I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are we certain yet that this was all a lie, or is possible that Uncle J couldn't make it to the cabin this weekend and boyfriend SV went alone with something (possibly) happening to him?

But when you put it together from the info in the other thread, how can we believe it is anything but lies? And why did the uncle decline her FB request and not answer the phone when she called repeatedly (unless she kept calling the wrong number, which I frankly think is possible) - but other people were able to get him to answer?

I am tempted to contact the uncle myself just to get some answers.

OP here: I *67 the number so he wouldn't have known it was me. I tried again around 5:30 and it rings once and goes to a answering machine.

[Anonymous]

OP, just send him a link to this thread, and then DELETE HIM FROM YOUR LIFE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, just send him a link to this thread, and then DELETE HIM FROM YOUR LIFE.

Block him from EVERYTHING. You need to take away the temptation to stalk him. I know because I can be like that too. It only hurts you.

[Anonymous]

I do not believe that the sheriff did not call back, so...what did the sheriff say, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm neglecting my child after reading this whole thing all damn day. j/s, sort of

Me too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm neglecting my child after reading this whole thing all damn day. j/s, sort of

I started reading a few hrs ago and my neck is hurting so bad from checking in every few minutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm neglecting my child after reading this whole thing all damn day. j/s, sort of

I was almost late for school pickup because I couldn't stop reading!

[Anonymous]

I had a day off today and had downloaded a book to read on my Kindle. I haven't started the book.

[Anonymous]

How many times did you insist in this thread how out of character this behavior is for him? And then suddenly you act like that other thread was no big deal.

This is completely IN CHARACTER for him. You are willingly continuing to have a relationship with a guy you KNOW lies and cheats and takes advantage of you. You KNOW he doesn't respect you or the time and emotions you have invested in him. You WILL get hurt. You DO NOT have a future with this guy. You DO NOT have a life with this guy.

If you choose to continue in this farce you call a relationship, go in with open eyes and take responsibility. You SHOULD NOT let anyone treat you like this. But if you do, then be prepared for the very obvious consequences.

And after all that, you actually LIED to people (though we may be strangers), who actually were genuinely trying to help you.

It's pretty pathetic. You are at a crossroads now. Continuing in this behavior is shameful, but it is your choice.

[Anonymous]

So has OP posted in this forum about this relationship before? Seems likely

[Anonymous]

Hi op – this is the poster from about 60 pages ago who has been there done that with the "missing boyfriend" scenario. I know that you really don't like to hear this… But you have to let it go. He clearly does not care about your feelings and is avoiding you. I know it sucks to hear that – but the more you call or email or have other people do it for you the worse it is going to be. As I mentioned in my other post - although I know you have the best of intentions, you do not come off looking caring- he really sees it as clingy and too much.

I am not trying to be mean here – like I said I have been where you are and it's horrible. The best thing you can do is erase his phone number, erase any emails or messages from OkCupid where you had his phone number and absolutely do not contact him at all anymore. You don't delete all of that stuff the temptation will be too strong. If he is some type of narcissist he will wonder what happened to you and end up contacting you – be prepared for lots of excuses and lies. Please don't fall for it. This is not the first time he has been this way.


I promise there are lots of people in DC that you can meet online or just at happy hour get your mind off of him! My advice for you tonight – grab some girlfriends go to a half-price wine night and absolutely do not contact him. After that – go on OkCupid or any other dating site and message as many people as you want in this immediate vicinity and set up a few coffee dates for the next few days so you have something to look forward to.

Although right now he sees you as clingy and he is avoiding you, it YOU are the one who dropped off the face of the earth he will eventually wonder why you are trying to contact him anymore and come back to you.

I and not trying to sound mean. I have been where you are. I know you will use the excuse as having so many unanswered questions as to why you will continue to contact him – please don't do it. Cut all ties if he comes back in a week or so- He can explain, but until then be done with him. I know it's hard please follow this advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not believe that the sheriff did not call back, so...what did the sheriff say, OP?

Why would you not believe it? Because cops never lie?

[Anonymous]

OP, it's okay to shut down your computer and cry. Throw something. Be angry. Start healing!

[Anonymous]

I never read the other thread can someone post a link ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many times did you insist in this thread how out of character this behavior is for him? And then suddenly you act like that other thread was no big deal.

This is completely IN CHARACTER for him. You are willingly continuing to have a relationship with a guy you KNOW lies and cheats and takes advantage of you. You KNOW he doesn't respect you or the time and emotions you have invested in him. You WILL get hurt. You DO NOT have a future with this guy. You DO NOT have a life with this guy.

If you choose to continue in this farce you call a relationship, go in with open eyes and take responsibility. You SHOULD NOT let anyone treat you like this. But if you do, then be prepared for the very obvious consequences.

And after all that, you actually LIED to people (though we may be strangers), who actually were genuinely trying to help you.

It's pretty pathetic. You are at a crossroads now. Continuing in this behavior is shameful, but it is your choice.

This is what's killing me.