How to find a guy who will let me be a SAHM
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I do not want to have to struggle as I am trying to raise my children. It is important to me that I can be home with them and give them everything they need and deserve.
I want to marry a man who can be a good provider and is okay with me putting the children first. What should be my game plan? Do engineers make good husbands? |
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Some engineers make good husbands; some don't. Mine didn't want me to be a sahm, but then agreed that it made sense after having two kids and both of us trying to juggle all the time off for kids, etc..
You or the man may end up changing your minds, so I wouldn't 100% bank on anything. That said, just marry a man who is caring, supportive, can cook, clean -- and don't mind doing it, and not afraid of hard work. Everything else will work itself out. |
Anonymous
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So working moms don't put their children first?
Shut up, OP. And grow up, too. |
Anonymous
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To raise good children, you need a good, loving marriage.
Kids don't want a workaholic dad and a helicopter mom who tries to make up for the fact that dad's never home. |
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I wanted the same thing OP when i was in my 20's and early 30's.
Met the person I wanted to marry and for us to live on one income we would have had to stay in a not so nice neighborhood. So we moved and we both work but we both do shift work to be with our kid more. Point being, you can want it all you want but sometimes life just happens and it changes your plan you thought you had. |
Anonymous
| It is called finding a man that makes bank. According to where you live it better be at least a 6 figure and if DC area nothing less than 250 and living in suburbs and using public schools. Private school and that number has to go up substantially for each kid. Engineers are good but make sure it is like a software engineer or petroleum engineer who make on high than others. They may also need to move into management if you want the big bucks to come and you should be hanging out in front of Google, Facebook or Microsoft buildings so you can get some of that stock. |
Anonymous
| Get really good at oral sex |
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They are gone from home a long time. When they are home, they bore you to tears with train stories but they do wear really cool hats. |
Anonymous
OP seems either very young/immature or tragically shallow. |
Anonymous
What about chemical engineers? |
Anonymous
| You really don't know what you want until you have kids and neither does your future husband. Ma |
Anonymous
AND give frequent BJs AND give it up pretty much every night. otherwise you are SOL. if that doesn't appeal to you, then of course, you an go back to living under the bridge with the other trolls. |
Anonymous
| So you need a guy with money. What do YOU bring to the table, exactly? |
Anonymous
| Careful, I'm sure that's what Melania was going for and now look. |
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Looking back, it doesn't matter if you work or not. You have a 50/50 chance of raising kids right.
Don't marry a beta male. From posts on here they are lazy, selfish, misers that expect you to fend for yourself. |