Dating single dad, should I just assume we won't be having sex much?

[Anonymous]

Dating a widowed father with 3 kids. Our dates have been restricted to when grandma babysits and meeting up for lunch, so not very frequent. We haven't slept together yet. I very much want to, and I feel he does too, but there's seems like no time.

[Anonymous]

This feels like he could hire a babysitter and you could invite him to your place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dating a widowed father with 3 kids. Our dates have been restricted to when grandma babysits and meeting up for lunch, so not very frequent. We haven't slept together yet. I very much want to, and I feel he does too, but there's seems like no time.

He’s not that into you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dating a widowed father with 3 kids. Our dates have been restricted to when grandma babysits and meeting up for lunch, so not very frequent. We haven't slept together yet. I very much want to, and I feel he does too, but there's seems like no time.

If he wants it he will make it happen since it is his schedule and obligations that are the issue.

[Anonymous]

OP here. We haven't had sex yet because we both agreed to wait until 3 months and being exclusive. We are a little over 3 months now.

I know he will not hire a babysitter or sleepover at my place because he's only comfortable with family babysitting and he likes to be around for his children's bedtime.

As of now, we have seen each other about twice a week. I'm thinking like in the future it's basically having to choose between having sex quick or going out somewhere? No long lingering evening and overnights, Correct?

[Anonymous]

You’re right, probably not much sex.

My dad was a single father to 3 kids. He only tried dating once when we were still in his house, and it didn’t last very long. He prioritized his kids and wouldn’t give up weekends for her, plus there really wasn’t money for a sitter, she wasn’t okay with that and they split.

His kids need to be his focus right now, not his/your sex life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We haven't had sex yet because we both agreed to wait until 3 months and being exclusive. We are a little over 3 months now.

I know he will not hire a babysitter or sleepover at my place because he's only comfortable with family babysitting and he likes to be around for his children's bedtime.

As of now, we have seen each other about twice a week. I'm thinking like in the future it's basically having to choose between having sex quick or going out somewhere? No long lingering evening and overnights, Correct?

Yup, it’ll be quick. Definitely no overnights.

Sounds like he’s a really good dad. That’s rare to find, most prioritize their d!cks over their kids.

[Anonymous]

Find someone else without kids that is more compatible with your life. Too much obligation and restraints on your schedule. 3 kids will take 99% of his time as it should.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re right, probably not much sex.

My dad was a single father to 3 kids. He only tried dating once when we were still in his house, and it didn’t last very long. He prioritized his kids and wouldn’t give up weekends for her, plus there really wasn’t money for a sitter, she wasn’t okay with that and they split.

His kids need to be his focus right now, not his/your sex life.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

I dated ( and later married) a widowed father with young kids.
As you said sex is quick for the most part, that's just life with kids, much easier now that we are living together. It was really hard when dating.
I did push for and get an overnight though the first time we were together. I was a virgin and I stressed to him that I needed him to be there after to cuddle, and I wanted to wake up next to him the next morning. I didn't want it to be a hurried affair. He made that happen.
So I think you have to communicate your wants and needs, but also be really flexible about what happens when you are together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dated ( and later married) a widowed father with young kids.
As you said sex is quick for the most part, that's just life with kids, much easier now that we are living together. It was really hard when dating.
I did push for and get an overnight though the first time we were together. I was a virgin and I stressed to him that I needed him to be there after to cuddle, and I wanted to wake up next to him the next morning. I didn't want it to be a hurried affair. He made that happen.
So I think you have to communicate your wants and needs, but also be really flexible about what happens when you are together.

You were a virgin dating a single dad with three young kids? Weird.

[Anonymous]

If you don't have kids OP, this is not the guy for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dating a widowed father with 3 kids. Our dates have been restricted to when grandma babysits and meeting up for lunch, so not very frequent. We haven't slept together yet. I very much want to, and I feel he does too, but there's seems like no time.

Wondering if he is still getting over being a widower. Can't be easy with three kids.

[Anonymous]

Op - why are you dating this guy and what do you want from the relationship? I’m also curious as to why you’ve decided to wait 3 months? And be exclusive? Are you both religious? Culturally conservative? Have you had discussions about what you hope for in a romantic / sexual relationship? Have you made out? Heavy petted?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dated ( and later married) a widowed father with young kids.
As you said sex is quick for the most part, that's just life with kids, much easier now that we are living together. It was really hard when dating.
I did push for and get an overnight though the first time we were together. I was a virgin and I stressed to him that I needed him to be there after to cuddle, and I wanted to wake up next to him the next morning. I didn't want it to be a hurried affair. He made that happen.
So I think you have to communicate your wants and needs, but also be really flexible about what happens when you are together.

You were a virgin dating a single dad with three young kids? Weird.

Not that PP but what's weird about it? They clearly liked each other and ended up married. You people have so many arbitrary and silly "rules."