A female friend wants to stay single

[Anonymous]

She's figured out what she wants and what works for her. Butt out. Clearly if she changes her mind she will be able to find a guy. But she's not in that space, and may never be. If you want to be a good friend, support her decisions.

[Anonymous]

She wants no drama of sitting with and catering to some asshole that gives her a very hard time. Leave her alone.

Lots of people are happy alone.

Come at me.

[Anonymous]

OP you write like a foreigner so I'm going to say this kindly - women are more than just breeding cows in this age and in this country.

Butt out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of these posts seem to be from the same angry female who thinks it’s not your business to show concern for a good friend. Typical DCUM.

She's not showing concern. She's judging. Friend isn't complaining she isn't attracting men and then not picking up when men are hitting on her, she's clearly expressing she's not interested. How is it "concern" to think friend is "wasting" herself when she's expressing a clear preference.

If friend seemed unhappy or wanted something different, that'd be a concern. But she hasn't expressed she wants anything different and OP speaking up is likely to result in the friend distancing herself from OP.

[Anonymous]

I was like this up until the age of 33, when I realized I had to make a choice of staying single and child-free or getting married. At 30-31, I was totally focused on my career. She may change her mind after a couple years. It was crazy how quickly I found my priorities shifting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm jealous of her brilliant choices/lifestyle.

+1

She has the confidence to live her life how she wants! What is your problem? Stop judging her based on your preferences!

[Anonymous]

She can have kids on her own. butt out.

[Anonymous]

I have friends like this but their parents marriage was not what it seemed.

[Anonymous]

I mean this kindly, but you perhaps don’t fully appreciate that other people think/want/value/prioritize differently than you do. Your friend appears to want a different life than you, which is neither a waste nor a commentary on your choices. Different strokes for different folks, you know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of these posts seem to be from the same angry female who thinks it’s not your business to show concern for a good friend. Typical DCUM.

She's not showing concern. She's judging. Friend isn't complaining she isn't attracting men and then not picking up when men are hitting on her, she's clearly expressing she's not interested. How is it "concern" to think friend is "wasting" herself when she's expressing a clear preference.

If friend seemed unhappy or wanted something different, that'd be a concern. But she hasn't expressed she wants anything different and OP speaking up is likely to result in the friend distancing herself from OP.

Because it is out of the ordinary for a young man or woman not to have any desire to date. It’s not normal behavior for most people. OP is expressing concern. That’s what friends do. And if she is judging, still doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to see her friend happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She can have kids on her own. butt out.

But why should she?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of these posts seem to be from the same angry female who thinks it’s not your business to show concern for a good friend. Typical DCUM.

She's not showing concern. She's judging. Friend isn't complaining she isn't attracting men and then not picking up when men are hitting on her, she's clearly expressing she's not interested. How is it "concern" to think friend is "wasting" herself when she's expressing a clear preference.

If friend seemed unhappy or wanted something different, that'd be a concern. But she hasn't expressed she wants anything different and OP speaking up is likely to result in the friend distancing herself from OP.

Because it is out of the ordinary for a young man or woman not to have any desire to date. It’s not normal behavior for most people. OP is expressing concern. That’s what friends do. And if she is judging, still doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to see her friend happy.

But why the concern? Because everyone needs to be/act/look “normal?”

The friend is happy and fulfilled, so I repeat, why “concern?”

[Anonymous]

OP, you don’t sound like a very good friend. You are judging her choices. Let her be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She wants no drama of sitting with and catering to some asshole that gives her a very hard time. Leave her alone.

Lots of people are happy alone.

Come at me.

You sound like someone that throws their french fries back at the McDonalds cashier and demands they make them over.

[Anonymous]

I pray for the day when women are each other’s worst enemy.