If you could go back in time what would you tell your younger self about dating/ relationships?
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Anonymous
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College years are your best time to date and meet a variety of guys. Do not be so focused on studies you forget about romance. You’ll be 30 and regret it.
Also don’t be scared to ask a guy out. |
Anonymous
| That I am worthy of a relationship - I fell head over heals with a guy who totally used me.... He was my best friend and regular hook up but never wanted a relationship. I am still sad I let myself waste a good five years of my life when I should have been living it up! I’ll never forget one time I tried to move on and went out with someone a few time and when I brought the new guy over to my place the “friend” freaked out and threatened to slash the guys tires. I kicked th guy out and went back to the same BS with the old guy. Such a waste and killed my self worth. The saddest part is I still think about him regularly even though I am married to a wonderful man. |
Anonymous
| Never get married. |
Anonymous
| Be kind to everyone. It’s the right thing to do. Also one day you’ll be at a party talking to the funniest most beautiful woman you have ever seen and she’ll remember you as the jerk in 8 th grade who asked if her sister was the model on TV and when she confirms say her sister is gorgeous and she looks nothing like her. The guy who was a sweetheart to her back then will be the one getting her number. |
Anonymous
+1 Wish I dated a lot more guys. Or just slept with them really. |
Anonymous
| Don't worry about anything. You will eventually meet the perfect woman and the ones who didn't give you the time of day will regret it. |
Anonymous
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Be open and explore, be less self conscious and more confident. Don’t marry a lesbian |
Anonymous
The vast majority (~80%) of people I know who married the partners in college got divorced in their 30s. The only thing they regret is marrying so young. That's one thing I got right when I was younger (not marrying at that age). |
Anonymous
| Date and sleep with a lot more people. Don't be afraid to ask anyone out. Take chances. I regret not doing any of that...it's not too late but the cost and consequences are much higher now that I'm married with kids. |
Anonymous
| Do not settle. |
Anonymous
My advice is to understand that dating does not mean marriage. As first pp implied you should spend your college years dating and dating frequently so you get an idea of what you’re looking for. |
Anonymous
Fair point. I'm the second PP you're quoting and I read OP's post as saying people regret not having found a spouse while in school, which in my observation has not been the case at all. However, I can see where the advice to date around before settling down (at whatever age you do it, though I would advocate for after 30) is a valid one. |
Anonymous
| Try to avoid a LTR until after college. Date/experience a lot more guys. Marry a guy who’s a lot like you. |
Anonymous
| Only date people that are smart. Conversations are better. |
Anonymous
| Don’t waste your time with some with issues, whether it’s anxiety or worse. Move on life is too short. |