What to tell child who is product of an affair?

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[Post New]01/26/2013 15:03
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:But OP what about the confidentiality agreement? Also, what about international travel? You will need papers if you drive to Canada or Mexico, or fly to a number of countries, including these two and perhaps Costa Rica, too. My friend is a widow and she was asked to she her child's father's death certificate at one U.S. border.


Not OP, but there is not an issue if he's not on the birth certificate. Carry a birth certificate with the passport. No father listed, no issue. But surely he would happily sign a travel permission slip. The further away the better, right?
[Post New]01/26/2013 15:53
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Anonymous
OP,

Did you come here at one point when you first realized you were pregnant and ask what you should do?
[Post New]01/26/2013 16:23
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Anonymous
No, that was not me. I do recall reading some posts by someone in a similar situation but haven't been able to find them again.
[Post New]01/26/2013 16:35
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP has said that the father of this child is a well known politician, he offered her a quarter of a million dollars to abort and she refused. Now this "well known" politician had her sign a confidentiality agreement? If he has given her no money or he offered and she refused then why the agreement. There is no way he could force her to keep confidential the fact that he is the father, she has DNA result proving he is, unless money changed hands. People, use your heads, it is Big Troll. Maybe it's octotroll but no doubt it's a troll!!!!!

I don't think she ever said he was well known, btw.
[Post New]01/26/2013 16:36
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:But OP what about the confidentiality agreement? Also, what about international travel? You will need papers if you drive to Canada or Mexico, or fly to a number of countries, including these two and perhaps Costa Rica, too. My friend is a widow and she was asked to she her child's father's death certificate at one U.S. border.
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But she can take the birth certificate, where there is no father listed, which proves there's no father to get permission from. Moot point.
[Post New]01/26/2013 16:43
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Anonymous
Why go halfway? My mother was the product of an affair....private school thru college.
[Post New]01/26/2013 17:29
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:fuck the pol-s and fuck his confidentiality agreement. get a friend to leak it


Leak it right here!!
[Post New]01/26/2013 17:58
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Anonymous
Op has avoided the financial/support issues. She only wants advice about what o tell the child.

Clearly, if she signed a confidentiality agreement, she was compensated for doing so. If not, she is not at all intelligent.
[Post New]01/26/2013 21:01
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Why go halfway? My mother was the product of an affair....private school thru college.

?
[Post New]01/27/2013 14:37
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petterpam
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There's no easy way to say that to a child, but telling the truth is the most effective way, it may be painful but you have to go through that situation. Anyway, there's always a consequence in everything we do.
[Post New]01/27/2013 15:22
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Anonymous wrote:Jesus, give the woman some advice or step aside. So many judgmental people on this board.


I agree that many of the comments are excessively harsh. Still, too many people think they can go through life making terrible choices without concern for others. Guess what? They'll be judged for it. Along with wanting our children to live good, honorable lives, that's one reason it's important to teach them the values of decency, kindness, morality, concern for others, etc.
[Post New]01/27/2013 15:28
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Anonymous
Love
Your child was conceived in Love
[Post New]01/27/2013 15:43
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Love
Your child was conceived in Love


This "love child" was conceived in her imagination and only exists there.
[Post New]01/27/2013 18:16
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Love
Your child was conceived in Love


This "love child" was conceived in her imagination and only exists there.

[Post New]01/27/2013 19:15
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:fuck the pol-s and fuck his confidentiality agreement. get a friend to leak it


Yeah, take the high road

This is not about OP (who literally made her bed)

This is about her child. I just don't think that knowing that you are some bastard whose dad isn't interested in you is a self esteem booster. Can't you just say you don't know?
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