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Anonymous wrote:I dont have kids yet but OP- I commend you on even thinking about this. Many parents with babies do not care and when they bring their chld to very nice places they also do not care how they behave.

My DH and I eat at really nice places like Mortons, Bourbon Steak, etc. Personally, I do not think it is appropriate to bring a baby to those places but I have seen it done. I caution you that as soon as the baby makes a sound please to go outside. Most people going to these places do not want to hear a crying baby and I am not saying this to be rude its just the way it is. I also would not want to hear someone talking on their cell phone. Hope this helps!

Get back to us when you have kids.

Why I said nothing wrong. I'm not a mean poster or judgmental like you. Have a great day!

Sheesh. I think it's good that the OP gets feedback from non-parents. I mean, she IS going to be sitting in a restaurant with people that may or may not be parents.

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cuzimawesome wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think its tacky if you are so wrapped up in yourself that you can't take 5 minutes to listen about what little Suzie did the other day.

Annnnnnnd another example of twisting things. Nobody said that they absolutely don't want to listen to anything their friends say about their kids. It's only when their children become THE topic of conversation almost all of the time. I have no problem listening to my friends talk about what Suzie did the other day... it's when the parent makes her a consant topic... and especially those parents that try to one-up other parents all the time. Of course I love hearing about my friends kids, but people need to understand that that's not ALL I want to hear about. It's very simple, really.

Well...I don't think I was twisting anything. There are posters who wrote that they don't want to hear about my kids. Ever.

Oh. That. Yeah, peeps can get a little passionate and weird about these things.

Anonymous wrote:I think its tacky if you are so wrapped up in yourself that you can't take 5 minutes to listen about what little Suzie did the other day.

Annnnnnnd another example of twisting things. Nobody said that they absolutely don't want to listen to anything their friends say about their kids. It's only when their children become THE topic of conversation almost all of the time. I have no problem listening to my friends talk about what Suzie did the other day... it's when the parent makes her a consant topic... and especially those parents that try to one-up other parents all the time. Of course I love hearing about my friends kids, but people need to understand that that's not ALL I want to hear about. It's very simple, really.

Anonymous wrote:All you people who dont care about your friends' kids and who think no one cares about your kids are leading very sad lives.

I love to hear about my friends kids and are happy to hear them brag about them bc I know they are proud. They are happy for me to do the same. Sometimes we ever brag about each other's kids. Its called friendship and sharing joy and pride in each other is a huge part of that.

Being nasty on a message board is tacky. Talking about your kids is not.

This is typical DCUM logic twisting to the extreme.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's bad necessarily.. But I just think that other people get tired of hearing all about how wonderful little Bobby is.. I know that if all someone talks about, is their children, than yes.. it gets annoying.. Or if in talking up your kid, you're implying that your kid is so much better than all the others, that's really off putting also. Other than that, I personally think it's fine.

Yes. This. It's perfectly natural to be proud of your kid. If he/she has accomplished something like coming in first place at the swim meet, then of course I don't blame the parents for wanting to say something. On the other hand, when parents think their child is the greatest living being of all time, and brags about every little thing he/she does and brags about how amazing, cute, wonderful, talented, intelligent, funny, compassionate that child is.... well... that gets really old, really fast.

It just really bugs me when parents talk about their kids ALL the time. Do these parents have their own lives and interests besides their children?

Heh. I gained 60 pounds during my first two pregnancies... each time. I lost the weight within a year postpartum and got down to about 125... and that was for each pregnancy.

For my third pregnancy, I gained 40 pounds and I'm six months postpartum. I've lost 30 pounds... 10 more to go!

Anonymous wrote:1. 5'4", 120 pounds. Explanation is what having multiple kids in your late 30s does to your body; I'm now mid 40s, desk job, no exercise to speak of, which makes it hard to get down to 110 or under.
2&3. We are both lawyers. He makes about $350K. You don't seem to care what I make, so I won't tell you.
4. If forced to classify ourselves, we would say we are extremely fortunate but not filthy rich
5. Grievance: Your theory assumes successful men only want a certain type of wife. My husband could certainly find a different type of wife, but he chose me.
6 & 7. JD/JD

Ha. I sincerely hope this is a joke.

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cuzimawesome wrote:Man. There are some mean ass bitches in this area.

Oh please. Meanness is not geographically limited.

What?! I thought mean people only lived here!! Shit. You mean there's mean ass bitches elsewhere? Daaaaaaaaaamn.

It really all depends on when your child starts to get sleepy. If he's happy going to bed at 7, just keep it that way for now. If he starts having more trouble falling asleep at 7, then maybe it's time to move the bedtime. But start in increments. Move it to 7:15 for a few days... then 7:30 and so on.

My daughter went to sleep at 6:30 in the evening until she was 3. I know that's super early, but that's when she was tired. And she would sleep all night until 7AM. Man, those were the days. I eventually moved her bedtime over the course of a few years. When she was four, it was 7PM. When she was five, it was 7:30. And now at six years old, she goes to bed at 8.

Just do what works best for him... and you!

I breastfed and formula fed my first. He was never sick. I exclusively BF my second. She was sick ALL the time. Tons of ear infections. I'm now formula feeding my six mo. old, and he's had the sniffles once. Hopefully he won't have to deal with anything major.

A baby can get sick regardless of what they're fed. You did what you could! You sound like an awesome mama. Your baby will be just fine!

And for what it's worth, my husband was exclusively formula fed, and that man is freakin' smart! He's like an encyclopedia of information. So yeah. I know it's hard, but try not to worry.

Man. There are some mean ass bitches in this area.

Let him pee behind a tree or a bush that is far enough away from the park for privacy and to not cause a disturbance to others. If there is no tree or bush far enough (like say at an urban park), then you'll have to get creative. It's really not that difficult to figure out. Is there a nearby coffee shop? Go to your car and have him pee into a water bottle if you have one handy (which if you do, use that before you decide to have him pee behind a tree).

All you need is a little common sense.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok last time now...do you think it is ok for someone to be talking on a cell phone in a crowded restaurant. You do not think that is ride to others...I know you do not care, but you do not think to other patrons that is rude?

Obviously there are people that find it rude. You included. But anybody can do a number of things that may or may not offend people. So there are people who think it's rude and people who don't. Does that mean that everybody should appease the people who find it rude? If that is the case, then the people who don't like it have the sense of entitlement.

Ok fair enough. But all I am saying is that if you do not get bothered by it then thats great. But a vast majority of people who go out do not like to hear people on cell phones. It used to be an unspoken rule that you did not answer them in restaurants, movies, and other places people are trying to enjoy, so it should not be that much to ask for someone to step outside in a public area (hell it could be the restroom) so that it is not in someones ear or bothersome. Its a simple thing. That is all I am trying to convey, if we all try to respect others more, then everyone around us becomes more positive.

I hear ya. But I think it really all depends on the context. If I walked into a restaurant in the late afternoon and was seated next to a family where one of the parents had to return a medically related phone call... it just wouldn't bother me. At all. But if myself and my family were sitting in a restaurant and we were seated next to someone who was talking very loudly on their phone and using all kinds of profanity and talking about how they got fucking wasted last night... I would not be happy.

It really just depends. And I agree. We do need to respect others more. But I did not find the OPs situation offensive. At least not offensive enough to post on DCUM. But that is my opinion. And I realize people may think differently.

And thank you for your civility. It was way cool.

Anonymous wrote:Ok last time now...do you think it is ok for someone to be talking on a cell phone in a crowded restaurant. You do not think that is ride to others...I know you do not care, but you do not think to other patrons that is rude?

Obviously there are people that find it rude. You included. But anybody can do a number of things that may or may not offend people. So there are people who think it's rude and people who don't. Does that mean that everybody should appease the people who find it rude? If that is the case, then the people who don't like it have the sense of entitlement.

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cuzimawesome wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Clueless. Many here are proud to be clueless, Op have you noticed? I have had people next to me (I moved like you did) speaking loudly about so and so's cancer from start to finish, gory details seemingly enhanced. I have personal reasons for NOT paying to tolerate this. You did the right thing. Entitled ones be damned. Especially if the entitled one is a doctor who should know better.

Wait a minute! Who are you to decide what other people are allowed to talk about in public? You're the entitled one, "entitled ones be damned".

DH's friend has terminal cancer and is given a year, if that, to live, but for now, he feels okay and tries to go out, even for a short period of time. We met with him for lunch the other day, the restaurant was crowded, and yes, he was talking about his chemo, and his fatigue, and his hospitalizations, and guess what? We didn't give a crap if you overheard!

Yes. This exactly. My husband came across this thread last night and he scoffed and was blown away by the insanity of this thread. The OPs complaint was without warrant, as it was a practically empty restaurant in the afternoon.

People are allowed to talk in public. Doctor's are allowed to go to restaurants. They also are allowed to take calls. Even if it's an inconvenience to you. Sick people should be able to have a conversation about their illness in public without people judging them for doing so. Anyone who thinks otherwise has a sense of entitlement. It's very simple.

So if the restaurant had more people in it are you saying it would be ok to be disrespectful and talk on your phone while many people wanted to enjoy dinner together? Reagardless of the convo, frankly I do not care what she was talking about...I find talking on a cell phone in a restaurant (not public outside area) rude unless you are the only person there.

And that is your opinion. Somebody talking on a cell phone doesn't bother me.

You did not answer my question. So just because it does not bother you...you cannot see how its annoying to people who go out to enjoy each others company and all they hear is someone gabbing on their phone?

I did answer your question.