Videotaped by Friends Husband w/o my consent or knowledge

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So sorry you are going through this. Get a lawyer and contact the FBI and let them know that this guy is videotaping without consent. Sounds callous but focus on yourself here and not your friend. You may want to talk to a therapist about this violation against your person. I'm sure you are feeling pretty freaked out.

Seriously this is bigger than I am sure this POS guy expects and he can do jail time.

This is probably not in the FBI's jurisdiction. Contact local police to file a report.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

It is "involuntary porn" and you'll want to contact the FBI.

[Anonymous]

I'd say first and foremost, think about your health and your baby. I don't think you need to flip out and immediately do anything. Take your time to think about it for your own peace of mind. Yes, he's a POS, and it's good your friend is divorcing him, but even if it's not really deleted, if there is no way to identify you, what are the chances it's going to turn up again? If he has any brains, he will not post it anywhere. I agree you should probably get counseling about it and mull over what you need to do. Do some research and decide what to do next.

[Anonymous]

Apparently it's very clearly me in the video- you see my face.

[Anonymous]

^OP here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My friend told her husband in the past few hours that she found the video of me on his computer and sent it to me to do as I please. Which isn't true and I wish she had not done that. So now the POS Husband now is texting me and trying to explain things. My husband and I of course have now blocked his number and his Facebook. But this is seriously upsetting to me and stressing me out- not good when I'm pregnant.

1) your friend lied to her husband about having the video and has escalated this situation twice (once by telling you)

2) your friend deleted the evidence and apparently can't recover it. She found it in his porn file of which she was snooping and going video by video until she found you...what was she looking for? Porn is porn...she was looking for something

3) why was an iPad setup in the guest room?

4) why did your friend let her husband leave w/ the computer on a business trip?

This story doesn't add up - the friend is both Sherlock and Magoo...

I'd say either she's trying to line up character witnesses for a divorce or this is a troll post.

[Anonymous]

Where I live, that kind of criminal behavior gets you prison time.

[Anonymous]

Please report this to the police *BEFORE* he gets home; you do not want him to be able to get his hands on that computer. The police can get a warrant to search the house and confiscate the computer. Once they have the computer, a decent computer tech/admin can retrieve the deleted file as long as the sectors have not been written over (unlikely unless there is a LOT of data written to the disk in a short amount of time). Then the computer video can be used to prosecute him.

[Anonymous]

OP here. My friend forwarded an email her soon to be ex sent her after he tried to reach me to "explain things". In the email, he basically states to having videotaped me on his cell phone, though by "accident". So says the man who never has his phone out of his possession except when he is in the pool or taking a shower.
He apparently is turning around and returning home as we speak. I assume to try to destroy any evidence. From what I understand, he has no laptop and only works off his cell phone and iPad; not sure if/how he can wipe those clean, especially since I assume now that, knowing this, he retains everything on the cloud.
My husband is insisting I file a police report, and I most likely will later today, to keep the peace in my home. But my gut tells me there is likely to be little the police can do at this point, especially if the video is gone, which, I guess, is probably the best I can hope for at this point.
Really wish my friend had kept quiet to her husband about what she found, but I can't fault her either. She's not in the best emotional state right now, as she has learned other damaging details about her husband this week- unknown credit card debt, withdrawals from savings accounts, not paying for his kids medical bills, etc.
Sigh. Can't sleep. And yesterday started as such a happy day; DH and I finally got to hear our baby's heartbeat, and FTS went well....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My friend forwarded an email her soon to be ex sent her after he tried to reach me to "explain things". In the email, he basically states to having videotaped me on his cell phone, though by "accident". So says the man who never has his phone out of his possession except when he is in the pool or taking a shower.
He apparently is turning around and returning home as we speak. I assume to try to destroy any evidence. From what I understand, he has no laptop and only works off his cell phone and iPad; not sure if/how he can wipe those clean, especially since I assume now that, knowing this, he retains everything on the cloud.
My husband is insisting I file a police report, and I most likely will later today, to keep the peace in my home. But my gut tells me there is likely to be little the police can do at this point, especially if the video is gone, which, I guess, is probably the best I can hope for at this point.
Really wish my friend had kept quiet to her husband about what she found, but I can't fault her either. She's not in the best emotional state right now, as she has learned other damaging details about her husband this week- unknown credit card debt, withdrawals from savings accounts, not paying for his kids medical bills, etc.
Sigh. Can't sleep. And yesterday started as such a happy day; DH and I finally got to hear our baby's heartbeat, and FTS went well....

Why isn't your husband calling/emailing this jackass? If this happened to my wife, the dude would be talking to me, not my wife.

[Anonymous]

OP here. He wants to; I asked him not to. If we were to pursue legal action, I didn't want to give the POS the upper hand by giving away that we knew. Of course, this was before my friend let the cat out of the bag to her husband...

[Anonymous]

OP, your friend is playing into the drama, I hate to say this, but you need to distance yourself from her too.
I know she is in a B's situation, but letting the husband come home, playing games about how she sent you the video when she didn't, and now forwarding email to you means she is going to be fighting with him, contacting you, all day today and all week with more drama.
You said in your OP things were so bad with then they were divorcing, but clearly they are not.
No husband of mine would be coming anywhere near me, much less getting any contact from me and going back and forth, if he videotaped my friends in my home.
You need to
1. Go to the police
2. Tell your friend, nicely, that you are taking a break from her

[Anonymous]

B's meant to be bad

[Anonymous]

Don't wait until later today!! Do it now before he can destroy the evidence. Make sure you have forwarded that email to another account.

The husband could always claim the wife sent the email from his account. You need to file a report now.