Is being a female attorney the kiss of death for dating?

[Anonymous]

Yes - there's no way to turn off lawyer mode.

[Anonymous]

Meh, aside from being a cliche, NBD

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:HYS female law school grads is the kiss of death for dating.

I know a married one. She did fine.

And she met her husband in DC? Impressive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what? half the women in this town are married attorneys. no--it's not the kiss of death. me and all of my attorney friends are happily married and had no trouble finding husbands.

You're clearly a top-notch attorney with those writing skills. All of my attorney friends and I are happily married . . .

[Anonymous]

I find this to be a really strange question. I've been an attorney for 15 years and been married for 10. I didn't have trouble finding dates before I met DH.

[Anonymous]

Are you looking for a man with a similar background, or are you into blue collar men? I'd say for other lawyers, doctors, and other upper middle class professionals, it's a neutral or positive. Less educated men may find it offputting.

[Anonymous]

In truth, here is why it is so hard.

It has been my experience that female attorneys are generally enormously picky about the education and income of their partners. So they limit themselves to maybe 2 percent of the male population and wonder why it's so difficult to date. Whereas the men who meet your requirements are much more willing to date the general population

If you're willing to open yourself up in terms of who you'd date you'll have no issues.

It is easy to blame the men because you can maintain the fantasy that male insecurities are to blame and your difficulties are the result of principled commitment to self achievement over society's judgment, but it's mostly self-inflicted.

If I only wanted to date instagram butt models and complained that it was too hard, no one would feel bad for me and no one will feel bad for you if you only date men with high educational and career achievement and it's hard to meet them.

[Anonymous]

I should probably clarify that I'm talking about female law firm attorneys. There are a lot of attorneys in other capacities that can dial down their demands.

[Anonymous]

I have quite a few friends who are lawyers; many of them are married. A few are single and seem to do ok in the dating world. A few are single and have a hard time in the dating world. I think it comes down to personality; if you are funny and somewhat easygoing during your downtime, men probably appreciate that. The lawyers I know who are chronically single tend to be kind of strident and demanding; they're also picky about who they date and they reject a lot of potential guys. That isn't exclusive to lawyers.

[Anonymous]

It depends on what they are wearing under their power suits! Granny panties or thongs?

[Anonymous]

Why would it be a turn off that my Biglaw wife is able to support me and our family?

[Anonymous]

Is she hot?
<guy think>

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In truth, here is why it is so hard.

It has been my experience that female attorneys are generally enormously picky about the education and income of their partners. So they limit themselves to maybe 2 percent of the male population and wonder why it's so difficult to date. Whereas the men who meet your requirements are much more willing to date the general population

If you're willing to open yourself up in terms of who you'd date you'll have no issues.

It is easy to blame the men because you can maintain the fantasy that male insecurities are to blame and your difficulties are the result of principled commitment to self achievement over society's judgment, but it's mostly self-inflicted.

If I only wanted to date instagram butt models and complained that it was too hard, no one would feel bad for me and no one will feel bad for you if you only date men with high educational and career achievement and it's hard to meet them.

this

[Anonymous]

As others have mentioned, female attorneys have a reputation for being picky. It's far more likely that you are screening potential men out, rather than the other way around.

[Anonymous]

Lawyers are all trained in due diligence and discovery both painful analytic exercises. Female lawyers often use the same approach when evaluating men. Male lawyers use their penis to guide them, females use their brains.