Anonymous wrote:Do you give a sh*t about lying to your spouse, breaking your marriage vows, and being an all-around jack hole?

yes

Anonymous wrote:do you stay in the marriage because of kids? Im assuming you are are man. What would make your marriage better.

for the kids and because i haven't completely given up hope

you assume correctly

i wish i knew

Actually I have 2 questions:

1. If you've had an affair, do you regret it?
2. If you haven't had an affair BUT you've had the opportunity to and turned it down, do you wish you'd had the affair?

For the record I'm married (over 15 years) with children. I've had affairs but I don't want a divorce.

Feel free to ask me anything and I'll do my best to answer.

Anonymous wrote:I want to have a long term affair with one person.

I don't have any prospects.

I'm a woman.

I will update this if my status changes.

For now, everyone else confess your sins.

Any luck?

Married 16 years with 3 kids,

I'd say it's about a 50/50 split.

A few thoughts from a relatively new poster:

OP - Thank you for sharing your story. I appreciate it. I know it's one of the toughest decisions you'll ever have to make. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best.

Also thank you for all of the points and counterpoints that were shared. There were several excellent, thought-provoking comments shared that helped me see my own situation in a different light.

And to all of the haters who've replied with judgmental/hateful comments - why do you intentionally take time to put down people you don't know? If you can't say anything nice...

"At this point, I would like another shot at happiness since I am already 40 and feel that 'time is running out'."

Would you like to meet for a drink after work one day this week?

Carpe diem