If you could go back in time what would you tell your younger self about dating/ relationships?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t be afraid to date a rotation of multiple guys before you commit to one - be free spirited while you can - don’t marry a guy you aren’t sexually comparable with - if he is funny and awesomenut seems closer gay don’t marry him - you will have no sex life after you have kids.

Don’t be afraid of rejection...

Fall in love with yourself first and discover what you like before you fall in love with your future husband

If he seems abusiveir redflags run away and break it iff

This is a good one. But I would add a caveat to it: know when to move on. I think a lot of women don't recognize rejection. They keep fighting for a guy who has clearly rejected them. Rejection is okay, but don't keep chasing after someone who doesn't want you. It will only make you feel humiliated. And humiliation is a lot more painful than rejection.

[Anonymous]

Date a lot of guys to help you figure out what your really looking for. That doesn't mean you have to sleep with everyone of them. Do that selectively and make them work for it.

[Anonymous]

Never date a single parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't mask your fear of rejection with the facade of being selective. "No" is not as scary as you think.

Date a lot. Don't underestimate the value of relationship experience. It's less about finding "the one" and more about finding yourself: your likes, your dislikes, and most importantly your own flaws and issues.

Your job is not to be someone's therapist. You may find that "fixing" someone only results in them becoming a version of themselves that is no longer compatible with you. The same goes for letting someone become your therapist.

Never lie about your feelings especially to yourself. Staying in a relationship to preserve their feelings or your illusion will only magnify the pain.

This is such excellent advice! If I had realized any of this when I was still young I would have done so many things differently.

[Anonymous]

I’d tell my younger self not to discount the red flags. I am stuck in a such misarable marriage and I can’t even say I did not know it would suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Learn how to masturbate before you are 35 so the need for sex won't cloud your vision of who will make a good long term mate.

Learn that those whose need for sex is limited to securing a relationship will not make a good long term mate.

[Anonymous]

I'd tell my younger self that the guy you will meet at the first day of work who has a handicap will turn out to be the smartest, nicest and most successful guy you will ever meet. Don't waste three years dating losers before you figure it out but thank God you did!

[Anonymous]

Marry your college boyfriend; don't doubt the validity of the relationship just because you're tough. You'll never stop missing him

[Anonymous]

If you want to meet nice guys in college hang out in the library and not at frat houses.

[Anonymous]

Don’t get involved with your coworkers. It doesn’t work out and is really awkward after.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Date a lot of guys to help you figure out what your really looking for. That doesn't mean you have to sleep with everyone of them. Do that selectively and make them work for it.

Good grief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Learn how to masturbate before you are 35 so the need for sex won't cloud your vision of who will make a good long term mate.

Avoid anyone who is so low drive, they never masterbated before 35(!!!) Unless you too are asexual (and I know you’re out there)!

[Anonymous]

Meghan Markle never gave up her dream of getting a Prince and neither should you!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Learn how to masturbate before you are 35 so the need for sex won't cloud your vision of who will make a good long term mate.

Learn that those whose need for sex is limited to securing a relationship will not make a good long term mate.

Know that 80% of women will stop wanting sex after having children. And these couples will with split or be miserable. Know the signs for finding the 20% woman and have a happy marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t marry a man with a small penis.

Why?