just need to polish the gems.

You’ll get out of the experience what you put into it. We all can’t feel awesome every minute. We’ve all been there, at some point,

I am the most recent poster. My kids are not particularly young. I still regret getting married and mistake pregnancies. I would be happier single. Not everyone enjoys motherhood. I will advise my kids not to marry and only have children if they can not imagine their life without them. For me, too much sacrifice and my life is in a completely different trajectory if I had not had them or married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have more sex. Have lots of sex. I only slept with one guy before DH, and now the last 20 years I’ve had a grand total of 2 partners. I’m not saying sleep with someone new each week, but don’t be afraid to just put it out there and have more sex before you settle down. I wish I had.

Not this.

Male, 40, married 14 years. Have had one sex partner, my wife. Zero issues, zero regrets. The thought of that with someone else just wierds me out.

The funniest thing about amazon is I can see how long a box of 36 condoms lasts. My wife and I had a good chuckle that it was 14 months last time.

But I’m 40, not 20. God help 20 year old males these days.....Get yourself a notarized paper or it’s me-too and rape if she changes her mind later. And you’ve got nothing. Since we all know women have a gene where they can only tell the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have more sex. Have lots of sex. I only slept with one guy before DH, and now the last 20 years I’ve had a grand total of 2 partners. I’m not saying sleep with someone new each week, but don’t be afraid to just put it out there and have more sex before you settle down. I wish I had.

Not this.

Male, 40, married 14 years. Have had one sex partner, my wife. Zero issues, zero regrets. The thought of that with someone else just wierds me out.

The funniest thing about amazon is I can see how long a box of 36 condoms lasts. My wife and I had a good chuckle that it was 14 months last time.

But I’m 40, not 20. God help 20 year old males these days.....Get yourself a notarized paper or it’s me-too and rape if she changes her mind later. And you’ve got nothing. Since we all know women have a gene where they can only tell the truth.

14 months for a 36 count? At 63 we have no need for them but a box would only last about six months. We've been married 36 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have more sex. Have lots of sex. I only slept with one guy before DH, and now the last 20 years I’ve had a grand total of 2 partners. I’m not saying sleep with someone new each week, but don’t be afraid to just put it out there and have more sex before you settle down. I wish I had.

Not this.

Male, 40, married 14 years. Have had one sex partner, my wife. Zero issues, zero regrets. The thought of that with someone else just wierds me out.

The funniest thing about amazon is I can see how long a box of 36 condoms lasts. My wife and I had a good chuckle that it was 14 months last time.

But I’m 40, not 20. God help 20 year old males these days.....Get yourself a notarized paper or it’s me-too and rape if she changes her mind later. And you’ve got nothing. Since we all know women have a gene where they can only tell the truth.

With your attitude towards women, no wonder it takes 14 months to use up a box. I'm surprised it's not at least two years.

[Anonymous]

Giving some guys a chance even though they didn’t fit my perfect idea of my type of guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have more sex. Have lots of sex. I only slept with one guy before DH, and now the last 20 years I’ve had a grand total of 2 partners. I’m not saying sleep with someone new each week, but don’t be afraid to just put it out there and have more sex before you settle down. I wish I had.

Not this.

Male, 40, married 14 years. Have had one sex partner, my wife. Zero issues, zero regrets. The thought of that with someone else just wierds me out.

The funniest thing about amazon is I can see how long a box of 36 condoms lasts. My wife and I had a good chuckle that it was 14 months last time.

But I’m 40, not 20. God help 20 year old males these days.....Get yourself a notarized paper or it’s me-too and rape if she changes her mind later. And you’ve got nothing. Since we all know women have a gene where they can only tell the truth.

With your attitude towards women, no wonder it takes 14 months to use up a box. I'm surprised it's not at least two years.

I’m the PP who advised having more sex. Just wondering if the guy suggesting less sex is bragging about having sex 2.5 times per month with his wife? I’m a little perplexed at the posting. PP- do you support having sex more or less sex than this? Why were you chuckling over your condom usage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner.

For the win!

[Anonymous]

Get the important terms of marriage in writing, with penalties defined up front. Just because the person you are dating (and thinking about marrying) goes to the gym 3X per week, eats healthy, maintains an attractive weight, and desires sex regularly.... throughout 2+ years of dating and a lengthy engagement (that was specifically intended to weed out any possible bait-and-switch) ...... does NOT mean that soon after the kids are born, suddenly it is fine gain 40 pounds and lose all interest in sex.

Marriage contracts should contain a mandatory prenup: gain 15 pounds, or sex drops to less than once per week, the non-offending partner may choose between a divorce in his/her favor, or open marriage for his/her side only.

[Anonymous]

Learn how to masturbate before you are 35 so the need for sex won't cloud your vision of who will make a good long term mate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Learn how to masturbate before you are 35 so the need for sex won't cloud your vision of who will make a good long term mate.

No. A good long term mate is someone with whom the sex is (usually) better than wankin.