Videotaped by Friends Husband w/o my consent or knowledge

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[Post New]03/31/2015 12:52
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Anonymous
Am I the only one who thinks this is not the huge major deal she makes it out to be?
[Post New]03/31/2015 13:02
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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks this is not the huge major deal she makes it out to be?


I am one who believes half the stuff posted on this site is over the top - people who come here looking for advice on stupid stuff and people who appear not to know how to do basic parenting. Then, there are those who vent other stupid stuff.
But, this situation would absolutely infuriate me. It is a huge violation of privacy, not to mention quite sick.
I personally think it is a big deal. I hope the OP goes to the police.
[Post New]03/31/2015 13:38
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks this is not the huge major deal she makes it out to be?


I am one who believes half the stuff posted on this site is over the top - people who come here looking for advice on stupid stuff and people who appear not to know how to do basic parenting. Then, there are those who vent other stupid stuff.
But, this situation would absolutely infuriate me. It is a huge violation of privacy, not to mention quite sick.
I personally think it is a big deal. I hope the OP goes to the police.


Yes. Agree 100%
[Post New]03/31/2015 13:45
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Anonymous
OP here. So, I called the PD of the jurisdiction in which the filming took place. The case officer basically punted me, b/c I cannot come in to give a sworn, formal statement- this took place several states and a plane ride away. I was told to call the local LE up here and file a compliant.

Now I think nothing is going to happen... and the husband gets away with this.
[Post New]03/31/2015 13:55
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Anonymous wrote:OP here. So, I called the PD of the jurisdiction in which the filming took place. The case officer basically punted me, b/c I cannot come in to give a sworn, formal statement- this took place several states and a plane ride away. I was told to call the local LE up here and file a compliant.

Now I think nothing is going to happen... and the husband gets away with this.


I don't know if that is true, he may get away without a legal punishment but you can certainly file a complaint, where you are and where he is, send a statement. As you know he is already affected by this since he got caught and is being divorced. You can send a statement with your friend during divorce proceedings and that will affect him, if just to the extend that he's outed again
[Post New]03/31/2015 14:12
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here. So, I called the PD of the jurisdiction in which the filming took place. The case officer basically punted me, b/c I cannot come in to give a sworn, formal statement- this took place several states and a plane ride away. I was told to call the local LE up here and file a compliant.

Now I think nothing is going to happen... and the husband gets away with this.


Oh, no way is that okay.

I was going to chime in to say that whatever you decide to do, please do file a police report -- if this kind of thing is happening to women, it's important that the police know about it so that they can continue to ensure resources are put toward prevention and eradication of this.

Are you in DC? They are apparently now very very good in handling sexual harassment cases, so if you're here, you might give them a call. I would also think about going back again to the original police district and trying to escalate this up the chain.
[Post New]03/31/2015 14:32
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Anonymous
Sadly, the police usually try to get victims to go away and stop pursuing. Btdt. If you're poor and/or female, it's worse.
[Post New]03/31/2015 16:29
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Anonymous
I think it's a big deal and I'd file a report.

I'd also be PISSED your friend deleted the evidence. WTH???
[Post New]03/31/2015 16:32
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Anonymous
Polish up your husband's baseball bat and take a trip.
[Post New]03/31/2015 16:36
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks this is not the huge major deal she makes it out to be?


Yes. Someone taping you without your consent is a horrible violation of privacy and should not be allowed to stand.
[Post New]03/31/2015 16:59
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OP here- Called the local LE here for my County. Officer I spoke to was nice, but told me when the PD come out to my home this evening to take my statement, that the officers may not be willing to take my statement since it did not occur within the jurisdition.....

Am thinking of going back to the jurisidiction where the incident occurred and writing the cheif of police that I am ready to to go to the media that the PD he oversees refused to take a statement from a pregnant woman about a crime that occurred in their jurisdiction while she was visiting the area just because she does not live in the local area and cannot come in physically to make a sworn statement... maybe that will result in some action.
[Post New]03/31/2015 17:23
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OP stop with the poor me I'm pregnant nonsense already. This has nothing to do w/ you being pregnant and every time you bring it up you sound really stupid. He didn't film you because you're pregnant. You didn't get pregnant because he filmed you. They have nothing to do with each other. Every time you mention you're pregnant, you minimize the heinousness of crimes against women who aren't pregnant...it's like saying well, this is only bad because I have a bun in the oven, but if I weren't pregnant it would be no big deal. Either he committed a crime against you or he didn't. That's all that matters.
[Post New]03/31/2015 17:43
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Anonymous

Glad you contacted your local county law enforcement. Even if they can't take a statement, they should be able to provide you with information on how to proceed, so don't let them leave without giving you guidance on who else you can contact in the state where this occurred. Like the PP said, move it up the chain of command until you get some action.

[Post New]03/31/2015 17:45
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MommaRN
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Anonymous wrote:OP here. My friend told her husband in the past few hours that she found the video of me on his computer and sent it to me to do as I please. Which isn't true and I wish she had not done that. So now the POS Husband now is texting me and trying to explain things. My husband and I of course have now blocked his number and his Facebook. But this is seriously upsetting to me and stressing me out- not good when I'm pregnant.


And how in the world does he "explain" something like that?!
[Post New]03/31/2015 17:54
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Anonymous wrote:OP stop with the poor me I'm pregnant nonsense already. This has nothing to do w/ you being pregnant and every time you bring it up you sound really stupid. He didn't film you because you're pregnant. You didn't get pregnant because he filmed you. They have nothing to do with each other. Every time you mention you're pregnant, you minimize the heinousness of crimes against women who aren't pregnant...it's like saying well, this is only bad because I have a bun in the oven, but if I weren't pregnant it would be no big deal. Either he committed a crime against you or he didn't. That's all that matters.


The OP is pregnant and was secretly filmed while undressing and in her pregnant state. This is quite alarming and having to deal with law enforcement procedures could certainly cause her to have a stressful pregnancy. She hardly sounds stupid.
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