Is being a female attorney the kiss of death for dating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, I'm a married female attorney so it hasn't been that big a problem. I met my husband when I was a junior associate, but I did switch to government in large part because my job did not allow enough time to see him: we'd moved in together but he was home alone. I do know people who feel unable to make room in their schedules for a boyfriend.

I haven't met anybody who says "I don't date attorneys" but I guess I wouldn't have much cause to meet them in that context.

PS, don't date where you work.

Don't follow the last "PS." I dated a few guys st my various jobs and ultimately married one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a lawyer and now I became an artist (painter) and my datability has shot waaaay up. Nothing has changed. I'm still the same person. I'm perceived as more laid back and nicer now I guess.

have fun being a SAHM in the suburbs alone with DH coming home after bedtime every night. Sexist bros look for women like you to recreate the feminine mystique.

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Anonymous wrote:HYS female law school grads is the kiss of death for dating.

I know a married one. She did fine.

And she met her husband in DC? Impressive.

I met my husband when I was a second year associate in DC. It's not that rare.

From the female law grads I know from top 5 schools it seems harder to date and meet someone once out of law school.

It is harder, but not anywhere near impossible. You just have to be social.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a lawyer and now I became an artist (painter) and my datability has shot waaaay up. Nothing has changed. I'm still the same person. I'm perceived as more laid back and nicer now I guess.

Men are not as threatened by you. Many men still want an easygoing, deferential hot woman.

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Anonymous wrote:HYS female law school grads is the kiss of death for dating.

I know a married one. She did fine.

And she met her husband in DC? Impressive.

I met my husband when I was a second year associate in DC. It's not that rare.

From the female law grads I know from top 5 schools it seems harder to date and meet someone once out of law school.

A generalization, but for example, I'm a lawyer but didn't go to one of those schools. I'd surely date a Harvard Law grad if she was attractive/nice. But she likely wouldn't date me because she probably makes more $$ than me and because my law school wasn't as highly ranked. For a super high achieving woman, there are very few guys at the top of that pyramid that are acceptable - and many of those guys are dating less accomplished women.

[Anonymous]

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From the female law grads I know from top 5 schools it seems harder to date and meet someone once out of law school.

This reveals the heart of the issue- "top 5" law graduates are predominantly obsessed with economic and educational status, so much so that it is the one single thing that you are telling us about them. They won't date men who don't have similarly elite educational credentials and professional accomplishment. Unsurprisingly, it is hard to have romantic success when you are this restrictive in who you are willing to date.

[Anonymous]

Just don't talk about it all the time. No one cares you're a lawyer. Especially not in DC.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was a lawyer and now I became an artist (painter) and my datability has shot waaaay up. Nothing has changed. I'm still the same person. I'm perceived as more laid back and nicer now I guess.

have fun being a SAHM in the suburbs alone with DH coming home after bedtime every night. Sexist bros look for women like you to recreate the feminine mystique.

Do you even understand that phrase? Do you know its origins? Your usage does not indicate that.
Your unwarranted spewing against me is really silly. I'm a feminist, and I take care of me. #empowered #girlboss

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just don't talk about it all the time. No one cares you're a lawyer. Especially not in DC.

+1. Most lawyers = ZZZzzzz

[Anonymous]

I'm a female attorney in DC (top 10 school, not top 5). Before I met DH, I did not have much trouble dating, but mostly met guys online. I have always really been into guys who are into science, math, and engineering, so didn't run into them much in regular life. Eventually met DH and it worked out great.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

From the female law grads I know from top 5 schools it seems harder to date and meet someone once out of law school.

This reveals the heart of the issue- "top 5" law graduates are predominantly obsessed with economic and educational status, so much so that it is the one single thing that you are telling us about them. They won't date men who don't have similarly elite educational credentials and professional accomplishment. Unsurprisingly, it is hard to have romantic success when you are this restrictive in who you are willing to date.

+1

It's funny how being more successful seems to actually limit dating options for many women, since it seems that many women can only be attracted to and respect men who are their socioeconomic equal. It's the opposite for men, who will happily date basically any women that they find attractive, regardless of her education/career.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a lawyer and now I became an artist (painter) and my datability has shot waaaay up. Nothing has changed. I'm still the same person. I'm perceived as more laid back and nicer now I guess.

Why did you change professions? Did you ever think that maybe you are happier and less stressed now and that made you more dateable

[Anonymous]

Just provide unlimited bjs all men will tolerate you

[Anonymous]

^top law school grad, obvi. Has it all figured out. It's really that simple.

He's pissed about the credit card bill? BJ makes it go away.
You didn't make dinner? BJ gets you taken out to a nice restaurant......

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From the female law grads I know from top 5 schools it seems harder to date and meet someone once out of law school.

This reveals the heart of the issue- "top 5" law graduates are predominantly obsessed with economic and educational status, so much so that it is the one single thing that you are telling us about them. They won't date men who don't have similarly elite educational credentials and professional accomplishment. Unsurprisingly, it is hard to have romantic success when you are this restrictive in who you are willing to date.

+1

It's funny how being more successful seems to actually limit dating options for many women, since it seems that many women can only be attracted to and respect men who are their socioeconomic equal. It's the opposite for men, who will happily date basically any women that they find attractive, regardless of her education/career.

Not equal. The man will have to be above the woman's socioeconomic class. Now the men in that class have their pick of women. If you are a man who is a high earner, from the right schools and family, do you really want to date a busy career minded lawyer? The good normal catch men who are not "Mr big" quickly learn not to waste their time with someone who looks down on them.
I have a few friends like that...they are still single and unless they change will remain so. The sad thing is I do not think they would date themselves(they do not meet their own high standards).