Anonymous wrote:

khawthorne wrote:With the utmost respect for all opinions here: A place where parents are not allowed to stay and where there is no policy that parents are required to stay is not a low-key drop off situation IMHO. Or perhaps what we are discovering here is that it shouldn't be and this facility needs to re-evaluate it's practices.

I'm confused as to what you mean. A place where parents aren't allowed to stay in the classroom with the child, and where there is no requirement that parents stay in the building, is by my definition a drop-off place.

By "low key" I just mean, they don't seem to have rigorous policies for making sure each child gets picked up by the correct adult. They don't know the children and the parents, they don't have wristbands on each child, they don't have a sign out sheet, they don't require a note if a different adult will pick up the child than usual. (I"m assuming those things are not occurring based on OP's description.) That's "low key" to me.

Sure, I absolutely agree with what you are saying. What I should have typed is "shouldn't be" a low-key drop off situation. They SHOULD have rigorous policies if they aren't going to allow parents to stay or have a policy for them to stay.

With the utmost respect for all opinions here: A place where parents are not allowed to stay and where there is no policy that parents are required to stay is not a low-key drop off situation IMHO. Or perhaps what we are discovering here is that it shouldn't be and this facility needs to re-evaluate it's practices.

OP, you have every right to be upset. Whether or not you shoulda', coulda', woulda' stayed has NOTHING to do with this.
As a parent of 18 years, a foster mother of 5 years and a daycare provider of 17 years I am saying HUGS to you and you do what you think needs to be done to address this. I agree with taking it higher up.

22 VAC 40-110-990. Infant feedings.
Infants shall be fed on demand unless parents provide other written instructions. Infants who cannot hold their own bottles shall be picked up and held when fed. Bottles shall not be propped.

http://www.dss.virginia.gov/files/division/licensing/licensed_child_care/fdh/regulations_code/applicable_regulations/032-05-518-8.pdf

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All I can really pass on is again, my experience as a home day care provider and a Mom who has had kids in both a center and home day care.

Providers in this area usually take 10 paid Holidays, that include the major ones like Thanksgiving/Christmas. She might want to choose from when her DH is off or her kids are off school. For example, my husband does not get every government holiday because he is not government, so I went with the school holidays for my kids.
As a provider I also take 2 weeks of vacation per year, but those are unpaid.
As far as sick days, if the kids are sick in my care, they HAVE to stay home. As far as if she is sick or her kids are sick, that's tough in your situation. I think you guys might end up agreeing to play it by ear. If I were you I'd have a back up person lined up for this in case it's needed.

Anonymous wrote:

khawthorne wrote:Hi,
khawthorne here, after looking at it again I'd say:

$230-$295 per week for the 3 year old because the 3 year old will be there almost full time.

$145-$170 for the 6 year old for before and after school, per week. But wait you are saying the 6 year old is only after school so I'd 1/2 that figure. $72.50-$85 for the 6 year old per week.

Hope that helps. I'm just going off of what the cheapest and most expensive centers near me in Fairfax are charging.

I have the break down here because I do in home daycare and I did some research. So I have a handy chart here.

How your children are cared for is such a personal thing. I would not compare any daycare with the care provided by a friend and a teacher who you already know and trust.
OP, ask HER what she'd like to charge. You want her to earn enough to make it worth her while. Otherwise you'll be her charity, OR she'll soon quit when she sees how much work it is.

Oh, I totally agree! Just trying to help with a point of reference for the OP.

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Hi,
khawthorne here, after looking at it again I'd say:

$230-$295 per week for the 3 year old because the 3 year old will be there almost full time.

$145-$170 for the 6 year old for before and after school, per week. But wait you are saying the 6 year old is only after school so I'd 1/2 that figure. $72.50-$85 for the 6 year old per week.

Hope that helps. I'm just going off of what the cheapest and most expensive centers near me in Fairfax are charging.

I have the break down here because I do in home daycare and I did some research. So I have a handy chart here.

What line of work is hubby in?

The cheapest center in our area charges $100/day for that combination of ages. The most expensive charges $175/day. However, since you are talking about full time 3 year old care and part time 6 year old care, I think that's pretty high.
I am in Fairfax. I think $200-$250 for the 3 year old per week. And $10-$15/hour for the 6 year old.

When my DD was born it was sleep on the tummy and tummy only, then 4 years later it was sleep on the back. DD is now 18, DS is now 14.
Because I am CPR and First Aid certified many times over I have to tend to agree with "back to sleep". Sleeping on the tummy is a recipe for making a little tent or bubble if you will of toxic air around baby's nose and mouth, trapped between the mattress and the face.

Are you still having the chest pressure and shortness of breath? How strongly did they urge you to have the CT? Did you call your OB?

I think a 7 year old is probably old enough to sit quietly, however I don't see a problem with bringing a book if it's a bible story sort of book. I enjoyed reading those as a child, I did not enjoy sitting through the service. Do they not have Sunday school for him?