Is being a female attorney the kiss of death for dating?

[Anonymous]

My only unmarried friend is 40 and single. I never even thought it could be her job that's the issue. She is fun and smart and cute.

[Anonymous]

Well there are definitely different themes at play here on this thread.
Lack of time of the woman to date
Undesirable women due to tenor/demeanor of the woman herself
Undesirable due to pre-judices against female attorneys
Woman who spurn appropriate suitors because suitor is a member of the wrong caste.

Sums it up, no?

[Anonymous]

I know a female attorney who would tell men she was a yoga instructor. It worked in the short term since she had more men interested in her, but eventually she realized that blurring the truth about her profession was shooting herself in the foot in the long term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are these female attorneys who are having such trouble dating? I work in a litigating section of DOJ and, while better than a law firm, our hours and demands are tough, but most of my unmarried female friend here seem to be able to get dates. I was lucky enough to meet DH through a friend from law school (he's an accountant) so can't speak to the dating market personally .....

i am pp with the post that said earlier:

Fed yes

Biglaw no.

because that's been my experience. I've dated a few DOJ attorney women (in CRT - various sections...all joined via doj honors program, no ex biglaw)

I have gone out with more biglaw bitches because of the sheer numbers but the doj ladies were WAY better to date and pursue. More attractive, more grounded, they worked at doj because of the mission and hence were just happier. the big law bitches are boring and grumpy.

you cannot compare the dating attractiveness of DOJ ladies to BLB's.

[Anonymous]

Yes.
Besides the fact that every other profile is an attorney?
Materialistic
Argumentative
Stands on her edu/career
No personality
Usually looking to be a power couple to show off to friends
Rarely has kids

[Anonymous]

I agree with the PP above my post. They are generally stuffy, and obsessed with education and intelligence, which isn't that important to most guys. And they will likely only date guys with status. Women who prioritize their career are horrible to date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really depends on the guy. Older guys in their 50s (my demographic) do seem threatened by my career success. It's all fine and good in theory until they pull up in front of your multi-million dollar house. Doesn't seem to matter if they are blue collar or not. I think younger guys may think it is cool when a woman outearns them. In a way, lawyers and kind of stuck having to date other lawyers in this town.

I don't have a multi-million dollar house, but I agree with this. Fine in theory, not in practice.

I also agree that while career success may be a sought-after attribute by some women, it is not for men and has more potential to be a drawback/negative for various reasons (availability, out-earning, etc.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PP above my post. They are generally stuffy, and obsessed with education and intelligence, which isn't that important to most guys. And they will likely only date guys with status. Women who prioritize their career are horrible to date.

Can we agree that men that prioritize their career are horrible to date or is this a double standard?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PP above my post. They are generally stuffy, and obsessed with education and intelligence, which isn't that important to most guys. And they will likely only date guys with status. Women who prioritize their career are horrible to date.

Can we agree that men that prioritize their career are horrible to date or is this a double standard?

You can only make that statement when a majority of your sisters don't pine for providers

Revealed preference is everything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really depends on the guy. Older guys in their 50s (my demographic) do seem threatened by my career success. It's all fine and good in theory until they pull up in front of your multi-million dollar house. Doesn't seem to matter if they are blue collar or not. I think younger guys may think it is cool when a woman outearns them. In a way, lawyers and kind of stuck having to date other lawyers in this town.

I'm not threatened at all by a women with money, as long as she has done something positive with her life (no idle rich).

The only thing about money that turns me off is when a woman brags about how much she took from her ex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

you're supposed to bang the cougar, not marry her. how stupid is this guy?

That's what I say!

[Anonymous]

I dated a few female attorneys. They were smart, ambitious and sexually very aggressive. But I didn't marry one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The women are attractive, interesting, in shape, and fun (when they have time) but the dating market is brutal for them.

Are we supposed to feel sorry for them or something? I feel like I missed the punchline.

[Anonymous]

I'm a male attorney. Have dated many female attorneys. I'm not sure if I could make a blanket generalization about them. Who are these guys who are uncomfortable with women who out earn them? That's craziness.

I also don't buy into the "power couple" thing. That's a very small subset of ultra high achievers. Maybe 10% of attorneys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The women are attractive, interesting, in shape, and fun (when they have time) but the dating market is brutal for them.

Are we supposed to feel sorry for them or something? I feel like I missed the punchline.

"Dating market brutal": you mean they get asked out by actual people instead of Sex in the City characters?