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Anonymous wrote:Did you prepare DC for the appt? One week out casually mention: “Next week you have a doctor’s appt, a spelling test and a birthday party. Busy week!” Day before: “Tomorrow is your doctor’s appt where they will measure how much you’ve grown and check to make sure you’re healthy.” Day of: “Now we’re heading to your appt and we might have to wait in the waiting room for awhile and you’ll have to be patient and still. Then the doctor will see you and you need to cooperate....” Answer questions along the way honestly (ie “will I get shots?”) and calmly—nonchalantly even—set expectations.
Sometimes it gets exhausting because my kids can latch on to new info and bring it up constantly, asking me to repeat details I’ve already said and other times they just shrug it off but we virtually never have behavior issues if I prep them like this. (When I forget to prep or don’t realize an activity will be anxiety-inducing to a 7 or 3 year old so fail to mention it we get shenanigans.)
These are great suggestions. We tried to do something similar for my 3 year old who had a broken arm earlier this year. For every appointment, I'd cover exactly what was going to happen. He was anxious anyway, but I do think it helped prepare him for what was going to happen.
Anonymous wrote:I truly don’t understand how this is “awkward” for you. Seems like concern trolling to me. Just tell your kids that your friend’s kid is still learning to talk - just like how they are. And you could also point out things that this other child CAN do.
Exactly this.
Here is what I would and wouldn't do, personally.
Hot stone massage - No
Pedicure - No
It would be so nice to do both of these, but they're purely luxury, and they both involve extended time indoors with multiple people, even if everyone is masked.
Dinner out with girlfriends - No
Too much time with no mask and too many people.
Hair salon - Yes
This is similar to a massage in some ways, but I justified it because it feels like more of a necessity than a massage.
I found a solo practitioner so it was just the 2 of us.
If you feel that is too risky, there are stylists who will come to your house and cut your hair outdoors!
House cleaners - Yes
Just leave the house while they're there and leave some windows open.
Overnight getaway for 2 nights - Yes!
Just pick a spot a couple hours from where you are, drive there, and enjoy!
Hot stone massage - No
Pedicure - No
It would be so nice to do both of these, but they're purely luxury, and they both involve extended time indoors with multiple people, even if everyone is masked.
Dinner out with girlfriends - No
Too much time with no mask and too many people.
Hair salon - Yes
This is similar to a massage in some ways, but I justified it because it feels like more of a necessity than a massage.
I found a solo practitioner so it was just the 2 of us.
If you feel that is too risky, there are stylists who will come to your house and cut your hair outdoors!
House cleaners - Yes
Just leave the house while they're there and leave some windows open.
Overnight getaway for 2 nights - Yes!
Just pick a spot a couple hours from where you are, drive there, and enjoy!
I agree OP. That's insanity.
I'm just resigning myself to average kids, I guess.
I'm just resigning myself to average kids, I guess.
Anonymous wrote:Once my infant “shrank” from one appointment to the next.
Same! Except it was his head that shrank
It all comes down to resilience. How do you trust yourself unless you've faced adversity and come out the other side?
I don't know how to instill that into kids though. I'm sure there's a parenting book on how to do it
I don't know how to instill that into kids though. I'm sure there's a parenting book on how to do it
Anonymous wrote:jsmith123 wrote:Anonymous wrote:jsmith123 wrote:Anonymous wrote:huh, an anecdote in the wapo that pushes an agenda which leads directly to increased market share for amazon. im shocked.
What was the amazon connection? I totally missed it.
the owner of the wapo is the founder/ceo/chairman/president/largest shareholder of amazon.
Sorry that part I know. What I'm unsure about is what the article had to do with amazon.com
DP. It could be so construed that continued sheltering at home equals a lot more Amazon ordering. Therefore more profit for Jeff Bezos.
Ahh, got it. Thx.
I had immediate family only and it was great! We still did all the work -- flowers, catering etc. but it was so relaxing and wonderful. No friends were mad because none were invited. Actually I think they were mostly relieved. I got married a bit later and most our friends had young kids and it would have been a long trip.
Anonymous wrote:jsmith123 wrote:Anonymous wrote:huh, an anecdote in the wapo that pushes an agenda which leads directly to increased market share for amazon. im shocked.
What was the amazon connection? I totally missed it.
the owner of the wapo is the founder/ceo/chairman/president/largest shareholder of amazon.
Sorry that part I know. What I'm unsure about is what the article had to do with amazon.com
People are just accustomed to getting online services for free. And there are several "news" services out there that are ad supported or have other financial models.
I wish people would just pay for good journalism. It would probably reduce click bait.
I wish people would just pay for good journalism. It would probably reduce click bait.
Anonymous wrote:huh, an anecdote in the wapo that pushes an agenda which leads directly to increased market share for amazon. im shocked.
What was the amazon connection? I totally missed it.
I read that last night and really felt for him. I have been wondering how the people are coping who took risks and ended up unintentionally part of an outbreak that ended in knowing people who died. It's gotta be devastating.
OP if she's not exposed to these things on a regular basis, or taught them, then she's not behind.
When my DS was a little over 2, I had the (mis)fortune of sitting next to a proud grandma on a plane who told me all about how her 20 month grandson old knew all his shapes and letters etc.
I got off that flight feeling like I had a dumb child, but my husband pointed out that we just don't work on that stuff with him. Also, my DS could name all the Paw Patrol characters and their vehicles, plus their little catch phrases. So it wasn't like he couldn't retain information, just not information that parents typically brag that their kids know...
He's 3 now and in preschool and now knows all the colors, letters, is working on sounds etc.
When my DS was a little over 2, I had the (mis)fortune of sitting next to a proud grandma on a plane who told me all about how her 20 month grandson old knew all his shapes and letters etc.
I got off that flight feeling like I had a dumb child, but my husband pointed out that we just don't work on that stuff with him. Also, my DS could name all the Paw Patrol characters and their vehicles, plus their little catch phrases. So it wasn't like he couldn't retain information, just not information that parents typically brag that their kids know...
He's 3 now and in preschool and now knows all the colors, letters, is working on sounds etc.
Do a pizza & cupcake picnic at an outdoor spot. Bring some balls and stomp rockets.
We just went to the Reston Garden Center fall festival. There were some animals, bounce houses, a little train ride, face painting, and lots of pumpkins. It's not amazing, but it's small and would be easy to manage for a toddler.