If you could go back in time what would you tell your younger self about dating/ relationships?

[Anonymous]

That at 17 I should have taken Mrs. Anderson up on her offer to lose my virginity. I'm pretty sure she would have been a great teacher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't have kids or marry a man who smokes weed, and is dumb enough to keep getting caught with it in the car and going to jail for it.

Don't tolerate any man with a temper or jealousy. It's just a matter of time before it turns into physical abuse against you.

Don't date any man with absolutely ANY kind of "mother" issues. Dead mom. Absentee mom. Hateful mom. Young dementia patient mom. Physically abused mom. I've dated them all and was in my 30s before I realized some weird pattern there. I'm in therapy and working on it...

Don't date a man with more than one baby momma.

Give yourself time to get to know someone. Time reveals everything. Be patient and simply observe for those first 3-9 months. If a relationship is meant to be, it will stand the test of time.

Read books on Narcissism and learn to recognize the signs. Same goes for Autism. Avoid both types of men at all costs.

That's all I've got for now!

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one with baggage or health issues. Choose from UMC or better, educated, career, ambitious and energetic. DW is a perky blonde and fits all of the above except, family baggage. Her mother is high maintenance drama queen.

Usually goes together!

[Anonymous]

Don’t underestimate kindness and compassion for others as important personality traits. You will appreciate them even more as you get older.

[Anonymous]

You don't have to chase the right man. He'll be there for you and it won't feel like work.

Also, the hot guy at 25 could easily become the bald, fat guy at 45.

[Anonymous]

Meet the parents. That’s who the person will likely end up looking/acting like. Think about whether that’s the kind of person you want to be with in 25 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meet the parents. That’s who the person will likely end up looking/acting like. Think about whether that’s the kind of person you want to be with in 25 years.

+1. DH becomes more and more like his father, which isn’t a good thing. I wish I had spent more time around his parents so I could see the dynamic between them and realize that’s what was in store for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meet the parents. That’s who the person will likely end up looking/acting like. Think about whether that’s the kind of person you want to be with in 25 years.

+1. DH becomes more and more like his father, which isn’t a good thing. I wish I had spent more time around his parents so I could see the dynamic between them and realize that’s what was in store for me.

Ugh. +2

[Anonymous]

Don’t waste your time with anyone who leaves you wanting, either because they won’t commit, aren’t upfront, have “issues,” or otherwise aren’t a good fit. Keep it moving.

Also, be up front about your wants and needs. Will weed out many time wasters - see above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't have kids or marry a man who smokes weed, and is dumb enough to keep getting caught with it in the car and going to jail for it.

Don't tolerate any man with a temper or jealousy. It's just a matter of time before it turns into physical abuse against you.

Don't date any man with absolutely ANY kind of "mother" issues. Dead mom. Absentee mom. Hateful mom. Young dementia patient mom. Physically abused mom. I've dated them all and was in my 30s before I realized some weird pattern there. I'm in therapy and working on it...

Don't date a man with more than one baby momma.

Give yourself time to get to know someone. Time reveals everything. Be patient and simply observe for those first 3-9 months. If a relationship is meant to be, it will stand the test of time.

Read books on Narcissism and learn to recognize the signs. Same goes for Autism. Avoid both types of men at all costs.

That's all I've got for now!

+1

+2

All great advice.

[Anonymous]

Don't date that douchebag for all of college and a year afterwards. He's not good for you and he'll eventually cheat on you, throwing you into a pit of insecurity that will last until your eventual husband helps pull you out of it.

Instead, date around and have fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:College years are your best time to date and meet a variety of guys. Do not be so focused on studies you forget about romance. You’ll be 30 and regret it.
Also don’t be scared to ask a guy out.

find a woman that likes to masturbate and can bring herself to orgasm. Having a partner that likes sex is by far the most important factor in a happy relationship for a man.

[Anonymous]

You will fall out of love with everyone.

It good to learn to be on your own bc by the time you figure out you WANT to be alone. It will be too late.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys in bands aren’t necessarily good in bed.

But usually are!

[Anonymous]

Stop wasting years on guys who aren't going to change. Like 6 months max. If he isn't a grown up when you are dating he wont be a grown up when you marry him. And you want a grown up if you are over the age of 23.