A female friend wants to stay single

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I pray for the day when women are each other’s worst enemy.

*aren’t

This misogynistic trope again. Let me clue you in: we’re not. Outside of message boards, women support each other and lift each other up. We don’t hold each other down at work or humiliate each other at work or in public, we don’t threaten or rape or murder like men do. We don’t create laws to harm ourselves. Stop this nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Yes OP you should MYOB.
While not technically “normal” it is her life, her business.
Frankly if more women around the world had more career options and more self confidence, and if choosing a single life more more culturally accepted, probably many more women would choose this life.
A women like this does not “need” a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is op. Wow, with many hate comments coming at me. I know I should mind my own business but she

but she is not interested in any dating at all which seems to be a bit abnormal. She is not gay, and I am 100% sure. But i know that she was seen as a third wheel or a threat by some females because their significant others (boyfriend, husband, guy they like) hitting on her or commenting nice about her, and she hates all such women drama because she has done nothing. She tells me relationship is a bit too complicated for her to handle because she has seen woman lost themselves, crying over, going through arguments , feeling up and down like roller roaster once they are in a relationship. She wants to be her true self, and I am suspicious that she may have a phobia to go into any dating or relationship because of all these.

I am not judgemental, and I love her so much with her company.

It is not abnormal. She is smarter than most women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I pray for the day when women are each other’s worst enemy.

*aren’t

This misogynistic trope again. Let me clue you in: we’re not. Outside of message boards, women support each other and lift each other up. We don’t hold each other down at work or humiliate each other at work or in public, we don’t threaten or rape or murder like men do. We don’t create laws to harm ourselves. Stop this nonsense.

It's not a misogynistic trope to state the obvious. OP actually posted this on an anonymous message board about her "friend". Imagine the silent judgement as she interacts with her in person. More women voted for the p*ssy grabbing grifter then Hillary Clinton because "they just didn't like her". That isn't a political statement. That's fact. How many women are on the pro-life bandwagon while simultaneously shouting... "my body, my choice" as it relates to the vaccine.

I'm super happy that your experiences with women are supportive and uplifting but let's not pretend that there are many, many more OP's than we would like to admit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I pray for the day when women are each other’s worst enemy.

*aren’t

This misogynistic trope again. Let me clue you in: we’re not. Outside of message boards, women support each other and lift each other up. We don’t hold each other down at work or humiliate each other at work or in public, we don’t threaten or rape or murder like men do. We don’t create laws to harm ourselves. Stop this nonsense.

It's not a misogynistic trope to state the obvious. OP actually posted this on an anonymous message board about her "friend". Imagine the silent judgement as she interacts with her in person. More women voted for the p*ssy grabbing grifter then Hillary Clinton because "they just didn't like her". That isn't a political statement. That's fact. How many women are on the pro-life bandwagon while simultaneously shouting... "my body, my choice" as it relates to the vaccine.

I'm super happy that your experiences with women are supportive and uplifting but let's not pretend that there are many, many more OP's than we would like to admit.

*aren't

[Anonymous]

She is smart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a female friend, early 30s, attractive and beautiful, great career, great personalities, great education & lovely family background, and she is fun, lovely, social and have a big friend social. However, she turns down all guys upfront that want to hit on her in any occasion. She just turns down them upfront bluntly and tell them that she is not into dating or looking into any relationship. Some of our common guy friends have feelings for her, she feels it and she is avoiding them as best as she could, like avoid some events when they would be there or so, and only go out in a party of people. From what I hear, she has never dated or having any boyfriend, and she seems wanting to be single forever. I have asked her once if she ever feels lonely, she says no, and she comments that relationship is too complicated for her to handle and she would rather have a bunch of great friendship with girls or guys.

I have my own family with kids, and she is good with kids. I feel it is quite wasteful that she does not give it a try for anything because there are quite many decent and good looking guys with great package among those hits. She does not even try to flirt or give mixed signals to any guys, but she is just like a honey attracting many guys but she rejects them all upfront. She tells them that they could be friends, but no any further. I think she just wants to stay single. Do you have any friend like that?

If you’re so happily married, how do you know about these men’s “packages”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm jealous of her brilliant choices/lifestyle.

Same here. I followed cultural pressure to get married and have kids, and while my family is great, I could have been happy and done more professionally if I had stayed single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I pray for the day when women are each other’s worst enemy.

*aren’t

This misogynistic trope again. Let me clue you in: we’re not. Outside of message boards, women support each other and lift each other up. We don’t hold each other down at work or humiliate each other at work or in public, we don’t threaten or rape or murder like men do. We don’t create laws to harm ourselves. Stop this nonsense.

you really need to stop believing your own BS. so many studies have demonstrated that women are much harder on fellow women in the workplace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is op. Wow, with many hate comments coming at me. I know I should mind my own business but she

but she is not interested in any dating at all which seems to be a bit abnormal. She is not gay, and I am 100% sure. But i know that she was seen as a third wheel or a threat by some females because their significant others (boyfriend, husband, guy they like) hitting on her or commenting nice about her, and she hates all such women drama because she has done nothing. She tells me relationship is a bit too complicated for her to handle because she has seen woman lost themselves, crying over, going through arguments , feeling up and down like roller roaster once they are in a relationship. She wants to be her true self, and I am suspicious that she may have a phobia to go into any dating or relationship because of all these.

I am not judgemental, and I love her so much with her company.

On on hand, I say you should just take control of your friends' life OP. you know better than she does. you have all the insight into what makes her happy and you know what she needs. so just make it happen and stop trying to explain yourself.

On the other hand, you are a judgmental control freak. Focus on your own life and leave this poor woman alone. Th way you have explained things, you are not a friend.

[Anonymous]

A woman’s life is wasted when there are men who want her to make a family with and she refuses?

Unbelievable that anyone would say that in this day and age.

Women were not put on this earth to fulfill men’s wishes or bear children. We are humans and deserve to be able to freely make all the life choices available to any human - including whether and what kind of intimate relationships to create and whether or not to bear children.

Almost as offensive as the notion that her life is wasted because she is not responding men’s interest or having babies, is some PPs who respond that she must be a lesbian.

Good grief! Progress for women is so painfully slow in this country.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she likes tuna.

[Anonymous]

So she can just... stay single? I don't understand what the problem is, OP. Lots of people don't get married or have kids (and she can still have kids if she wants to, plenty of women do). How is that "wasteful"? What's wasteful is your two-kids-and-a-minvan-in-the-suburbs lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

OP, you either lack imagination or basic empathy if you could not fathom that some women this day and age would chose (and prefer) a very different life path than you and most of your peers do. She's fine with her choice. What's there to discuss?

[Anonymous]

I agree that it’s her choice and she should do what she wants. However, a guy making that choice would be crushed on here for having something wrong with him, having tons of baggage, commitment phobic or whatever else. The stigma attached to guys that don’t want to be married is far different than what I hearing here.