A female friend wants to stay single

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Anonymous wrote:I agree that it’s her choice and she should do what she wants. However, a guy making that choice would be crushed on here for having something wrong with him, having tons of baggage, commitment phobic or whatever else. The stigma attached to guys that don’t want to be married is far different than what I hearing here.

Totally disagree. OP's friend isn't even interested in dating. Nobody anywhere ever says men must date and have romantic relationships if they don't want them. You're conflating this situation with a guy who wants to date around, or date one woman long-term but not get married, which I agree many people would have a problem with (and they shouldn't, as long as he's up front about it with partners).

Are you new to this forum? I’ve seen countless times on here that if a guy in his 40s hasn’t been married, it’s a huge red flag. Countless times.

It's a red flag *to a woman he's dating*. Not to the general public. Not to friends.

This woman isn't dating anyone. She doesn't want to. She avoids events if men she knows are interested in her will be there. Completely different scenario.

Not true. The general public has mentioned here many times that it’s a red flag if a guy in his 40s hasn’t been married and have warned people that he must have something wrong with him.

I’m new to this forum but I think it’s a problem if it’s someone who wants to be married or in a relationship. If someone knows they want to be single, more power to them. Maybe OPs friend is asexual, in the closet or has some trauma. Just leave her be.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree that it’s her choice and she should do what she wants. However, a guy making that choice would be crushed on here for having something wrong with him, having tons of baggage, commitment phobic or whatever else. The stigma attached to guys that don’t want to be married is far different than what I hearing here.

Totally disagree. OP's friend isn't even interested in dating. Nobody anywhere ever says men must date and have romantic relationships if they don't want them. You're conflating this situation with a guy who wants to date around, or date one woman long-term but not get married, which I agree many people would have a problem with (and they shouldn't, as long as he's up front about it with partners).

Are you new to this forum? I’ve seen countless times on here that if a guy in his 40s hasn’t been married, it’s a huge red flag. Countless times.

It's a red flag *to a woman he's dating*. Not to the general public. Not to friends.

This woman isn't dating anyone. She doesn't want to. She avoids events if men she knows are interested in her will be there. Completely different scenario.

Not true. The general public has mentioned here many times that it’s a red flag if a guy in his 40s hasn’t been married and have warned people that he must have something wrong with him.

I’m new to this forum but I think it’s a problem if it’s someone who wants to be married or in a relationship. If someone knows they want to be single, more power to them. Maybe OPs friend is asexual, in the closet or has some trauma. Just leave her be.

Its impossible to assess weather every and any guy in their 40s wants to be married or not, however nobody asks that question here when it pertains to guys.
I know it was volunteered in this situation by Op, however there is definitely a double standard as too much baggage etc is always the follow up, on a guy that doesn’t want to be married.

[Anonymous]

She does not want or envy your life at all. Appears she wants the opposite.😁 she sounds smart!

[Anonymous]

With friends like op, who needs enemies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm jealous of her brilliant choices/lifestyle.

This!