A female friend wants to stay single

[Anonymous]

I know a female friend, early 30s, attractive and beautiful, great career, great personalities, great education & lovely family background, and she is fun, lovely, social and have a big friend social. However, she turns down all guys upfront that want to hit on her in any occasion. She just turns down them upfront bluntly and tell them that she is not into dating or looking into any relationship. Some of our common guy friends have feelings for her, she feels it and she is avoiding them as best as she could, like avoid some events when they would be there or so, and only go out in a party of people. From what I hear, she has never dated or having any boyfriend, and she seems wanting to be single forever. I have asked her once if she ever feels lonely, she says no, and she comments that relationship is too complicated for her to handle and she would rather have a bunch of great friendship with girls or guys.

I have my own family with kids, and she is good with kids. I feel it is quite wasteful that she does not give it a try for anything because there are quite many decent and good looking guys with great package among those hits. She does not even try to flirt or give mixed signals to any guys, but she is just like a honey attracting many guys but she rejects them all upfront. She tells them that they could be friends, but no any further. I think she just wants to stay single. Do you have any friend like that?

[Anonymous]

MYOB

MYOB

[Anonymous]

Leave your friend the hell alone and let her live her life. You're her friend (allegedly) -- not her mother.

[Anonymous]

Many, many people are asexual or aromantic. It's normal and should be respected.

[Anonymous]

This woman sounds great. You're a bad friend. Leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

Oh my goodness, it is extremely controlling and condescending to think you know what she wants more than she does. It's her life! Please let her make her own choices with respect.

[Anonymous]

MYOB. She’s either perfectly happy, a head case, or both. If she expresses any concern about getting a partner, then you can say something. But other than that, stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

She's probably a lesbian and not ready to come out. Either way, it's none of your business.

It really costs nothing to mind your own business. She's happy as she is believe her and worry about your own life.

[Anonymous]

A woman living her life how she wants isn't "wasteful". No one is required to get married or have kids if they don't want to.

You're not a very good friend if you're judging her for this.

FWIW, I'm a mom with kids, my best friend is a teacher and loves working with kids but has absolutely no interest in having any of her own. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with her choice.

[Anonymous]

You find it wasteful that she isn’t interested in a family or kids? I hope you don’t have daughters.

[Anonymous]

I'm jealous of her brilliant choices/lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

You think she wants to stay single. So you’re saying you know better than her what she wants?

[Anonymous]

Most of these posts seem to be from the same angry female who thinks it’s not your business to show concern for a good friend. Typical DCUM.

[Anonymous]

MYOB.

I will say though as a single forty five year old woman, it is way easier and more fun to be single before all your friends have kids. Those great friends will go from people she hangs with multiple times a month to friends she sees once or twice a year if she is lucky

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MYOB.

I will say though as a single forty five year old woman, it is way easier and more fun to be single before all your friends have kids. Those great friends will go from people she hangs with multiple times a month to friends she sees once or twice a year if she is lucky

Correct. Never be the last one to leave a party.