Is being a female attorney the kiss of death for dating?

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[Post New]05/01/2017 13:03
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Lonely_Sojourner
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Anonymous wrote:Female attorneys, has being an attorney been a liability to getting dates? Has it been a big turn off to a particular demographic of men?


OP - Concur with others. Personally, I've dated a couple of attorneys in the DC area and I tend to like their "non-sense", no-BS approach. One of the ladies was certainly warmer and more congenial than the other. As a dissenting option, I think it's personality driven versus profession. Maybe I'm an anomaly;however, I like women with brains. If I'm wrong, I want to be told such.

LS
[Post New]05/01/2017 13:42
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Anonymous
Ask Andi Dorfman.

J/K.
[Post New]05/01/2017 14:08
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Anonymous
They tend to be superficial, scowling, amoral people. So yes, I steer clear for anything serious.
[Post New]05/01/2017 14:11
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I'm a female attorney with a sexy fiancé ten years younger than me.

I just don't take myself too seriously, which a lot of women attorneys do.


you're supposed to bang the cougar, not marry her. how stupid is this guy?
[Post New]05/01/2017 14:16
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Anonymous wrote:Female attorneys, has being an attorney been a liability to getting dates? Has it been a big turn off to a particular demographic of men?


Several years ago a female lawyer expressed interest in me until she realized I was a Grad Student, it did not fit the image she wanted to portray. I felt really sad for her, image was more important than possible happiness. Maybe creating the correct image was what she thought was going to make her happy. She really seemed like a very nice person and wish we could have gotten to know each other better. All I can say is that I hope she found someone and is happy now.
[Post New]05/01/2017 14:24
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Anonymous wrote:Female attorneys, has being an attorney been a liability to getting dates? Has it been a big turn off to a particular demographic of men?


I would definitely have a problem dating a lawyer whose line of work involved bending the law and tearing people down. Having had a lawyer write in a brief that I was incompetent because my work did not support his client's position, really tainted lawyers for me. Who could be in a relationship with someone who collects a paycheck for misrepresenting facts and personally attacking people with integrity? Only someone that wants to marry a paycheck, or say they are dating a lawyer for the prestige (if you can call it that). If she thinks lying for a paycheck is acceptable, would lying in a relationship be acceptable? The federal lawyers in my opinion/experience are less sleazy, and would be more date-able.
[Post New]05/01/2017 14:51
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Anonymous wrote:what? half the women in this town are married attorneys. no--it's not the kiss of death. me and all of my attorney friends are happily married and had no trouble finding husbands.


If you're an attorney, you presumably write a good deal in connection with your job. Consequently, you should know better than to start a sentence with "me," as you did with "me and all my married friends." That's the grammatical equivalent of nails on a chalkboard and, for your future reference, shouldv've correctly read "All of my married friends and I."
[Post New]05/01/2017 14:53
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Anonymous
I dated a big firm female lawyer for about six months. She was an associate thus working incredible hours. She cancelled about half our dates and when on dates she was often checking her messages. She was very smart and beautiful but after six months I had had enough when I said no more phones in the bedroom and she spent ten minutes in argument mode. Five years later she is a partner in the firm and still single. Yes, male lawyers can be the exact same way. BTW - female investment bankers can be the same way. I ended up marrying a very smart woman with her MBA who has a great job but also a life.
[Post New]05/01/2017 15:05
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Anonymous wrote:HYS female law school grads is the kiss of death for dating.


I know a married one. She did fine.


And she met her husband in DC? Impressive.


I met my husband when I was a second year associate in DC. It's not that rare.
[Post New]05/01/2017 15:05
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Anonymous wrote:I never would date a lawyer, eeww!


You prefer the ditzy, touchy feely type of woman?
[Post New]05/01/2017 15:07
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Anonymous wrote:In truth, here is why it is so hard.

It has been my experience that female attorneys are generally enormously picky about the education and income of their partners. So they limit themselves to maybe 2 percent of the male population and wonder why it's so difficult to date. Whereas the men who meet your requirements are much more willing to date the general population

If you're willing to open yourself up in terms of who you'd date you'll have no issues.

It is easy to blame the men because you can maintain the fantasy that male insecurities are to blame and your difficulties are the result of principled commitment to self achievement over society's judgment, but it's mostly self-inflicted.

If I only wanted to date instagram butt models and complained that it was too hard, no one would feel bad for me and no one will feel bad for you if you only date men with high educational and career achievement and it's hard to meet them.


In truth, I have no interest in an LTR with a man who isn't highly educated in the formal sense, so why waste any other man's time?
[Post New]05/01/2017 15:09
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Anonymous
Not at all. My brother married an attorney and she was happily dating before dating him.
[Post New]05/01/2017 15:10
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Female attorneys, has being an attorney been a liability to getting dates? Has it been a big turn off to a particular demographic of men?


I would definitely have a problem dating a lawyer whose line of work involved bending the law and tearing people down. Having had a lawyer write in a brief that I was incompetent because my work did not support his client's position, really tainted lawyers for me. Who could be in a relationship with someone who collects a paycheck for misrepresenting facts and personally attacking people with integrity? Only someone that wants to marry a paycheck, or say they are dating a lawyer for the prestige (if you can call it that). If she thinks lying for a paycheck is acceptable, would lying in a relationship be acceptable? The federal lawyers in my opinion/experience are less sleazy, and would be more date-able.


Too bad you don't have a larger sample size of female firm lawyers from which to draw.
[Post New]05/01/2017 15:15
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:HYS female law school grads is the kiss of death for dating.


I know a married one. She did fine.


And she met her husband in DC? Impressive.


I met my husband when I was a second year associate in DC. It's not that rare.


From the female law grads I know from top 5 schools it seems harder to date and meet someone once out of law school.
[Post New]05/01/2017 15:24
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I was a lawyer and now I became an artist (painter) and my datability has shot waaaay up. Nothing has changed. I'm still the same person. I'm perceived as more laid back and nicer now I guess.
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