For the guys: how did you get healthy?
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Anonymous
| DH is overweight and doesn’t exercise. We had a long talk about him getting serious and starting to take care of his health and he agrees, but doesn’t know where to start because as he put it, he “lacks discipline.” He needs to lose about 50 lbs. I would appreciate any advice. |
Anonymous
| I used to be like this. In general I was depressed, wife had the same talks with me. I'm not sure what happened but it started clicking and I started working out and started feeling better about my self. I guess the point is that he needs to decide to do it, you can't do it for him. |
Anonymous
Its the willingness inside your DH. There are so many untapped benefits from working out. I had a awakening month ago, said to myself when was the last time was overall happy boom when I was in shape mid20s. No more excuses not to go the gym, no more bad fast food, cut down beer/wine. Have dropped 15lbs and added muscle at the same time. I am cutting calories hard to get results fast and I dont feel like I am starving myself. My younger coworker was staring at me the other day and asked there is something diffferent about me. I said yeah I got new pants. |
Anonymous
| It really isn't as hard as people make it. You don't need a special plan. Pick any type of exercise you enjoy and quit eating junk food. The weight will come off |
Anonymous
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Who cooks the meals in the house?
Does he sneak fast food when he's alone? Is he depressed? In the end it's up to him unfortunately. But perhaps you can work on your fitness and it will motivate him? Maybe flirt with a few trainers or two at your gym. . . |
Anonymous
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Man here. When my friends started doing it (working out), that motivated me. Turns out a bunch of them were doing it all along but it never came up in conversation. Now we send each other screenshots of the "results" page after working out on exercise equipment.
Also for an easy one, just cut out sugary drinks and sweets. I lost a few pounds just by doing that. Haven't drank anything except sparkling water and a glass of wine a few times a month, in over half a year. If I had a coke now, I'd probably be jumping off the walls from the sugar and caffeine hit. |
Anonymous
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Health for the most part is maintained in the kitchen. Is your DH Caucasian? If so, the food he is consuming is what’s making him a fat p... Pasta, sauce, cheese, beer, soda, pizza, red meat and other garbage food isn’t good for you... Even other races like Korean Americans consume a lot of fatty food like pork... smh.
The easiest way to get back in shape is to eat half of what you think is needed to fill you up. And meal prep for a few Days at a time. This is the best way to make sure you stay on track. And please don’t ask him to eat Salad. It will kill his metabolism and testosterone. When it comes to excercise, the HIIT is the best. Will keep metabolism and testosterone in track. |
Anonymous
| This is OP. Thanks for the advice. No, he’s not Caucasian and he doesn’t really eat junk food, no alcohol, not much in the way of sugary drinks (he grew up drinking soda constantly but stopped after we got married 19 years ago). He’s not depressed and doesn’t really snack. Very little fast food, like once every few months. His main problem is the quantity of food he’s eating. That plus no exercise. I really think if he just starts being more active it’ll make a huge difference. But yes, like PPs said he has to want to do it. I work out all the time and that doesn’t motivate him. |
Anonymous
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DH just...did it. Last year, he lost 35 lbs and started working out. One thing he did was sub out high carb breakfasts for greek yogurt with sugar free muesli. He eats this every single day now, whereas he used to eat bagels, cereal, etc. He also stopped drinking.
As for the exercise, he just started. First he started on the exercise bike, and then started doing a body pump class with me, and now he lifts on his own and exercises almost daily. He does a combo of cardio and weights and is in the best shape since we've met. |
Anonymous
| DH lost 80 pounds about 5 years ago. He overhauled his diet (low carb/paleo and portion control). He started doing Insanity then joined a CrossFit box. He looks fantastic now. He has a 6 pack and looks like a guy from that movie 300. |
Anonymous
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I started by eliminating carbs (cereal, bread, pasta, potatos, rice). It was tough but I did it. Then I started intermittent fasting - basically, skip breakfast every day. No food between dinner (8pm) and lunch the next day (12pm), roughly 16 hours. I dropped 40lbs that way pretty quickly and kept them off.
Then I started taking exercise classes. The exercise classes are at a set time every day, which imposes discipline. I don't have to decide when to go to the gym or what to do when I get there. |
TwistdMike
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Another vote for Intermittent Fasting and non-processed foods.
I was a little more aggressive by combining IF and Ketogenic foods, fast results. Once he sees the body changes, it may motivate him to hit the gym/track? Search YouTube for Jason Fung if you’d like to research a bit. |
Anonymous
This starts with a doctor checkup and blood work, TBH. I recently got a pre-diabetes diagnosis. That was a kick in the pants. |
Anonymous
| Start out by doing some in-home exercises with him, just something to get his heart pumping, like jumping jacks, situps, mountain climbers, burpees. Go out for power walks during weekend and get some sweat going. Record those results and go on from there. |
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My dh dropped carbs and anything with added sugar (only small portions occasionally). Cut back on alcohol. Walks on his lunch hour. Lost a good deal of weight.
Good luck to your husband! |